What is the 5% chance at 42 based on?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I will probably get blasted for this, but why don't you just count your blessings that you have two healthy children and leave it at that? The stats are not in your favor and given that you have said yourself you can't afford the cost, why not just accept what you have and be grateful for what you have? I know that family planning is a personal and individual thing, but there is much to be said for accepting life as it is and being grateful that you have so many blessings, instead of wanting what you don't/can't have.

OP here. It's a legitimate thought - a good question. I have asked it myself. Once we made the leap to do the FET it changed everything. By making the decision to go forward with that, we alos made a decision that our family was not complete and that we really did want one more. I am grateful for what I have beyond what I could put into words. I was one of those people who didn't care about having children when I was younger. I had no idea that I was going to love being a mother this much. I used to think my job was everything and I led a great life. And I guess I did but I had no idea what I was missing. Now that I know, if I could do it all over again and stary younger, I might have been one of those women who have 4+ kids, if I could have. So I am grateful, which also makes me want more. I just love them so much!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I will probably get blasted for this, but why don't you just count your blessings that you have two healthy children and leave it at that? The stats are not in your favor and given that you have said yourself you can't afford the cost, why not just accept what you have and be grateful for what you have? I know that family planning is a personal and individual thing, but there is much to be said for accepting life as it is and being grateful that you have so many blessings, instead of wanting what you don't/can't have.

OP here. It's a legitimate thought - a good question. I have asked it myself. Once we made the leap to do the FET it changed everything. By making the decision to go forward with that, we alos made a decision that our family was not complete and that we really did want one more. I am grateful for what I have beyond what I could put into words. I was one of those people who didn't care about having children when I was younger. I had no idea that I was going to love being a mother this much. I used to think my job was everything and I led a great life. And I guess I did but I had no idea what I was missing. Now that I know, if I could do it all over again and stary younger, I might have been one of those women who have 4+ kids, if I could have. So I am grateful, which also makes me want more. I just love them so much!

I totally get you. I am a few years younger with one child, but I was (and am) exactly like you. I hope you get your third.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do any local clinics do PGD?

The clinics I spoke to all said they would not to PGD for AMA only. You have so few eggs and it is hard on them so you are better preceding without it.

[Anonymous]

someone mentioned that not everyone can produce or get blasts. I understand and it is true, not everyone will. It's not a fair game. Thats what makes this all so difficult.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I will probably get blasted for this, but why don't you just count your blessings that you have two healthy children and leave it at that? The stats are not in your favor and given that you have said yourself you can't afford the cost, why not just accept what you have and be grateful for what you have? I know that family planning is a personal and individual thing, but there is much to be said for accepting life as it is and being grateful that you have so many blessings, instead of wanting what you don't/can't have.

OP here. It's a legitimate thought - a good question. I have asked it myself. Once we made the leap to do the FET it changed everything. By making the decision to go forward with that, we alos made a decision that our family was not complete and that we really did want one more. I am grateful for what I have beyond what I could put into words. I was one of those people who didn't care about having children when I was younger. I had no idea that I was going to love being a mother this much. I used to think my job was everything and I led a great life. And I guess I did but I had no idea what I was missing. Now that I know, if I could do it all over again and stary younger, I might have been one of those women who have 4+ kids, if I could have. So I am grateful, which also makes me want more. I just love them so much!

I totally get you. I am a few years younger with one child, but I was (and am) exactly like you. I hope you get your third.[/quote

Me too. I think this is a wonderful reason to try. I don't know if it makes sense to keep trying (and accept that you might have to have several miscarriages) or to do PGD. The downside of trying is that you are taking time away from your kids with worry and with pregnancy losses. With each miscarriage, I regret the energy that I didn't give to my DC. However, PGD is expensive and without guarantee. If you do go that route, GWU does it.