Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

There are back exits to restaurants btw.

The paranoia is staggering.

As is the laziness. Seriously? Sending an eight year old in to accomplish an errand? If you must do that, at least get out of your car and stand close enough to observe your EIGHT year old 100% of the time she's in the store.

Mommy martyr

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

There are back exits to restaurants btw.

The paranoia is staggering.

As is the laziness. Seriously? Sending an eight year old in to accomplish an errand? If you must do that, at least get out of your car and stand close enough to observe your EIGHT year old 100% of the time she's in the store.

Are you raising a piece of veal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

There are back exits to restaurants btw.

The paranoia is staggering.

As is the laziness. Seriously? Sending an eight year old in to accomplish an errand? If you must do that, at least get out of your car and stand close enough to observe your EIGHT year old 100% of the time she's in the store.

You’re the lazy one. Raise your kid to be independent and confident.

[Anonymous]

I think that is reasonable for most 8 year olds. Unless I had specific reasons to believe it was not a good idea for my 8 year old, I would.

[Anonymous]

Yes. In my opinion 8 is old enough for this.

[Anonymous]

I do it regularly. She orders my drink, sometimes get some a croissant for herself, pays, checks the change, gets the order, and brings it to the car. She likes the feeling of independence and likes to do me the favor. I’m parked right outside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

There are back exits to restaurants btw.

The paranoia is staggering.

As is the laziness. Seriously? Sending an eight year old in to accomplish an errand? If you must do that, at least get out of your car and stand close enough to observe your EIGHT year old 100% of the time she's in the store.

It’s actually significantly lazier to never parent your child and do everything for them because it’s easier in the moment. Teaching your child to do things on their own and develop independence and good judgement is hard. It takes lots of small steps before kids can build up good judgement and become independent adults.

You’re stunting your child’s development with your paranoia.

[Anonymous]

I theoretically would because she could handle it.

But I actually wouldn't because I'm afraid of other parents freaking out and making my family the next cable news debate.

[Anonymous]

This is the OP - for those of you who keep saying I'm
Lazy because I have my child do my errand - I did not order anything for myself. DD wanted munchies and we decided together she would be able to go in and grab them. I didn't have a problem going in but we discussed and we were ready for her to go it alone. We have been together multiple times to this Starbucks - we have even gone in many times to just grab a mobile order so she knew exactly what to do. I wouldn't send her in to get take out as there is more involved there and she isn't ready for that yet. But yes, once we practice that, she will give that a try as well! For the pp who said the child would feel abandoned or pushed or whatever, that's ridiculous. DD and I have a solid relationship and she knows she can rely on me. But I am also teaching her to be strong, street smart and independent.

[Anonymous]

OP I think your DD is lucky to have such a thoughtful parent teaching her independence.

[Anonymous]

When I was eight I rode my bike to school a couple of miles away when the weather was nice. This involved navigating crosswalks, waiting for lights to change, and keeping track of the time to make sure I got to school on time.

As another poster said, land the helicopters. Your kids are capable of a lot more than you realize. And rarely is a perv hanging in Starbucks waiting to snatch unattended 8 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

There are back exits to restaurants btw.

The paranoia is staggering.

As is the laziness. Seriously? Sending an eight year old in to accomplish an errand? If you must do that, at least get out of your car and stand close enough to observe your EIGHT year old 100% of the time she's in the store.

It’s actually significantly lazier to never parent your child and do everything for them because it’s easier in the moment. Teaching your child to do things on their own and develop independence and good judgement is hard. It takes lots of small steps before kids can build up good judgement and become independent adults.

You’re stunting your child’s development with your paranoia.

^Exactly! I always find it ironic when helipopter parents throw out the "lazy" card. It is far easier to just do everything for &/or with your child than it is to teach them the skills necessary to do things independantly.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I started sending my DD in to get mobile orders at 8.

[Anonymous]

I am the parent of an 8 year old. I would be fine with this and my kid would get a kick out of being allowed to be independent.

[Anonymous]

Of course...

I send my 10-year-old into the store to grab a few groceries when her sister falls asleep in the car.

This is why kids go into college without any self care skills.