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Anonymous wrote:Those with separate accounts have control issues or can't agree on anything; they are surely destined for divorce......
Uh, wrong. That is just a simplistic view of marriage. Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to give up all your independence. DH and I have a joint account from which we pay common expenses. That is also what both of our take home pay goes into. But we each get separate "allowances" so we don't have to run everything by each other. We are generally on the same page with most things, but it's important to both of us to also be able to do things on our own. DH likes to take an occasional trip to Atlantic City and gamble. He can drop $1000 on that trip and it wouldn't bother me because he is using his spending money -- that is his form of entertainment. But it would bother me if it were coming out of our joint account because to me gambling is a frivolous activity and I could think of better ways to spend the money. I, on the other hand, like to pamper myself with regular massages, which DH would find frivolous. But as long as I'm using my spending money, he doesn't care.
Not all marriages work the same way. It all depends on your financial situation and your outlook on how a marriage should be. But to say that people who have separate accounts have control issues and are destined for divorce, is just plain ignorant.
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