This is the kind of crap men do that give them a bad rap on these boards

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what the OP is conccerned about is the fact that many men are not on top of the details of how their children's lives function. Making sure that every kid has several pieces of each type of clothing in the appropriate size, that there is childcare coverage for school closings, that permission slips are returned, that homework gets done, that pediatricians' appointments are made, that special medical diets are followed, that presents are purchased for the in-laws anniversary etc. are frequently handled by women. This stuff takes tremendous mental energy and planning. Time diaries show that men play with their kids more these days, but that women are doing a lot of the rest of the child-related responsibilities.

This isn't universal. I know plenty of men who pull their weight in this respect, but it's probably less than 40%. Whether it's nature or nurture, I don't know.

I am one who believes that if OP meant all that...she she would have said all that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Holy crap, I certainly touched a nerve with a lot of you haven't I? Last post because quite frankly, many of you are just a-holes.

The no-lovey-outside rule wasn't my nagging rule just to piss my husband off. It was OUR rule because we were sick of looking for thing wondering where it was. WE decided keep it in the house, contain it, and at least we'll know it's somewhere in the house.

I didn't have a "night on the town." My friend was on an extended layover; we met at the airport. I know, try to contain your excitement about how much fun I must have been having! So unbelievably selfish of me, I know. My husband is in school, I work full time, and yes, I take the majority of childcare responsibilities because of his school schedule. One night away and he screws up. BS if you all wouldn't be pissed.

Did I have words with him? No, and PP I couldn't care less if you raise your hand or not. I had a distraught kid and I was actually trying to find the thing. How can I be yelling at him, trying to get her to sleep, and looking outside at the same time? My focus wasn't on my husband, it was on my kid.

And today, he said he was sorry, he screwed up, and looked around for it. It's still gone, but she'll survive and all will be well. No need to feel sorry for my kid for having me as her mother. No need for divorce as a few of you advised. I might even go out for dinner again with my friends!! I actually have sex with my husband. It was a VENT.

And I stand by my opinion.

Again, what makes you think you can come here and vent about something so stupid? This isn't some womanspace for venting.

[Anonymous]

The OP needs to remove her thong which must be stuck up her ass and get on with life. Shits happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Holy crap, I certainly touched a nerve with a lot of you haven't I? Last post because quite frankly, many of you are just a-holes.

The no-lovey-outside rule wasn't my nagging rule just to piss my husband off. It was OUR rule because we were sick of looking for thing wondering where it was. WE decided keep it in the house, contain it, and at least we'll know it's somewhere in the house.

I didn't have a "night on the town." My friend was on an extended layover; we met at the airport. I know, try to contain your excitement about how much fun I must have been having! So unbelievably selfish of me, I know. My husband is in school, I work full time, and yes, I take the majority of childcare responsibilities because of his school schedule. One night away and he screws up. BS if you all wouldn't be pissed.

Did I have words with him? No, and PP I couldn't care less if you raise your hand or not. I had a distraught kid and I was actually trying to find the thing. How can I be yelling at him, trying to get her to sleep, and looking outside at the same time? My focus wasn't on my husband, it was on my kid.

And today, he said he was sorry, he screwed up, and looked around for it. It's still gone, but she'll survive and all will be well. No need to feel sorry for my kid for having me as her mother. No need for divorce as a few of you advised. I might even go out for dinner again with my friends!! I actually have sex with my husband. It was a VENT.

And I stand by my opinion.

Again, what makes you think you can come here and vent about something so stupid? This isn't some womanspace for venting.

What makes you think you can come here and vent about someone venting about something you think is stupid? This isn't some open forum discussion or anything, where people can actually choose what they want to read and what they want to post!! Oh, wait...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH Here. This exact situation happened with my DD, only it was under my wife's watch that the prized stuffed animal was lost. You are angry, but it is not a man thing. It is a "your" husband thing.

Our kids have never lost one, but I'm a mom and the only parent that allows them to occasionally take lovies on outings!

[Anonymous]

OP you sound like a total bitch and if I were your husband I would be thinking about leaving you. My god, have you never lost something important. Get a grip and also do not let your child behave in this way. She lost it, she must deal with the consequences. You need to apologize to your husband at once for your behavior. Unless he through the lovey away on purpose you are way out of line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound like a total bitch and if I were your husband I would be thinking about leaving you. My god, have you never lost something important. Get a grip and also do not let your child behave in this way. She lost it, she must deal with the consequences. You need to apologize to your husband at once for your behavior. Unless he through the lovey away on purpose you are way out of line.

It always cracks me up on this board - people bitching about people's overreaction to something by suggesting that their spouses divorce them and control their children's behavior when they weren't even there. Okaaaaaaaaay.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP, did you find your kid's lovey?

[Anonymous]

Wtf is a "lovey"

And hes a man. Give him a break. Women are naturals at little kid issues, men are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, did you find your kid's lovey?

No, we never did. But my husband never left me, and we're still married! Go figure! Haters can suck it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, did you find your kid's lovey?

No, we never did. But my husband never left me, and we're still married! Go figure! Haters can suck it!

Thanks for asking by the way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wtf is a "lovey"

And hes a man. Give him a break. Women are naturals at little kid issues, men are not.

At least I'm not the only one who doesn't know what a lovely is. I'm going to assume its a regional thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wtf is a "lovey"

And hes a man. Give him a break. Women are naturals at little kid issues, men are not.

I am a mom, and I do not know what a lovey is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf is a "lovey"

And hes a man. Give him a break. Women are naturals at little kid issues, men are not.

I am a mom, and I do not know what a lovey is.

I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

15:10 here. I asked about the "lovey" because that's what OP said in her initial post/rant. BTW OP, I only asked because I actually wanted to know if you found it and how your DD was doing with/without it. But now I agree with the other posters, you do seem like a bitch.