You missed the point. It's not always about you. It doesn't matter whether men "care about that." In fact, some do, but the point is that women don't have to settle for a man that isn't right (or a geezer) just for the money. Most educated, confident smart women can make their own money and no longer have to marry to get taken care of financially (like the old days when women couldn't earn a decent living and/or didn't work). |
Um...why dont you tell me. Im not sure women having high paying jobs changes anything. Except for possibly making their personalities less than desirable when looking for a wife and mother. |
Im a friendly 35 year old. If shes looking for fun only, going younger is a good bet. For marriage, going older is. For marriage id be interested in 27-34. Have no idea what kind of guy would marry a woman 5plus years older except someone so poor/ugly/beta he has no other options. I do know one such couple, but she trapped himwhen she conveniently forgot the pill. Now hes miserable and his life is over. |
| OP is clearly another case of a beggar trying to be choosy. Face it, you're old and single and you have to take what you can get. |
| My DH is 22 years older than I am. He's loving, smart, funny, and a great husband and dad to our kids. You may be shocked to her this, but I married my husband because we fell in love with each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Not for money, not for looks, not for status, Because we make each other laugh, bring out the best in each other, and enjoy each day together. I wish all of my friends and family had such strong marriages. |
It changes that women are not as interested in getting married as in the old times. So even if that makes them less desirable candidates, it makes failure in that respect more palatable. Therefore, an old geezer can not count on having a woman just because he is, figuratively speaking, the only one left. |
| Then since marriage and stable families are in our interest as a society, we should push policies that make it less desirable for women to work. |
Hahahaha...yes, this. There are tons actually. The M:W ratio sucks, especially for above-child-bearing age professional women. I routinely see women in their early-mid 40s on dating sites, all expecting to find men 0-15 years younger - making it clear they're also not interested in someone "their own age". The level of denial sometimes comes with sprinkles on top: "do you want children? someday". I'm a guy, and I've dated & married younger (and older too, BTW) so I'm not saying women shouldn't be able to as well, but this whole "men are pigs" crap is just that: a bunch of BS. I frankly think the whole "my age" junk is a bunch of middle school BS. After about your mid-twenties, the differences really get minor. It matters if you are at different stages of life, but mid-40s and late 50s isn't all that different. Now, if he's collecting SS and you've just tipped a year past 40, then you are at different stages of life. Still, if you get a nice 60 year old, you might want to give him a chance to demonstrate that it's in good working order and not wrinkly - you might be very surprised. |
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Ouch. Below the belt. That hurt. Women who aren't looking primarily at your earning potential as #1 have options. Options to weight other potential mate characteristics differently. That is all. |
This statement speaks volumes about your (lack of a) dating life. The guys most women want could care less because they have good options either way. |
What? So his life is over just because he married a woman five year older? You mean were she younger, he would not be as miserable? |
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You're 40, middle aged just like the 60 year old man. Sounds like a decent fit.
It's rare to meet a guy over 40 who is looking for a woman his own age. |
There is quite a range between 40 and 60. |
| I doubt that 60 year old geezer was looking for a wife, OP. It's more likely he was fooling around. |