Do men care about emotional intimacy?

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the relationship dynamics. If the man loves the woman way more, the emotional intimacy and connection are much stronger. As a result, the man is much more emotionally connected to his kids. In situations where the woman is doing all the emotional labor and the couple has poor emotional intimacy it seems like it’s because the woman chased the man at the start of the relationship or gave them an ultimatum for marriage. The man was just going along with everything and is generally complacent. If a man truly loves you and cherishes you he will definitely want an emotional connection. A lot of complacent men use women for various reasons and benefit off of their labor and the benefits are all they care about. Their needs are getting met fully and they don’t need emotional intimacy because that’s not why they married the woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the relationship dynamics. If the man loves the woman way more, the emotional intimacy and connection are much stronger. As a result, the man is much more emotionally connected to his kids. In situations where the woman is doing all the emotional labor and the couple has poor emotional intimacy it seems like it’s because the woman chased the man at the start of the relationship or gave them an ultimatum for marriage. The man was just going along with everything and is generally complacent. If a man truly loves you and cherishes you he will definitely want an emotional connection. A lot of complacent men use women for various reasons and benefit off of their labor and the benefits are all they care about. Their needs are getting met fully and they don’t need emotional intimacy because that’s not why they married the woman.

No, just no. Men who feel emotional connection don’t marry women for free labor. It’s not because she “chased” him. These men are just not capable to connect: you see men getting second, third sets if kids and families. They certainly didn’t connect well to either of their family sets

I’m convinced that ability to emotionally connect stems from childhood, life experiences and not all men are capable connect , no matter what a woman does

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40yo woman so have dated from 25-50yo men. I think a lot of it is generational.

The older men I've dated couldn't have cared less about an emotional connection. Sometimes they just wanted sex, often they wanted a woman to make their own lives easier.

But the younger men I've dated absolutely want one. They're looking for a true partner in every sense of the word, and I think a lot of that comes from watching their own parents' dysfunctional relationships.

I'm currently dating a 30yo old man who is successful and smoking hot. He could have literally any woman he wanted. But he prioritizes emotional connection and long-term relationship potential over sex, so he's been very picky.

If you're having trouble with older guys, try going younger. Early 30s seems to be a pretty good place, they're ready to settle down but not yet jaded like older men.

Your experience with younger men is more like a self selected group who are looking for a mommy figure. The 30-somethings you are not dating are probably more the average male.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just FYI if you stop caring about sex then he will stop caring about emotional intimacy - or housework, or things you want, or talking to you at all.

The reverse sequence happened for me. No help at home, what?! I wanted something? You never said anything... and I cant remember your mother's name or the company you work for.