Kindergarten son declares he doesn't like school "at all"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^no, it was not rare. Rare is not the opposite of normal. It happened every year with at least one of my students.

So 1 out of 25 is RARE, not normal. Normal is kids that read earlier tend to stay in the higher groups thru elementary school. It is RARE for kids to blow past a whole bunch of levels if they start reading two years later.

are you a teacher?

[Anonymous]

OP,

Is it possible that something else is going on at home? New baby? Divorce, something like that. Sometimes a kid may just want to stay home. Not saying that is the problem, but you need to consider it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Is it possible that something else is going on at home? New baby? Divorce, something like that. Sometimes a kid may just want to stay home. Not saying that is the problem, but you need to consider it.

Now MCPS kindergarten is just that boring. It really is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Is it possible that something else is going on at home? New baby? Divorce, something like that. Sometimes a kid may just want to stay home. Not saying that is the problem, but you need to consider it.

Thanks. I did consider this but there's nothing new. No divorce. No new sibling. We have had the same routine since Sept. Maybe putting our heads together we can figure it out in the meeting this week.
Maybe he is just out of sorts after the long holiday however he claims this is a long standing dislike. I am hoping it is just a phase. A quickly passing phase.

Thanks for the ideas.

[Anonymous]

OP, Does he have a neighbor or older kid whose attitude could be influencing him? Sometimes, that happens. You know, it is "cool" not to like school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, Does he have a neighbor or older kid whose attitude could be influencing him? Sometimes, that happens. You know, it is "cool" not to like school.

Sadly it is quite the opposite. Last week he told me he was talking to one friend about not liking school and his friends all joined in and talked about how it is too long and boring. I am worried he is now influencing others.

But please keep the ideas coming. I am sure it is something I am missing or maybe I just hope it is. The alternative is that K really is boring, too long and there is too much voice raising. Based on what some PPs say this sadly may be the truth.

I am trying to drop him later and pick him up earlier but it doesn't seem to be helping. He just misses out on play before and after school this way.
But I am going to keep trying things and see what happens.

[Anonymous]

I am trying to drop him later and pick him up earlier but it doesn't seem to be helping. He just misses out on play before and after school this way.
But I am going to keep trying things and see what happens.

Not sure I understand this.

[Anonymous]

OP, is your child in school for extended day?

[Anonymous]

Do NOT let your child know how worried you are about this. Do not quiz him every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, is your child in school for extended day?

Yes he is in extended day. However he is never ready to leave no matter when I pick him up. He says he likes playing with his friends

He also does two activities instead of aftercare twice a week. We are waiting for this to start up again for the semester.

Why? Are you thinking this has to with his long boring day comment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am trying to drop him later and pick him up earlier but it doesn't seem to be helping. He just misses out on play before and after school this way.

But I am going to keep trying things and see what happens.

Not sure I understand this.

I didn't mean I disrupt the school day. Sorry for the confusion. I meant extended day.
I pay for both before and after care. I rarely use before care but he is in aftercare till 4:30 or 5:30. Our school day starts at 9 so I try to drop him around 8:45. Occasionally I have an early mtg and need to drop him earlier but on those days I also try to pick him up from extended day earlier.

I know he says he likes extended day but I was thinking maybe overall the day is too long for him, not just the school part of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do NOT let your child know how worried you are about this. Do not quiz him every day.

Thanks for the advice. That is the hard part.
We do talk about his day every night in bed but that has been part of our routine even before he was in school.
It is so tempting to keep quizzing him but you are right and he has already given me his answers.
I try to focus on the fun parts of the day of which there are thankfully
many

[Anonymous]

OP,
I suspect your child is "working" you. Maybe not, but that is a possibility.

[Anonymous]

OP, your child likes playing. That's why he likes aftercare. Nothing wrong with that. Sounds normal to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,
I suspect your child is "working" you. Maybe not, but that is a possibility.

Trust me. That thought crossed my mind a few times.
He's a smart little boy.