Stop bringing your younger kid on field trips

[Anonymous]

I could care less if you bring a younger sibling. DH or I always go on the field trips so my child wouldn't be with you anyways.

If you aren't going due to work, you should be glad another parent is there to chaperone your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you volunteer as a chaperone you are there to help the teacher.

Can people really not do this with a toddler in tow? Geez! I must be a multi-tasked savant. I can watch some kids and a toddler while at the zoo. Amazing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you volunteer as a chaperone you are there to help the teacher.

Can people really not do this with a toddler in tow? Geez! I must be a multi-tasked savant. I can watch some kids and a toddler while at the zoo. Amazing!

Many can't.

- mom of 2 and a teacer. The

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you volunteer as a chaperone you are there to help the teacher.

Can people really not do this with a toddler in tow? Geez! I must be a multi-tasked savant. I can watch some kids and a toddler while at the zoo. Amazing!

Many can't.

- mom of 2 and a teacer. The

Oh goodness, my iPhone is not helping me edit. Crucify me!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My school finally cracked down on this. No siblings in the on field trips or even in school AT ALL except for night events (minus back to school night, where no kids are allowed.)

They allow siblings outside for halloween parade but not inside for the party. So many teachers complained to the PTA and principal that we cracked down on it. Amazing how most of these moms were still able to come sans kids. We also set up a baby sitting swap for SAHM volunteers that has worked really well and has had an huge surge in community and families knowing each other.

To the mom who said she loves bringing her youngest to parties and the class "loves her" - that child is a distraction and the teacher will politely smile but loathe you on the inside.

Actually, the teacher really likes my son and was disappointed when I didn't bring him to one of the class parties. But thanks for making assumptions about her and him.

Your post comes across so entitled (and I don't use that word often) and self-centered that I guarantee you she wasn't disappointed. I'm a NP by the way.

Weird, I don't feel entitled at all. Just because I have a 3 year old doesn't mean I ignore rules or social cues. I wouldn't bring him to parent teacher conferences or sign up as an official chaperone on a field trip and bring him along. A short class celebration where he has been warmly welcomed on more than one occasion is a bit different. If he ever acted up or distracted the kids, I wouldn't bring him again. You don't know the teacher, the school community, the students, or my son. Find someone else to judge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My school finally cracked down on this. No siblings in the on field trips or even in school AT ALL except for night events (minus back to school night, where no kids are allowed.)

They allow siblings outside for halloween parade but not inside for the party. So many teachers complained to the PTA and principal that we cracked down on it. Amazing how most of these moms were still able to come sans kids. We also set up a baby sitting swap for SAHM volunteers that has worked really well and has had an huge surge in community and families knowing each other.

To the mom who said she loves bringing her youngest to parties and the class "loves her" - that child is a distraction and the teacher will politely smile but loathe you on the inside.

Actually, the teacher really likes my son and was disappointed when I didn't bring him to one of the class parties. But thanks for making assumptions about her and him.

Your post comes across so entitled (and I don't use that word often) and self-centered that I guarantee you she wasn't disappointed. I'm a NP by the way.

Weird, I don't feel entitled at all. Just because I have a 3 year old doesn't mean I ignore rules or social cues. I wouldn't bring him to parent teacher conferences or sign up as an official chaperone on a field trip and bring him along. A short class celebration where he has been warmly welcomed on more than one occasion is a bit different. If he ever acted up or distracted the kids, I wouldn't bring him again. You don't know the teacher, the school community, the students, or my son. Find someone else to judge.

I have a preschooler and elementary aged child too. I bring my 4yo sometimes but I am not kidding myself. No one actually wants the sibling there and my child is adorable and sweet too. I have seen other moms bring toddlers-3 year olds and they are straight up disruptive. My younger child is already 4 and will be in kindergarten this fall. There are two 3 year olds who come often and both the kids are so annoying. One mom makes sure her 3yo does the age inappropriate activity. Double annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My school finally cracked down on this. No siblings in the on field trips or even in school AT ALL except for night events (minus back to school night, where no kids are allowed.)

They allow siblings outside for halloween parade but not inside for the party. So many teachers complained to the PTA and principal that we cracked down on it. Amazing how most of these moms were still able to come sans kids. We also set up a baby sitting swap for SAHM volunteers that has worked really well and has had an huge surge in community and families knowing each other.

To the mom who said she loves bringing her youngest to parties and the class "loves her" - that child is a distraction and the teacher will politely smile but loathe you on the inside.

Actually, the teacher really likes my son and was disappointed when I didn't bring him to one of the class parties. But thanks for making assumptions about her and him.

Your post comes across so entitled (and I don't use that word often) and self-centered that I guarantee you she wasn't disappointed. I'm a NP by the way.

Weird, I don't feel entitled at all. Just because I have a 3 year old doesn't mean I ignore rules or social cues. I wouldn't bring him to parent teacher conferences or sign up as an official chaperone on a field trip and bring him along. A short class celebration where he has been warmly welcomed on more than one occasion is a bit different. If he ever acted up or distracted the kids, I wouldn't bring him again. You don't know the teacher, the school community, the students, or my son. Find someone else to judge.

Just...wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is crazy! It is a field trip for pete's sake. Who cares if a kid tags along. Man, some of your panties are twisted so tightly.

I care when you lose my kid because you were dealing with your fussy toddler.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read all these, but I had no idea this was an issue!

I assumed if the teachers were good with it, it was fine. Yikes.

I guess it could just be a last resort or add on thing if there aren't enough people or no one has volunteered.

I think maybe just mention to the mom if she is causing problems, she might not know. Somehow it sounds like a SAH v WOH thing in the tone, and I don't think it is.

I work part time but totally bring the baby sometimes since I hate to put her with a sitter on a home day but also want to be there for the older child. I just didn't know it bothered other parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read all these, but I had no idea this was an issue!

I assumed if the teachers were good with it, it was fine. Yikes.

I guess it could just be a last resort or add on thing if there aren't enough people or no one has volunteered.

I think maybe just mention to the mom if she is causing problems, she might not know. Somehow it sounds like a SAH v WOH thing in the tone, and I don't think it is.

I work part time but totally bring the baby sometimes since I hate to put her with a sitter on a home day but also want to be there for the older child. I just didn't know it bothered other parents.

As a parent I don't care if you bring the kid to a school event, but I care a lot if you are a chaperone on a field trip where kids could get lost or hurt. Having your other child along means you aren't going to be focused enough on the kids. That's my only concern.