No, I don't want to date your 60 y.o. a@@

[Anonymous]

I had a guy in his mid-60's infatuated with me when I was a newly-married 27 year old. He was a long-married salesman in my company. One day, he presented me with a bouquet of roses. I smiled kindly and handed it back to him saying, "Bob, I cannot accept this. I am a married woman." And that was the end of it. He and I were the only ones who knew about it. You don't have to be mean, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I doubt that 60 year old geezer was looking for a wife, OP. It's more likely he was fooling around.

I disagree with this and I disagree with the PP who said men 60+ aren't likely looking for someone their own age.

I'm in my mid-40s, and spent my twenties through mid-late 30s married. I like being married. I wanted to and did get remarried. I know lots of folks in good solid long lasting second marriages - lots of men. And they want people their own age because they want someone they can relate to.

I did remarry and my wife is 11 years younger than I am. I wanted to have kids (no kids in my 1st marriage), so that made it necessary to find someone much younger (didn't want to adopt). It wasn't that hard finding younger women to date - there is a bias in our society in that direction, no doubt - but finding one I'd want to marry and spend the rest of my life with? Yikes! Waaaay too many immature ones...and I'm not slamming them - many were educated, poised, had their shit together, etc. But they were just lacking a lot of life experience that I happen to have. I think I'm hardly unique in this regard. If I hadn't wanted children, I'd definitely have stuck to women closer to me in age. javascript:void(0);

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is clearly another case of a beggar trying to be choosy. Face it, you're old and single and you have to take what you can get.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is 22 years older than I am. He's loving, smart, funny, and a great husband and dad to our kids. You may be shocked to her this, but I married my husband because we fell in love with each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Not for money, not for looks, not for status, Because we make each other laugh, bring out the best in each other, and enjoy each day together. I wish all of my friends and family had such strong marriages.

My husband is 15 years older than me and some people balk (I am late 20's, he's early 40's). We have a relationship much better than most people we know. It's damn near perfect, really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm 20 years younger, make more money, and am not looking to get married.

Just annoyed that I have to defend why I don't want to go out.

Actually, you do, because youre a 40 year old woman with no ring on her finger. That makes you a small minority. Especially if youre white.

Let this be a lesson to the 30 year old women who think they have all the time in the world. You dont.

+1

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt that 60 year old geezer was looking for a wife, OP. It's more likely he was fooling around.

I disagree with this and I disagree with the PP who said men 60+ aren't likely looking for someone their own age.

I'm in my mid-40s, and spent my twenties through mid-late 30s married. I like being married. I wanted to and did get remarried. I know lots of folks in good solid long lasting second marriages - lots of men. And they want people their own age because they want someone they can relate to.

I did remarry and my wife is 11 years younger than I am. I wanted to have kids (no kids in my 1st marriage), so that made it necessary to find someone much younger (didn't want to adopt). It wasn't that hard finding younger women to date - there is a bias in our society in that direction, no doubt - but finding one I'd want to marry and spend the rest of my life with? Yikes! Waaaay too many immature ones...and I'm not slamming them - many were educated, poised, had their shit together, etc. But they were just lacking a lot of life experience that I happen to have. I think I'm hardly unique in this regard. If I hadn't wanted children, I'd definitely have stuck to women closer to me in age. javascript:void(0);

You aren't unique, my husband married me for the same reason is to have kids (ironically we are having IF issues - on my end, not his). I'm the PP that said we have 15 year age difference. We're a very happy couple, it's too bad so many people aren't open minded about age differences anymore. I don't know anyone within my inner circle that has anymore than 2-3 year difference and I have to say we have the happiest marriage of all.

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Anonymous wrote:You aren't unique, my husband married me for the same reason is to have kids (ironically we are having IF issues - on my end, not his). I'm the PP that said we have 15 year age difference. We're a very happy couple, it's too bad so many people aren't open minded about age differences anymore. I don't know anyone within my inner circle that has anymore than 2-3 year difference and I have to say we have the happiest marriage of all.

Yeah, I don't think it's an issue necessarily - the poster with the 22 year age split might have a slightly more difficult time, not because she isn't "mature enough" for her husband at all but because they might wind up at different stages of life (interests) and potentially grow apart. She will very likely still have more get-out-and-go at 65 than he does at 87, but you never know, and even then, it may not be a problem at all.

I am sorry to hear about your IF issues. We just got married this summer so we haven't started trying just yet. Hopefully this coming summer.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt that 60 year old geezer was looking for a wife, OP. It's more likely he was fooling around.

I disagree with this and I disagree with the PP who said men 60+ aren't likely looking for someone their own age.

I'm in my mid-40s, and spent my twenties through mid-late 30s married. I like being married. I wanted to and did get remarried. I know lots of folks in good solid long lasting second marriages - lots of men. And they want people their own age because they want someone they can relate to.

I did remarry and my wife is 11 years younger than I am. I wanted to have kids (no kids in my 1st marriage), so that made it necessary to find someone much younger (didn't want to adopt). It wasn't that hard finding younger women to date - there is a bias in our society in that direction, no doubt - but finding one I'd want to marry and spend the rest of my life with? Yikes! Waaaay too many immature ones...and I'm not slamming them - many were educated, poised, had their shit together, etc. But they were just lacking a lot of life experience that I happen to have. I think I'm hardly unique in this regard. If I hadn't wanted children, I'd definitely have stuck to women closer to me in age. javascript:void(0);

You aren't unique, my husband married me for the same reason is to have kids (ironically we are having IF issues - on my end, not his). I'm the PP that said we have 15 year age difference. We're a very happy couple, it's too bad so many people aren't open minded about age differences anymore. I don't know anyone within my inner circle that has anymore than 2-3 year difference and I have to say we have the happiest marriage of all.

I am happy that it worked out for you, but frankly, I think that age spread is more of an issue when you're 35 and DH is 50, or you're 45 and DH is 60. Not you specifically, but it depends on your personality and interests. In my late 20s, I was still out a lot. I am totally ok dating a 30yo guy going to lounges regularly, but an early 40s guy doing the same thing would've been a turn off. Like the male PP, I typically prefer someone I can relate to. I don't necessarily want the guy who has been there and done everything before me.

[Anonymous]

Men with money/power can date, fuck, and marry who they want.

[Anonymous]

Not in my experience, hon. Sweet dreams. Deep down, you know you can't buy what you really want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men with money/power can date, fuck, and marry who they want.

I don't think so. They do have more choices than old women and poor old men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men with money/power can date, fuck, and marry who they want.

If they move to Manila, yes. But generally not true in the Western world. Power provides you more options, but not a blank check.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men with money/power can date, fuck, and marry who they want.

I don't think so. They do have more choices than old women and poor old men.

Tell that to the 20 something female escorts. They're not turning down a session which pays them $1,000 an hour. There are plenty of courtesans out there who don't mind an old man as long as he pays up. Don't underestimate the power of greed. Wealthy old men can do whatever the Hell they want to do.

[Anonymous]

Yuck. Why does someone that old want to have sex. There's no biological reason for that unless you want kids with mental deficiencies. No money in the world would be worth being seen with a decrepit old man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men with money/power can date, fuck, and marry who they want.

I don't think so. They do have more choices than old women and poor old men.

Tell that to the 20 something female escorts. They're not turning down a session which pays them $1,000 an hour. There are plenty of courtesans out there who don't mind an old man as long as he pays up. Don't underestimate the power of greed. Wealthy old men can do whatever the Hell they want to do.

Um, not every woman is a courtesan. Those who are are that for a reason. Old men cannot have any woman they wish by any stretch. yes, they can pay for sex, but so can old women and even not so wealthy men. Sex is cheap.