What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?

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Anonymous wrote:I got regifted a lemon candle as a secret santa gift in college. It wasn't on my idea list and I didn't get it until Christmas was well over, almost into February. I know it was regifted because it was one of the items my roommate had given her to help cheer her up after her mother had died a few months earlier.

Cool story bro. Tell it again.

(That situation definitely calls for a pass.)

Um no. Her mom had died the previous summer (several months before the secret santa). And she could have opted out of the Secret Santa entirely if she still wasn't up to participating.

Not only did her mom die, but not all college kids have a lot of extra money lying around for gifts. Too bad she wasted this one on your entitled ass.

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Anonymous wrote:I got a 12 pack of Sprite in a Secret Santa where we drew names, so the 12 pack was purchased for me. I guess it was thoughtful. The person said they noticed I drink Sprite.

I think that sounds thoughtful!

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Anonymous wrote:Most thoughtful:
My Grandma was very poor and on a limited fixed income. There were 8 grandchildren, all girls, and every year at Christmas she would give us each a few samples of perfume (you used to be able to get these little plastic vials at the "fancy" department stores back in the day)

She would collect and save them up all year from her trips into the city. We would all "ooh and ahh", compare scents, thankfully all truly grateful for such a sweet gift from my little gram.

Least thoughtful? The year my inlaws decided they were done doing gifts due to the expense and sent us 6 cookies. Probably cost more to send than to buy something. Sent the other 6 to my BIL. They were (are) mad we moved away from the (dying, no jobs, crime ridden) place we grew up and have to travel to see us. This was their big protest.

I love the perfume. It's fun, useful, and a bit of a surprise to see which you get.

Proof that thoughtful gifts don't have to cost a fortune.

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Anonymous wrote:Most thoughtful: For my engagement, my MIL gave me her mother's engagement ring -- so beautiful.

Least thoughtful -- When I lost 50 lbs, a friend gave me a box of chocolates.

OMG, I cannot imagine my MIL giving me any of her many diamonds even though DH is her only child. I don't have any but I am sure all of them will go to my DD. That is her right and I would feel weird wearing her diamonds anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't know if it really qualifies for either "thoughtful" or "thoughtless", but I was pretty disappointed and hurt when my DH gave me the following gifts:

a new vacuum cleaner (so I would enjoy vacumming more)

an exercise bike (because I really needed to start working out and lose the baby weight)

a fishing rod that he wanted. He said it was so I could come fishing with him, but he knew I had no interest, so I know he really bought it to use himself.

My DH did similar when he got us both snowshoes. He is one who wanted to go snowshoeing. Turns out I love it too though!

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Worst: I converted to Judaism. The next year, my mother sent me not one but two tacky Christmas Tree Sweaters for my birthday.

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Anonymous wrote:I got regifted a lemon candle as a secret santa gift in college. It wasn't on my idea list and I didn't get it until Christmas was well over, almost into February. I know it was regifted because it was one of the items my roommate had given her to help cheer her up after her mother had died a few months earlier.

Cool story bro. Tell it again.

(That situation definitely calls for a pass.)

Um no. Her mom had died the previous summer (several months before the secret santa). And she could have opted out of the Secret Santa entirely if she still wasn't up to participating.

You're a total ass. If she got the candle when her mother died, she probably was in a fog and forgot where it came from. Also, did you know that sometimes when parents die that can cause financial issues? Or maybe grief can even last "several months"? Geez. I'd re-gift to you too.

Thanks for your kind words but it's not about the candle, it was just how the whole thing played out. While I know she had a difficult time with her mom passing, the entire thing was very typical of her personality (flaky), which is how she was even before what happened with her mother. There's no need to go into other details here, but I'm pretty sure she just didn't give a crap rather than grief or financial hardship playing any major role in what happened. You'd have to meet her to understand I guess.

Just stop

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Gift that most upset me: brownies from someone who had said that she likes to bake for people so they get fat and she looks thinner in comparison.

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Someone gave our then 5 yo DS a Slip N Slide for his December birthday. It would have been fine if he could have used it. It was clearly something pulled out of a closet.

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Thoughtless: 40th birthday present from my husband-- A vacuum cleaner.

Thoughtful--the year my father died, his ex-wife (and mother of my older half-siblings) made albums for everyone, including me, with pictures of him from their college and grad school days.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister says the most thoughtful gift I gave her was a portrait painting of her beloved orange tabby. He died a few weeks later and she has this wonderful reminder

That's not thoughtful. The painting obv stole the cat's soul and then it died. You killed the cat. YOU KILLED THE CAT!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got regifted a lemon candle as a secret santa gift in college. It wasn't on my idea list and I didn't get it until Christmas was well over, almost into February. I know it was regifted because it was one of the items my roommate had given her to help cheer her up after her mother had died a few months earlier.

Cool story bro. Tell it again.

(That situation definitely calls for a pass.)

Um no. Her mom had died the previous summer (several months before the secret santa). And she could have opted out of the Secret Santa entirely if she still wasn't up to participating.

Ok, are you for real?? Dude, her mom DIED! She gets a pass on giving "good" secret santa gifts for, oh, I dunno, YEARS! You wanted to add extra pressure on her to bow out of secret santa because her mom died????? Even though she was probably trying her hardest to get back into the groove?? YOU SUCK!

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Anonymous wrote:Least thoughtful: aunt and uncle who are multi millionaire got us a chips and dip bowl off registry for out wedding.

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What were you expecting?

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Anonymous wrote:Gift that most upset me: brownies from someone who had said that she likes to bake for people so they get fat and she looks thinner in comparison.

I have the same friend.

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My drama queen mom sent my DS a sappy card clearly meant for an adult about how much she loves him even though she lives far away, and then added her own note about how she hoped he doesn't forget her and she's sorry she's not a better grandma. This was for his third birthday. She's welcome to visit any time, but rarely does.