Anyone sick of being looked down on for living in PG?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I live in Laurel. On my block we have 3 white families, 2 black families, a Filipino family, an African family, and a middle eastern family. Our house hasn't gained value in the past 10y, but also hasn't lost any either.

I love our proximity to DC, Baltimore, and Annapolis. I wish we had better small (non-chain) restaurants.

+1.

But some good ones in the nearby area (not all in Laurel):

One of our favorites, Ted's Hickory Grill on MD-198 in Burtonsville
Pasta Plus, Italian
Mega Chicken, MD-198 in Maryland City (great Peruvian style chicken)
Curry Leaf, US-1 and Cypress Streets, Indian
Myong Dong, Korean on US-1 in Beltsville (intersection with MD-212 Powder Mill Rd)

Caveat: I have heard that Da Rae Won in Beltsville on Garrett Ave behind the 7-11 at US-1 and Garrett is better than Myong Dong, but I have not tried it yet, so can't say for sure. I have been to Myong Dong and enjoy that a lot

There are a ton of other little Mom & Pop places around with various Central American cuisines but I haven't tried a lot of them yet.

OP of this post - We love Pasta Plus. Need to try Mega Chicken. We also like Mangos a lot (Rt 1 and Cherry Lane - by the Verizon store.) There is definitely more restaurants than when when we moved here. The Harris Teeter and the new movie theater is a nice addition as well.

[Anonymous]

i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

You make some good points. But you are not taking into account each child's personality and character. Every child that acts up or underperforms is taught to do so in the home. Just like not every child who is stable and successful was taught to be that way at home. Character and personality traits are crucial in determining student success. A child who is a follower will need more parental intervention or a better school environment. An independent-minded, confident child is better able to withstand social pressures. Also know that the older the child gets, the less parental influence works.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

So every bad kid has bad parents and every good kid has good ones? Do you really think that peer pressure and environmental influences can't override and sabotage parenting. Not to be mean but "ur" not the brightest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

Edited: You make some good points. But you are not taking into account each child's personality and character. Not every child that acts up or underperforms is taught to do so in the home. Just like not every child who is stable and successful was taught to be that way at home. Character and personality traits are crucial in determining student success. A child who is a follower will need more parental intervention or a better school environment. An independent-minded, confident child is better able to withstand social pressures. Also know that the older the child gets, the less parental influence works.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

So every bad kid has bad parents and every good kid has good ones? Do you really think that peer pressure and environmental influences can't override and sabotage parenting. Not to be mean but "ur" not the brightest.

Not if u follow the guidelines of "do what I do..not what I say". My parent never drank never smoked etc. neither do I even when around friends who did. Yes there is always peer pressure but if u teach ur kids to have their own mind then the peer pressure won't matter. Also kids gravitate towards the peers they most identify with. There aren't a bunch of knuckle heads running around pg ur kids r just deciding to hang with the few that are. U need to find out why. Because if u move elsewhere I assure u they will seek out the knuckle heads there as well

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

So every bad kid has bad parents and every good kid has good ones? Do you really think that peer pressure and environmental influences can't override and sabotage parenting. Not to be mean but "ur" not the brightest.

Not if u follow the guidelines of "do what I do..not what I say". My parent never drank never smoked etc. neither do I even when around friends who did. Yes there is always peer pressure but if u teach ur kids to have their own mind then the peer pressure won't matter. Also kids gravitate towards the peers they most identify with. There aren't a bunch of knuckle heads running around pg ur kids r just deciding to hang with the few that are. U need to find out why. Because if u move elsewhere I assure u they will seek out the knuckle heads there as well

20:57 here, just thought I would point out I that I am not the poster you think you're talking to. I just disagree with most of your overly simplistic assertions about being in absolute control of a child's destiny and also the numbers of knuckleheads locally too but that is another topic. If your premiss is true, would we be to take it that your parent(s) had exceptionally weak English skills and were shallow thinkers? That would be the case if a "child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home" was to be taken as an absolute.

You don't really have the tone of somebody who actually has kids, by regurgitating tired clichés you are really coming off as some barren old biddy who is not in touch with reality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

So every bad kid has bad parents and every good kid has good ones? Do you really think that peer pressure and environmental influences can't override and sabotage parenting. Not to be mean but "ur" not the brightest.

Not if u follow the guidelines of "do what I do..not what I say". My parent never drank never smoked etc. neither do I even when around friends who did. Yes there is always peer pressure but if u teach ur kids to have their own mind then the peer pressure won't matter. Also kids gravitate towards the peers they most identify with. There aren't a bunch of knuckle heads running around pg ur kids r just deciding to hang with the few that are. U need to find out why. Because if u move elsewhere I assure u they will seek out the knuckle heads there as well

20:57 here, just thought I would point out I that I am not the poster you think you're talking to. I just disagree with most of your overly simplistic assertions about being in absolute control of a child's destiny and also the numbers of knuckleheads locally too but that is another topic. If your premiss is true, would we be to take it that your parent(s) had exceptionally weak English skills and were shallow thinkers? That would be the case if a "child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home" was to be taken as an absolute.

You don't really have the tone of somebody who actually has kids, by regurgitating tired clichés you are really coming off as some barren old biddy who is not in touch with reality.

So all those insults thrown at my parents about a post u admitted wasn't aimed at u, shows me ur lack of character...great English skills or not. So my parents were all those horrible things but yet were able to teach me "personal responsibility" as well how to be a self-thinker and non-follower. I'd say that's pretty good for shallow parents, what then is everyone else excuse? I guess my parents were more old school where they were the most influential presence in my life

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

So every bad kid has bad parents and every good kid has good ones? Do you really think that peer pressure and environmental influences can't override and sabotage parenting. Not to be mean but "ur" not the brightest.

Parents have to be vigilant, no matter what they do. A weak-willed kid could fall in with a bad crowd in PG County, or Arlington, or anywhere else. It is up to the parent to take note when a bad influence appears and do what needs to be done, even if that means moving to a private school or moving farther out altogether (there is always the option of moving out of PG county, it's not like it's prison). I think "ahh PG county ruined my kid" is so, so weak. There are lots of great kids in PG County.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

So every bad kid has bad parents and every good kid has good ones? Do you really think that peer pressure and environmental influences can't override and sabotage parenting. Not to be mean but "ur" not the brightest.

Not if u follow the guidelines of "do what I do..not what I say". My parent never drank never smoked etc. neither do I even when around friends who did. Yes there is always peer pressure but if u teach ur kids to have their own mind then the peer pressure won't matter. Also kids gravitate towards the peers they most identify with. There aren't a bunch of knuckle heads running around pg ur kids r just deciding to hang with the few that are. U need to find out why. Because if u move elsewhere I assure u they will seek out the knuckle heads there as well

20:57 here, just thought I would point out I that I am not the poster you think you're talking to. I just disagree with most of your overly simplistic assertions about being in absolute control of a child's destiny and also the numbers of knuckleheads locally too but that is another topic. If your premiss is true, would we be to take it that your parent(s) had exceptionally weak English skills and were shallow thinkers? That would be the case if a "child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home" was to be taken as an absolute.

You don't really have the tone of somebody who actually has kids, by regurgitating tired clichés you are really coming off as some barren old biddy who is not in touch with reality.

NP. What an ignorant post PP. Was there a need to be so nasty? If this the example who display to your children? If so, you have no need to worry, for your children will be the knuckle heads if following you is an example.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

So every bad kid has bad parents and every good kid has good ones? Do you really think that peer pressure and environmental influences can't override and sabotage parenting. Not to be mean but "ur" not the brightest.

Parents have to be vigilant, no matter what they do. A weak-willed kid could fall in with a bad crowd in PG County, or Arlington, or anywhere else. It is up to the parent to take note when a bad influence appears and do what needs to be done, even if that means moving to a private school or moving farther out altogether (there is always the option of moving out of PG county, it's not like it's prison). I think "ahh PG county ruined my kid" is so, so weak. There are lots of great kids in PG County.

Hey, they have high end drugs in the best private schools. If you have raised a weak kid, they will follow the pack whether they are attending Duvall, Whitman, or Sidwell Friends.

[Anonymous]

Weak-wills and bad crowds are the enemy...interesting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i live in PG but if I could afford to I wouldn't. I read over the other threads and many say to the same effect that was the only way to get a middle class life style in the area. My husband and I are content but my 12 year old son is having problems. Maybe he is a knuckle head but there are just so many other knuckle head kids in the malls & schools he is under the impression it isn't as serious of a deal as it is. He actually dumbs down his speech when away from the home. We lament not being able to afford a better area or private schools. The are some area with nicer houses for sure but much of the county has a few too many knuckle headed kids IMHO.

Not to be mean, but ur child is a reflection of what is taught and enforced at home. I grew up in Landover, went to public schools my whole life and graduated from Duval. I never had any "pressure' to be a "knuckle head" and my parents would have never allowed it anyway. and never thought about "dumbing" down my speech....never had to. I had tons of friends and none of us fit that stereotype or got mixed into a "bad crowd" I never understand that saying anyways. You are what you are taught and what u see

So every bad kid has bad parents and every good kid has good ones? Do you really think that peer pressure and environmental influences can't override and sabotage parenting. Not to be mean but "ur" not the brightest.

Parents have to be vigilant, no matter what they do. A weak-willed kid could fall in with a bad crowd in PG County, or Arlington, or anywhere else. It is up to the parent to take note when a bad influence appears and do what needs to be done, even if that means moving to a private school or moving farther out altogether (there is always the option of moving out of PG county, it's not like it's prison). I think "ahh PG county ruined my kid" is so, so weak. There are lots of great kids in PG County.

Hey, they have high end drugs in the best private schools. If you have raised a weak kid, they will follow the pack whether they are attending Duvall, Whitman, or Sidwell Friends.

Thank You.

[Anonymous]

I don't know who you are hanging out with that looks down on you living in PG. I work in a high end field where 90% of my co-workers (and thus friends) live in Bethesda/Chevy Chase/NW DC. No one has ever commented on me living in PG or my kids attending PG schools. We all want what is best for our kids and are trying our hardest to make that happen regardless of where we live.