Wow PP. And I thought I had it bad.... I just had it bad for a short period of time and now I'm fine. Do you mind sharing more of your story? |
Thanks for sharing that, PP. I'm the poster you replied to. I'm only about 4-5 weeks away from giving birth so I need to make my decision and my OBGYN said either is an ok choice based on the size of my baby etc. My choices are however, an induction or a c-section. Induction doesn't seem that appealing to me hence why I think I'm leaning towards as c-section. I, however, don't have the concerns about death and recovery time because my recovery time from from first vaginal birth was long and hard. |
Thanks, PP. I think we should be BFFs. I am another casualty of a well known DC midwifery group. I also have multi organ prolapse, loss of bowel control, and a damaged sex life. I used to be a marathoner but I can't even walk without prolapse pain and discomfort now and I live a very sedentary life. I only know all this stuff now that it's too late for me, but I'll be damned if I let other women continue on in sheer ignorance when they can still educate themselves about the risks before irreparable damage is done. My quality of life sucks now in many of the ways you have described, and I wish daily for my old life back. Those who are battling this decision would be well served to read the work of Dietz and Handa. But no matter what you decide, avoid forceps at all costs. The rate of damage with them--even when used properly--is incredibly high. There are several countries who have stopped using them entirely, but the resurgence in the US is frightening. I love this video, as it explains why and has excellent info. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7V5mcAqItDw I dearly wish I knew this stuff before I had my baby. |
I think my experience was a little unusual in that I had basically NO (productive) reaction to pitocin until they broke my water but by that point I have been on it for 4 non consecutive days and my uterus was DONE. Hence: long third stage. Hence: foreceps. Hence: tearing. So, since I have no reason to think my relationship to pitocin will have evolved, it is just not an option for me. |
NP here. I'm sorry you went through such a traumatic experience. Can I ask, what decisions would you have made differently due to this knowledge? Were there signs or risk factors for these potential issues before you went into labor so that, armed with this knowledge, you could have chosen an elective c/s instead? |
I had horrific tearing with my first. Almost 4th degree. It was brutal. My recovery was slow and painful. But I healed completely.
Had a vaginal birth with my 2nd. Less tearing, though still a slower recovery. I think because I also had a toddler at home. Over all, if I had a 3rd, I'd also go with a vaginal birth. Mainly because I healed well both times. |
The PPs who had an anal sphincter tear or fistula/rectocele etc., were you induced or did you go into spontaneous labor? It seems like a fair number of posters who had bad tears are saying their labor was induced, and that is in fact associated with severe tearing in the literature. It's unclear whether induction drugs prolong labor intro obstruction, or increase the need for an epidural which prolongs/obstructs, or maybe makes it worse if the baby is in a tricky position to begin with. |
Severe rectocele and uterine prolapse and moderate cystocele here. I went into spontaneous labor but was extremely slow to progress after 6 cm. Baby was malpositioned but I did not find this out until after. In hindsight, I should have gotten an epi and pit far earlier when labor was not progressing, pushed for 3 hours and no more, and then had a Cesarean or vacuum. Forceps and a long pushing phase (including hours and hours breath-holding valsalva pushes) and tons of aggressive vaginal stretching seemed to seal my fate. To answer PP's question, what I would have done differently is: -Gone with an OB practice and not midwives and asked for conservative management -Asked for OB involvement and/or second opinions far earlier when labor was not progressing and when I had been pushing for 3-4 hours and no one seemed concerned about prolonged pushing -Gotten an epidural as soon as I arrived at the hospital instead of trying for unmedicated -Hired a doula who knew spinning babies and was not dogmatic about natural birth -sought out pelvic floor PT when pregnant for issues I was having during pregnancy that midwives dismisses (leaking urine, back pain) -gotten chiropractic care in pregnancy to ensure a well stabilized pelvis and well positioned baby -refused to push longer than 3 hours and refused to do breath holding pushes -not done impact exercise in pregnancy -insisted on a vacuum and not forceps, or had an emergency Cesarean -discussed my risk factors for pelvic floor disorders with my providers in prenatal visits and demand that they take that into account when formulating my care plan -insisted on a late ultrasound to estimate fetal siZe when it was evident that my baby was big -not waited past my due date for spontaneous labor when it was evident that baby was gonna be large and I am petite -asked women in family about our history of pelvic floor issues I would never recommend that anyone have forceps if you have another choice. I still have nightmares about them. |
13:36 - yes, we should! I am saddened - and angry - to hear about what you have had to go through, and what you have to live with. For the others asking, I had no induction and a 34 hour labor. I was told to push for 4 hours. I had done birth classes, read out bodies ourselves when I was 13, went to a women's college, and had no idea this could happen to me. Risk factors which they told me afterward (not before!) were - over 40, fair skin (?! - but women in the online support groups have every age and ethnicity), large baby and family history (this is also debatable, although my mother had prolapse, her mother and sisters did not. But I was a large baby and they used forceps on her.) The key things are - large baby and long second stage of labor. Oh, and the midwife screamed at the nurse for not emptying my bladder which had two liters of water in it because after 29 hours I succumbed to an epidural. In sum, use caution if you are over 40 (muscle tears more easily), have a big baby, and if you are laboring long. If you have an epidural make sure they empty your bladder. Honestly, even an enema before delivering is probably a good idea. You want maxium space for baby to slide out. There is good information on positions and pushing in books by Calais-Germain and de gasquet (the latter is only in French) that I found after the fact. There is mounting evidence that you should not push for long and definitely that when you push you do it in a certain way. OP, whoever you are, good luck! I fully agree with 13:36 that every woman should clearly understand the risks and make her own decisions as a fully informed person. |
And I will add one more thing - in my first trimester I was in a yoga teacher training class. So I was not out of shape, healthy eater, no medical issues. |
Forgot to answer your other question. I had a pretty textbook pregnancy and was extremely healthy. My only risk factors were being almost AMA when I delivered, which is actually a pretty significant risk factor for having complications with delivery. Otherwise I was the picture of good health and had nothing to really indicate Cesarean otherwise. |
I’d go for vaginal. I had a vaginal the first time with episiotomy and scheduled c the second time. C section recovery was hard (and I had a preemie so I wasn’t even taking care of a baby during the first part of recovery) |
What was your first recovery like though? |
PP really wasn't pushing an agenda. I'm done childbearing (I just hang out here sometimes for fun) and had section and two vaginal births. C-section is more dangerous in terms of maternal health and life, it just is. There's no sense in denying it. That doesn't mean OP shouldn't choose it, especially a planned one. I bid you peace and good luck, OP. |
Are there any good studies on this you can share? I've mostly just seen this one and it worries me: "The planned cesarean group comprised 46 766 women v. 2 292 420 in the planned vaginal delivery group; overall rates of severe morbidity for the entire 14-year period were 27.3 and 9.0, respectively, per 1000 deliveries." https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1800583/ |