Why do children of the wealthy and successful need tutoring ?

[Anonymous]

Why? Because it's an arms race, and everybody is worried about falling behind everybody else. Back in the day - when I was in HS a long time ago - my HS in a medium-sized northeastern state didn't have AP classes, and tutoring for SATs was unheard of.

Now everybody who can does SAT tutoring. Why? Because everybody else is doing it and getting that 100-200 point advantage you supposedly (note the qualifier) get from SAT tutoring, so you don't want your own kid to be left behind.

Same with tutoring for regular classes like math. My DD's classes are much, much harder than anything I took, and I went to a pretty good high school and then college. And I have to confess, even though both DH and I took math through college calculus, neither of us could help either of our kids in math now.

So do the cave men. Information and knowledge doesn't stand still no matter how excellent your school was 50 years ago. I would expect your children to be faster, jump higher and be more informed than you were at their age.

[Anonymous]

Well, there must be something wrong if you still need tutoring despite attending such a fancy school
Remember:
HHI + zip code = high iq

1)HHI + zip code = High IQ

2)High IQ = test prep + tutors + multiple test taking attempts

3)Test prep + tutors + multiple test taking attempts = HHI + zip code

[Anonymous]

Actually, in our family's case it's highly academically successful and hard-working grandparents on both sides, followed by highly academically successful parents (and professionally successful parents in the sense of having significant autonomy, responsibity and authority in intellectually-engaging, socially-useful jobs), followed by kids who are intellectually engaged and fun. Both my husband and I had tutors at different times growing up, for a combination of remediation (after a family tragedy) and acceleration. Not one of us has scored lower than the equivalent of a 150 IQ, nor have any of us ever had any difficulty keeping up academically or socially with out peers through high school or in the ivy college and grad schools we attended. Not bring defensive, but there seems to be a presumption that the kids of successful parents, or kids in pirovate school, somehow can't keep up with peers in public school. In our case it's that thd private scho offers what we want for our kids, and the tuition isn't all that relevant in our financial situation. Same with tutors.

HHI + zip code + trust fund = high IQ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Actually, in our family's case it's highly academically successful and hard-working grandparents on both sides, followed by highly academically successful parents (and professionally successful parents in the sense of having significant autonomy, responsibity and authority in intellectually-engaging, socially-useful jobs), followed by kids who are intellectually engaged and fun. Both my husband and I had tutors at different times growing up, for a combination of remediation (after a family tragedy) and acceleration. Not one of us has scored lower than the equivalent of a 150 IQ, nor have any of us ever had any difficulty keeping up academically or socially with out peers through high school or in the ivy college and grad schools we attended. Not bring defensive, but there seems to be a presumption that the kids of successful parents, or kids in pirovate school, somehow can't keep up with peers in public school. In our case it's that thd private scho offers what we want for our kids, and the tuition isn't all that relevant in our financial situation. Same with tutors.

HHI + zip code + trust fund = high IQ

PP you are referencing here. Nope, no trust fund at any generational level. Our parents earned their money, and we've earned ours (caveated that our parents paid for our undergraduate educations and my husband's parents for his law school tuition). But you sure do seem intent on finding some way in which children of successful parents should have their own success or intelligence minimized or discredited. Sometimes a smart, hard-working kid is simply a smart, hard-working kid, even if you don't seem to like it that his or her parents are "successful" or have money. Pathetic.