Gentle excuses for why ILs cannot stay with us a particular weekend (they usually do)

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant wearing a sweatshirt and socks with my second one. During a commercial break of an old Seinfeld episode
Just sayin', it's basically a business deal after a certain number of months of trying

That's glorious! May be the best thing I've read on DCUM all day. LOLOL!

+1

[Anonymous]

Just say it's not the best week - some personal stuff happening that week.

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Maybe it would be less awkward to say generally that you are ttc and need a bit of space.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So basically OP you don't want to tell them the truth and you can't make up a little white lie.

??

Sure, I can make one up, and have. I just thought maybe there were more creatives one out there I wasn't thinking of. But it sounds like most people wouldn't even bother because they don't care if people hear them have sex and/or don't care about flat out telling people that they are going to be having sex. I guess I am a prude. Good to know.

Under normal circumstances I wouldn't have sex with guests in the house either. But if I was TTC, I would figure it out. Send the grandparents out for a bagel run or to pick up dinner. Or turn on the TV/fan/music at night and do it quietly in your room (on the floor, if you don't want the mattress noise). Do it quietly in your closet. Just do it quietly. You're making this way more complicated than it needs to be.

[Anonymous]

They can also stay at your BILs for a night or two and not necessarily the whole trip.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you can't have sex with them in the house. Wait till they go to bed, lock your door, and be quiet. It doesn't need to be mindblowong sex to conceive a baby.

This is very true. It is also very true that there is no particular reason why the ILs shoudn't stay at a hotel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So basically OP you don't want to tell them the truth and you can't make up a little white lie.

??

Sure, I can make one up, and have. I just thought maybe there were more creatives one out there I wasn't thinking of. But it sounds like most people wouldn't even bother because they don't care if people hear them have sex and/or don't care about flat out telling people that they are going to be having sex. I guess I am a prude. Good to know.

If you are that paranoid, prepare to give up any activity of that sort for 18 years while you have children in the house - because they too have ears and might just might hear something. Or you could do what most people do who have visitors and/or children and a libido that's not dead and just lock the door and be quiet about it. Seriously, just how loud are you? And/or how thin are your walls? Unless you simply must scream or have the world's creakiest bed, I assure you that people sleeping next door will not hear your activity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have them stay with them and then ask them to take your kid to a park or something. When they are out of the house then have sex. Doesn't need to be at night.

True that!

Or, just rent a hotel room and tell them you're going out for dinner. You don't have to spend the night at the hotel.

Team this.

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Anonymous wrote:Or just ask them to babysit for a night so you and husband can have a full romantic night away from the kids. Parents get that

This is what I'd do.

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seriously, OP is not a prude. You really don't care if your inlaws hear you having sex? Or your husband wouldnt care if his folks heard? That doesn't interfere?

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Anonymous wrote:seriously, OP is not a prude. You really don't care if your inlaws hear you having sex? Or your husband wouldnt care if his folks heard? That doesn't interfere?

I would not want them to hear. But I am capable of having quiet sex.

[Anonymous]

It's your house, so you don't have to come up with any reason other than it's your house and you get to decide when you have guests staying at your house. They can to go BIL's or a hotel, and if they don't want to then they can come another time.

[Anonymous]

Tell them you have lice.

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Anonymous wrote:My second child was conceived while my parents were visiting AND we had workmen in the house doing renovations. I knew I was fertile that morning and my husband was going to be traveling a lot starting later that day, and so I really wanted to hop in bed with him that morning. I told my parents, and they fended off the workmen who had questions for us while we went up to the top floor to a guest room to make babies. Success!

I don't see what the big deal would be about any of these options:
* Let your in-laws stay with you and do it quietly as others have said.
* Let them stay and go ahead and make as much as you like; so what if they hear?
* Tell your in-laws you will be baby-making and they are welcome to stay with you if it won't offend their sensibilities or else they are welcome to stay elsewhere.

You and your parents are gross.

Yuck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So basically OP you don't want to tell them the truth and you can't make up a little white lie.

??

Sure, I can make one up, and have. I just thought maybe there were more creatives one out there I wasn't thinking of. But it sounds like most people wouldn't even bother because they don't care if people hear them have sex and/or don't care about flat out telling people that they are going to be having sex. I guess I am a prude. Good to know.

If you are that paranoid, prepare to give up any activity of that sort for 18 years while you have children in the house - because they too have ears and might just might hear something. Or you could do what most people do who have visitors and/or children and a libido that's not dead and just lock the door and be quiet about it. Seriously, just how loud are you? And/or how thin are your walls? Unless you simply must scream or have the world's creakiest bed, I assure you that people sleeping next door will not hear your activity.

I can hear my kids breathing through the walls. DH and I have already realized we're going to have to move when they get older because I'm not listening to every phone conversation thigh put th entire house. Op, I don't think you're a prude. There's nothing wrong with wanting privacy to enjoy sex!