Would you trade in your engagement ring for an eternity band?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yet another wonderful DCUM thread where all of the bitter people come out who can't afford what the OP can. Fabulous. Of course those posters wouldn't be making their foul comments if the OP said she wanted to downsize and have a smaller ring.

OP, ignore all of these obnoxious jealous people, think about it a little longer and then discuss what you want to do with your husband.

Not bitter. Could afford it. Definitely not jealous. Would feel the same way about downsizing-- still would not want to trade in my engagement ring.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a chance, but then I wouldn't walk around with that many carats on my finger, anyway. It says a whole lot about who you are and what you value. I prefer to pass through life making less of a statement.

Just replace the baguette.

You guys realize that a 4-5 carat engagement ring is not actually that big, right? 4-5 carat total - a collection of small stones.

A 5-carat diamond ring runs $20K or more. To those wondering about people who are bitter - no. I'm not bitter. I - and I'm assuming others here - just can't get over the gall of people who think that a $20K engagement ring is no big deal. Do you watch the news? Do you have any fucking idea what a flippant bitch you sound like making these comments when the average household income is around $50K/yr and so many people are out of work? Have a little self awareness - not to mention awareness of the reality of the vast majority of people in this world that is totally different from yours. I'm guessing this PP is the same bitch who posted asking people to explain being "poor" b/c the poor "fascinate" her. Your unmitigated gall fascinates me.

Lady, I (and the OP) can do whatever the hell we want with our money - for all you know, the OP has also donated $20K to charity this year. And for your information, since you've chosen to judge me, I'm the person that you quoted, and my engagement ring actually cost less than $2000 and contains no diamonds.

I'm the original poster the quoter quoted. I realize exactly what 4-5 carat band looks like with small stones. You can tell me to the end of time that it isn't "that big" and you are wrong. It is a big statement to walk around every day with that on your finger. People do judge. You may not care, or you may like being judged that way.... whatever. I don't care. But people do judge. I personally prefer to pass through life having strangers know less about me. YMMV.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a chance, but then I wouldn't walk around with that many carats on my finger, anyway. It says a whole lot about who you are and what you value. I prefer to pass through life making less of a statement.

Just replace the baguette.

You guys realize that a 4-5 carat engagement ring is not actually that big, right? 4-5 carat total - a collection of small stones.

A 5-carat diamond ring runs $20K or more. To those wondering about people who are bitter - no. I'm not bitter. I - and I'm assuming others here - just can't get over the gall of people who think that a $20K engagement ring is no big deal. Do you watch the news? Do you have any fucking idea what a flippant bitch you sound like making these comments when the average household income is around $50K/yr and so many people are out of work? Have a little self awareness - not to mention awareness of the reality of the vast majority of people in this world that is totally different from yours. I'm guessing this PP is the same bitch who posted asking people to explain being "poor" b/c the poor "fascinate" her. Your unmitigated gall fascinates me.

Lady, I (and the OP) can do whatever the hell we want with our money - for all you know, the OP has also donated $20K to charity this year. And for your information, since you've chosen to judge me, I'm the person that you quoted, and my engagement ring actually cost less than $2000 and contains no diamonds.

I'm the original poster the quoter quoted. I realize exactly what 4-5 carat band looks like with small stones. You can tell me to the end of time that it isn't "that big" and you are wrong. It is a big statement to walk around every day with that on your finger. People do judge. You may not care, or you may like being judged that way.... whatever. I don't care. But people do judge. I personally prefer to pass through life having strangers know less about me. YMMV.

I disagree. I don't think people pay that much attention, or really judge. I have some flipping amazing family jewels and I don't think people judge me for wearing them. Small stones people tend not to notice or register that much and larger stones are very often assumed fake. Maybe YOU judge diamonds or jewelry. I see lots of nice jewelry everywhere, it never makes me think twice.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read this entire thread (and wow do they get nasty) but I would never turn in my engagement ring regardless of size. It means too much to me. For those with small rings, that's where we came from (I have much bigger rings now than my engagement ring but not $20k!) I never want to trade up and if I ever lost that ring it would destroy me. I wear others to celebrate anniversaries, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a chance, but then I wouldn't walk around with that many carats on my finger, anyway. It says a whole lot about who you are and what you value. I prefer to pass through life making less of a statement.

Just replace the baguette.

You guys realize that a 4-5 carat engagement ring is not actually that big, right? 4-5 carat total - a collection of small stones.

A 5-carat diamond ring runs $20K or more. To those wondering about people who are bitter - no. I'm not bitter. I - and I'm assuming others here - just can't get over the gall of people who think that a $20K engagement ring is no big deal. Do you watch the news? Do you have any fucking idea what a flippant bitch you sound like making these comments when the average household income is around $50K/yr and so many people are out of work? Have a little self awareness - not to mention awareness of the reality of the vast majority of people in this world that is totally different from yours. I'm guessing this PP is the same bitch who posted asking people to explain being "poor" b/c the poor "fascinate" her. Your unmitigated gall fascinates me.

PP, you are mistaken here. I think these eternity bands are crap and and cheese ball--but the reality is that the individual stones are NOT 4-5 carats--that would be a GINORMOUS band that you'd not be able to close your fist with it on. Rather, I'm sure the OP is referring the TOTAL weight of the stones together--which is what these QVC looking crap e-bands are. They are crass not because of what they cost--you can get one for 3-4k, hardly a kings ransom. The whole RHONJ look of them is what I find hilariously distasteful.

[Anonymous]

Eternity bands...tacky. My MIL talks about going to Tysons to look for one. They remind me of the jewelry section of the old JC Penney and Sears catalogs. Right next to the girdles. I guess Walmart and QVC are today's equivalent. If you go the QVC route you don't even have to get out of your housecoat.

Thanks for helping out the economy though, I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a chance, but then I wouldn't walk around with that many carats on my finger, anyway. It says a whole lot about who you are and what you value. I prefer to pass through life making less of a statement.

Just replace the baguette.

You guys realize that a 4-5 carat engagement ring is not actually that big, right? 4-5 carat total - a collection of small stones.

A 5-carat diamond ring runs $20K or more. To those wondering about people who are bitter - no. I'm not bitter. I - and I'm assuming others here - just can't get over the gall of people who think that a $20K engagement ring is no big deal. Do you watch the news? Do you have any fucking idea what a flippant bitch you sound like making these comments when the average household income is around $50K/yr and so many people are out of work? Have a little self awareness - not to mention awareness of the reality of the vast majority of people in this world that is totally different from yours. I'm guessing this PP is the same bitch who posted asking people to explain being "poor" b/c the poor "fascinate" her. Your unmitigated gall fascinates me.

Lady, I (and the OP) can do whatever the hell we want with our money - for all you know, the OP has also donated $20K to charity this year. And for your information, since you've chosen to judge me, I'm the person that you quoted, and my engagement ring actually cost less than $2000 and contains no diamonds.

I'm the original poster the quoter quoted. I realize exactly what 4-5 carat band looks like with small stones. You can tell me to the end of time that it isn't "that big" and you are wrong. It is a big statement to walk around every day with that on your finger. People do judge. You may not care, or you may like being judged that way.... whatever. I don't care. But people do judge. I personally prefer to pass through life having strangers know less about me. YMMV.

But here's the thing about a person who comes to this thread a billion times to check what is being said about this and comes across as so superior to others that wear diamonds--strangers or people who are your acquaintances can probably detect what a pia you are in many other attitudes that you strongly hold. It must be really hard for you to go around judging people bitterly because they buy a piece of jewelry for personal reasons. Sheesh; get a hobby.

[Anonymous]

I judge people who feel they have to come out strongly against diamonds of any kind. I find that they are self righteous sorts who have a huge stick up their arses. Trust me, everyone knows what a difficult personality you no doubt have and good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

And I judge people who come to an anonymous forum to ask about their expensive jewelry purchases as if it's a decision of any actual importance. So I guess we're even.

[Anonymous]

If my wife wanted to trade in her Tiffany engagement ring -- something I worked hard to be able to afford because I wanted her to have something special -- I'd be upset.

[Anonymous]

If your engagement ring signifies your relationship, then you are a sad, sad lot.