Husband got me something I specifically said I didn't want

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every single year my husband asks what I want for my birthday, I say 'some jewelry would be nice, just not anything with beads or colored gems.' And every time he gets me beads and colored gems. Then he asks why I don't wear them and I say 'beads and colored gems aren't really my thing, I prefer plain gold or silver.' This has been going on for about 10 years. IMO I think it is subconsciously passive aggressive.

So exchange the beads or gems for gold/silver. How hard is that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
There are people who have no real regard for others.

My husband does the same thing, and in some instances it's pure selfishness. Case in point: for years, he used to buy me orchids for birthdays or Mother's Day, even after I specifically said "no orchids, we have too many, I prefer hydrangeas or something else". Why? because he was collecting orchids - we had a whole table full!

He's also cheap. When he goes grocery shopping instead of me, I ask him for certain things, and not others, but if the brand I specifically told him not to buy is on sale, too bad, he buys it anyway, even if none of us like the taste. He has no personal preference taste-wise, except to buy on sale.

I do the exact same thing in my house...

[Anonymous]

So, be grateful and go buy yourself whatever makes you happy?

[Anonymous]

OP only wants to wear the workout clothes given to her by the personal trainer she's been cheating on her husband with..

[Anonymous]

This is why adults shouldn't exchange gifts. You live together, you have shared funds, just do something together to celebrate (dinner, a show, a trip, whatever floats your boat) and call it a day. No hurt feelings, no passive-aggressiveness, no dropping hints, no giving gift lists, etc.

[Anonymous]

Um can I have your husband?