Why do parents who send their kids to Montessori seem to think their kids are better educated?

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Your response is nonsensical. A mom complained her kid was bored yet also said she wasn't pulled for enrichment. She can't be that "bored" then, can she? This is not about my issues. It is about being tired of hearing too many parents bragging about their kids....most without a true basis for doing so. Seems like you may have been/are one of those moms...

Yet you are the woman who wrote this:

Things my non-Montessori, play-based preschool attending son could do before K:

--Knew the capital of every state
--Knew the location of every state (i.e. hand him a blank map and say, "Where is New Hampshire?" and he could point to it)
--Knew the planets in order
--Knew how to add and subtract numbers 12 and less
--Could read fluently (like Frog and Toad type books)
--Wrote sentences himself (as in, he'd sit down and would write on his own, unprompted: "Pleas do not tch this diaree. It is min" for "Please do not touch this diary. It is mine."

And this is why I CANNOT STAND when parents mention Montessori preschool as being some end all/be all of education. Kids are different. I just sit there with my mouth shut smiling at you "sympathizing" about how unstimulated your "poor" kid is in kindergarten but I'm thinking: STFU. My kid isn't unstimulated and it is hard to envision yours is above mine as far as his/her learning.

You seem to think you have a basis for bragging, don't you? You have a hard time envisioning a child above yours as far as her learning?

You have one child that is barely above grade level, and you think you can speak with authority on the subject of boredom in school? (And, everything you have listed is about average for mid kindergarten-1st grade, hardly advanced.) FWIW the smartest kid I met in kindergarten was not reading or doing math. He was a storyteller and inventor. He struggled in a rigid environment. He was truly brilliant. Scary brilliant.

No, I'm not bragging whatsoever. I'm simply saying that if my kid isn't bored, yours shouldn't be (on the basis of already knowing the material being taught). If your kid isn't being pulled out, then your kid doesn't know the material as the top tier in the grade does, and your kid shouldn't be 'bored' based on the reasoning that the material is a rehashing of what is already known. You're clearly one of "those moms" who I'm complaining about...

My kids did not go to a montessori preschool, nor do I talk to anyone about their academics. It does not come up. It is weird that it comes up so much in your life. And, it looked a lot like bragging. You see it in others, but not yourself.

Since she keeps her mouth shut while others brag, I don't agree. I also think you must be one of the braggers.

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Anonymous wrote:What makes ANY parent think another parent wants to hear someone brag about his/her kid? It is SO obnoxious when parents do that: "Sasha is reading Harry Potter in kindergarten." "James is doing math 2 grades ahead." UGH!

It is exactly as unreasonable for them to tell you as for you to be driven nuts by it. There are two great solutions: they can stop telling, or you can stop being bothered by it. OP already would have looked like a jackass for starting a thread to rant about something she should just let to, but then bragging about her own child, ostensibly to prove her point, really took it to the next level.

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Anonymous wrote:Because its true. I have seen both.

that is one opinion

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What makes ANY parent think another parent wants to hear someone brag about his/her kid? It is SO obnoxious when parents do that: "Sasha is reading Harry Potter in kindergarten." "James is doing math 2 grades ahead." UGH!

It is exactly as unreasonable for them to tell you as for you to be driven nuts by it. There are two great solutions: they can stop telling, or you can stop being bothered by it. OP already would have looked like a jackass for starting a thread to rant about something she should just let to, but then bragging about her own child, ostensibly to prove her point, really took it to the next level.

Well said. So that PP is the OP too? Ugh. She really hates parents who think their kid is smarter than hers! She started this whole thread to say:

STFU. My kid isn't unstimulated and it is hard to envision yours is above mine as far as his/her learning.

I am with the PP who asked, "why do you care so much about this?"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What makes ANY parent think another parent wants to hear someone brag about his/her kid? It is SO obnoxious when parents do that: "Sasha is reading Harry Potter in kindergarten." "James is doing math 2 grades ahead." UGH!

It is exactly as unreasonable for them to tell you as for you to be driven nuts by it. There are two great solutions: they can stop telling, or you can stop being bothered by it. OP already would have looked like a jackass for starting a thread to rant about something she should just let to, but then bragging about her own child, ostensibly to prove her point, really took it to the next level.

Well said. So that PP is the OP too? Ugh. She really hates parents who think their kid is smarter than hers! She started this whole thread to say:

STFU. My kid isn't unstimulated and it is hard to envision yours is above mine as far as his/her learning.

I am with the PP who asked, "why do you care so much about this?"

No...I'm the OP and haven't been responding except one other time. I have read all the other responses, however. I do not think my kids were bored in kindergarten. I also don't reference what happened in preschool except if someone asks something about the name of the preschool we went to or if we liked it (i.e. they are looking for a recommendation). I also think that kids who say they are bored in kindergarten are picking that phrase or feeling up for their own parents.

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I think the question the OP asked was why Montessori parents think other kids are not as educated as theirs, not whether or not kids in K are bored or not. I'm guessing OP is talking about preschool. I think it's a valid question separate from whether or not kids are bored in K. Kids bored in K academically (well not bored but ahead of the curriculum) is pretty common around here regardless of preschool methodology. I think it is an interesting discussion though whether in the long term children are affected by what kind of preschool they attend. I'm also one of those parents who gets tired of reading parents whose first child is a kindergartener complaining and much prefer to read posts by moms who have been through the system, however I can understand the fears of new parents sometimes too.