Is it appropriate to give $100 gift cards to teachers/counselor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Id like to see a teacher look a kid straight in the eye and say- you cause a lot of classroom trouble, and stress all year long and the only reason you passed is because my boss makes me pass everyone. No reference. Get out of my classroom.

That teacher would be fired so fast.

It’s actually better to write a negative letter. It wouldn’t be the first time I do it and it certainly won’t be the last. Then, the crocodile tears come pouring in cause Johnny/Larla wasn’t admitted to their “dream *insert whatever delusional thing they thought they would get*”

This, so much this.

You ask me for a recommendation letter, I will write it... but I write the truth. Good, bad, and ugly.

Sorry, but you are a troll. In DC's school, only teachers who could give a strong recommendation would write the letters. Others turned down students. This is the school policy. Also, if you believe that you were given a bad recommendation maliciously, you can sue the teacher and the school.

[Anonymous]

OP, our family gave thank you gifts, cards, letters of appreciation and red envelopes to all three recommenders.

Screw these posters. I am Asian. My child will be a model student, work hard and excel, and treat his teachers with utmost respect.

We show our respect with volunteering, giving generously for staff appreciation and other occasions and giving gifts for thanksgiving and end of school. And we have done that for the entire academic career of my kids.

And by the way, did not even have one single Asian teacher for the 15 years my kids were in school. It was 99% White teachers and one or two Black teachers. NO ONE OBJECTED.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, our family gave thank you gifts, cards, letters of appreciation and red envelopes to all three recommenders.

Screw these posters. I am Asian. My child will be a model student, work hard and excel, and treat his teachers with utmost respect.

We show our respect with volunteering, giving generously for staff appreciation and other occasions and giving gifts for thanksgiving and end of school. And we have done that for the entire academic career of my kids.

And by the way, did not even have one single Asian teacher for the 15 years my kids were in school. It was 99% White teachers and one or two Black teachers. NO ONE OBJECTED.

They’re teachers who don’t get generous gifts and know many of their colleagues do. Policing parents on an anonymous board is easier than having greater self-awareness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, our family gave thank you gifts, cards, letters of appreciation and red envelopes to all three recommenders.

Screw these posters. I am Asian. My child will be a model student, work hard and excel, and treat his teachers with utmost respect.

We show our respect with volunteering, giving generously for staff appreciation and other occasions and giving gifts for thanksgiving and end of school. And we have done that for the entire academic career of my kids.

And by the way, did not even have one single Asian teacher for the 15 years my kids were in school. It was 99% White teachers and one or two Black teachers. NO ONE OBJECTED.

They’re teachers who don’t get generous gifts and know many of their colleagues do. Policing parents on an anonymous board is easier than having greater self-awareness.

How? The cash gifts by parents were given privately to the teachers, not in front of everyone. So, how did others know that generous gifts were given?

[Anonymous]

I’ve gotten big gifts a few times. I’ve turned them in to my admin because they break policy/could be construed as bribery.

The awkward part was when I had a sibling the following year and it happened again :/

Thank you cards are lovely, I’ll take those forever and ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, our family gave thank you gifts, cards, letters of appreciation and red envelopes to all three recommenders.

Screw these posters. I am Asian. My child will be a model student, work hard and excel, and treat his teachers with utmost respect.

We show our respect with volunteering, giving generously for staff appreciation and other occasions and giving gifts for thanksgiving and end of school. And we have done that for the entire academic career of my kids.

And by the way, did not even have one single Asian teacher for the 15 years my kids were in school. It was 99% White teachers and one or two Black teachers. NO ONE OBJECTED.

They’re teachers who don’t get generous gifts and know many of their colleagues do. Policing parents on an anonymous board is easier than having greater self-awareness.

How? The cash gifts by parents were given privately to the teachers, not in front of everyone. So, how did others know that generous gifts were given?

Teachers are human— they talk and they compare. They might not say they got $300 from Larla but they say Larla’s family gave me a really nice gift or I used the check Larla’s parents wrote to get ______.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, our family gave thank you gifts, cards, letters of appreciation and red envelopes to all three recommenders.

Screw these posters. I am Asian. My child will be a model student, work hard and excel, and treat his teachers with utmost respect.

We show our respect with volunteering, giving generously for staff appreciation and other occasions and giving gifts for thanksgiving and end of school. And we have done that for the entire academic career of my kids.

And by the way, did not even have one single Asian teacher for the 15 years my kids were in school. It was 99% White teachers and one or two Black teachers. NO ONE OBJECTED.

I object. I will not accept money for recommendation letters. I have turned down monetary gifts in the past, and when a family insists then I simply donate the money. My sense of ethics is more important to me than a gift card.

Your “screw these posters” says a lot about you. You don’t really care about teachers if you think your money is more important than their wishes. That not respectful, as you claim to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, our family gave thank you gifts, cards, letters of appreciation and red envelopes to all three recommenders.

Screw these posters. I am Asian. My child will be a model student, work hard and excel, and treat his teachers with utmost respect.

We show our respect with volunteering, giving generously for staff appreciation and other occasions and giving gifts for thanksgiving and end of school. And we have done that for the entire academic career of my kids.

And by the way, did not even have one single Asian teacher for the 15 years my kids were in school. It was 99% White teachers and one or two Black teachers. NO ONE OBJECTED.

I object. I will not accept money for recommendation letters. I have turned down monetary gifts in the past, and when a family insists then I simply donate the money. My sense of ethics is more important to me than a gift card.

Your “screw these posters” says a lot about you. You don’t really care about teachers if you think your money is more important than their wishes. That not respectful, as you claim to be.

You seem to think your wishes are more important than those of the teachers who have been appreciative of such gifts. Why are you so disrespectful of other teachers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, our family gave thank you gifts, cards, letters of appreciation and red envelopes to all three recommenders.

Screw these posters. I am Asian. My child will be a model student, work hard and excel, and treat his teachers with utmost respect.

We show our respect with volunteering, giving generously for staff appreciation and other occasions and giving gifts for thanksgiving and end of school. And we have done that for the entire academic career of my kids.

And by the way, did not even have one single Asian teacher for the 15 years my kids were in school. It was 99% White teachers and one or two Black teachers. NO ONE OBJECTED.

I object. I will not accept money for recommendation letters. I have turned down monetary gifts in the past, and when a family insists then I simply donate the money. My sense of ethics is more important to me than a gift card.

Your “screw these posters” says a lot about you. You don’t really care about teachers if you think your money is more important than their wishes. That not respectful, as you claim to be.

So, you do take the money. What you do with the money is your choice. You can donate it (like you say you do) or wipe your azz with it - it is yours to do with it as you wish.

I am guessing you are not a teacher. I am guessing you are a poor trailer trash Karen actually. Your rage is because you cannot afford to give gifts to teachers and that your culture actually really disrespects teachers.

[Anonymous]

Not more than $25. Otherwise they cannot accept. Unless it's a private school. When I taught in one, parents would regularly fund teachers with cash and gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, our family gave thank you gifts, cards, letters of appreciation and red envelopes to all three recommenders.

Screw these posters. I am Asian. My child will be a model student, work hard and excel, and treat his teachers with utmost respect.

We show our respect with volunteering, giving generously for staff appreciation and other occasions and giving gifts for thanksgiving and end of school. And we have done that for the entire academic career of my kids.

And by the way, did not even have one single Asian teacher for the 15 years my kids were in school. It was 99% White teachers and one or two Black teachers. NO ONE OBJECTED.

I object. I will not accept money for recommendation letters. I have turned down monetary gifts in the past, and when a family insists then I simply donate the money. My sense of ethics is more important to me than a gift card.

Your “screw these posters” says a lot about you. You don’t really care about teachers if you think your money is more important than their wishes. That not respectful, as you claim to be.

So, you do take the money. What you do with the money is your choice. You can donate it (like you say you do) or wipe your azz with it - it is yours to do with it as you wish.

I am guessing you are not a teacher. I am guessing you are a poor trailer trash Karen actually. Your rage is because you cannot afford to give gifts to teachers and that your culture actually really disrespects teachers.

Sigh. DCUM at its finest, I see.

I am a teacher and this happens to me every year. I have to graciously tell parents that I won’t accept cash or gift cards. When it becomes evident that they won’t take “no” for an answer, I tell them that I’ll be taking the card to the main office so it can be used for the school’s benefit. I won’t accept money for recommendations; it’s unethical.

I appreciate others don’t themselves to my standards and I can’t change that.