Is NCS actually a pressure cooker?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid comes from public middle and feels the pressure mostly from academic. There are a lot of high achievers around. She was amazed some would depress at 95 out of 100. Although she also feels the pressure from money (some kids do wear Prada/Cartier to school, and seems many have tutors or therapists), I think she knows how to manage that at this age.

Gavin a therapist is striving goal and marker of eliteness! What a world we live in. In Europe kids just play outside.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is doing great in the MS and received similarly good grades in the LS. I’m considering transferring her out to a less rigorous school for Hs so she can be the top dog at a less demanding school. Has anyone tried this?

Where would that be? At a mediocre private maybe. At any decent public school, there will be hundreds of students per grade, and the top students will be just as bright as at NCS, but there will be more of them. And there will be plenty of AP and IB classes offered, so if the kid is struggling with "college level coursework" they're not going to avoid it by going elsewhere.

Precisely. Don’t you think it is easier to standout at a smaller / mediocre private than at a school like NCS with its harsh marking, legacy and athlete college spots and exceptional student body?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never understood why the crowd views “college was easier than HS” as a positive. The point is for college to be a step up and to promote more greater breadth and depth of exploration in subjects, thinking, and interaction with people and culture. hS is supposed to be preparation for this, not overtake it.

Frankly the fact the a HS would be well known for destroying the mental and emotional wellness of teens and still be supported is sick. We can challenge our kids with rigorous curriculum and expectations so as to build a great work ethic without simultaneously trying to destroy them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Current family of an US student--I found LS to be nurturing, MS the right amount of a step up but the step from 8th to 9th was too big in terms of academic expectations.

I think the problem of these rigorous HS Sidwell, big 3 including NCS is the MS is too easy. Why can't they make MS a bit more rigrous, teach a bit more math and physics and writing?

Parent of Sidwell students, and I agree with this. The MS should be a strong building block for expectations in the US.

MS teacher here familiar with these programs. MS is developmentally appropriate. There needs to be a better bridge from 9th grade, they seem to want them college ready at 14. They balance out by 10th grade.

[Anonymous]

NCS grad here…unfortunately, the premise that academic rigor "destroys" a high school experience is fundamentally flawed. While the challenging academic environment of NCS may not be the right fit for every student, nor should it be, for the girls for whom it is the right fit, it is so, so right. We absolutely thrived on challenge, competition (primarily with ourselves!), and academic rigor. We loved having the bar set high, striving to meet it, and then having it raised again. We loved pushing ourselves to be the best we could be, and we daily leaned into the challenge and rigor rather than shying away from it. It is exciting to explore how far you can go, how much you can learn and accomplish, and the extent of your talents and intellect. Setting the bar lower and complaining about undo "pressure" only serves to undermine motivation, increase anxiety, and self-efficacy. Psychological evidence shows that optimal performance depends on autonomy, competence, and meaningful challenge; lowering expectations erodes perceived competence, while persistent focus on pressure heightens threat appraisal. Said another way, when expectations are set too low, individuals infer that they are not capable, and this reduced belief in ability increases anxiety because effort feels less likely to lead to success, making challenges seem threatening rather than manageable. Conversely, appropriately high expectations paired with support communicate belief in ability, strengthening self-efficacy, increasing persistence, and buffering against anxiety. Framing demands as overwhelming can shift individuals into a stress mindset, increasing anxiety and avoidance. In contrast, appropriately challenging goals promote self-efficacy and resilience, reducing anxiety and improving outcomes. NCS taught me never to put limits on my abilities, and I have since gone on to be a NCAA Division I collegiate athlete, earn two Master's degrees (one was a 2-year degree that I earned in only a year), maintain successful, thriving careers in two completely different fields, and am the founder and executive director of three different LLCs. NCS gave me wings. I wouldn’t trade my NCS education for anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NCS grad here…unfortunately, the premise that academic rigor "destroys" a high school experience is fundamentally flawed. While the challenging academic environment of NCS may not be the right fit for every student, nor should it be, for the girls for whom it is the right fit, it is so, so right. We absolutely thrived on challenge, competition (primarily with ourselves!), and academic rigor. We loved having the bar set high, striving to meet it, and then having it raised again. We loved pushing ourselves to be the best we could be, and we daily leaned into the challenge and rigor rather than shying away from it. It is exciting to explore how far you can go, how much you can learn and accomplish, and the extent of your talents and intellect. Setting the bar lower and complaining about undo "pressure" only serves to undermine motivation, increase anxiety, and self-efficacy. Psychological evidence shows that optimal performance depends on autonomy, competence, and meaningful challenge; lowering expectations erodes perceived competence, while persistent focus on pressure heightens threat appraisal. Said another way, when expectations are set too low, individuals infer that they are not capable, and this reduced belief in ability increases anxiety because effort feels less likely to lead to success, making challenges seem threatening rather than manageable. Conversely, appropriately high expectations paired with support communicate belief in ability, strengthening self-efficacy, increasing persistence, and buffering against anxiety. Framing demands as overwhelming can shift individuals into a stress mindset, increasing anxiety and avoidance. In contrast, appropriately challenging goals promote self-efficacy and resilience, reducing anxiety and improving outcomes. NCS taught me never to put limits on my abilities, and I have since gone on to be a NCAA Division I collegiate athlete, earn two Master's degrees (one was a 2-year degree that I earned in only a year), maintain successful, thriving careers in two completely different fields, and am the founder and executive director of three different LLCs. NCS gave me wings. I wouldn’t trade my NCS education for anything.

But NCS did not teach you about paragraphs?

[Anonymous]

Are you for real?

[Anonymous]

Many thanks for your profoundly astute comment. Thanks also for noting that we are engaging in dialogue on a crude messaging forum.

[Anonymous]

She learned to write just like AI.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NCS grad here…unfortunately, the premise that academic rigor "destroys" a high school experience is fundamentally flawed. While the challenging academic environment of NCS may not be the right fit for every student, nor should it be, for the girls for whom it is the right fit, it is so, so right. We absolutely thrived on challenge, competition (primarily with ourselves!), and academic rigor. We loved having the bar set high, striving to meet it, and then having it raised again. We loved pushing ourselves to be the best we could be, and we daily leaned into the challenge and rigor rather than shying away from it. It is exciting to explore how far you can go, how much you can learn and accomplish, and the extent of your talents and intellect. Setting the bar lower and complaining about undo "pressure" only serves to undermine motivation, increase anxiety, and self-efficacy. Psychological evidence shows that optimal performance depends on autonomy, competence, and meaningful challenge; lowering expectations erodes perceived competence, while persistent focus on pressure heightens threat appraisal. Said another way, when expectations are set too low, individuals infer that they are not capable, and this reduced belief in ability increases anxiety because effort feels less likely to lead to success, making challenges seem threatening rather than manageable. Conversely, appropriately high expectations paired with support communicate belief in ability, strengthening self-efficacy, increasing persistence, and buffering against anxiety. Framing demands as overwhelming can shift individuals into a stress mindset, increasing anxiety and avoidance. In contrast, appropriately challenging goals promote self-efficacy and resilience, reducing anxiety and improving outcomes. NCS taught me never to put limits on my abilities, and I have since gone on to be a NCAA Division I collegiate athlete, earn two Master's degrees (one was a 2-year degree that I earned in only a year), maintain successful, thriving careers in two completely different fields, and am the founder and executive director of three different LLCs. NCS gave me wings. I wouldn’t trade my NCS education for anything.

The NCS bot has entered the chat .. and it’s pink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She learned to write just like AI.

Correction: I learned to write BEFORE AI. Long before. Compositions of NCS girls and writing of similar ilk is the stuff AI was trained on. I have no need for artificial intelligence; I have bona fide intelligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NCS grad here…unfortunately, the premise that academic rigor "destroys" a high school experience is fundamentally flawed. While the challenging academic environment of NCS may not be the right fit for every student, nor should it be, for the girls for whom it is the right fit, it is so, so right. We absolutely thrived on challenge, competition (primarily with ourselves!), and academic rigor. We loved having the bar set high, striving to meet it, and then having it raised again. We loved pushing ourselves to be the best we could be, and we daily leaned into the challenge and rigor rather than shying away from it. It is exciting to explore how far you can go, how much you can learn and accomplish, and the extent of your talents and intellect. Setting the bar lower and complaining about undo "pressure" only serves to undermine motivation, increase anxiety, and self-efficacy. Psychological evidence shows that optimal performance depends on autonomy, competence, and meaningful challenge; lowering expectations erodes perceived competence, while persistent focus on pressure heightens threat appraisal. Said another way, when expectations are set too low, individuals infer that they are not capable, and this reduced belief in ability increases anxiety because effort feels less likely to lead to success, making challenges seem threatening rather than manageable. Conversely, appropriately high expectations paired with support communicate belief in ability, strengthening self-efficacy, increasing persistence, and buffering against anxiety. Framing demands as overwhelming can shift individuals into a stress mindset, increasing anxiety and avoidance. In contrast, appropriately challenging goals promote self-efficacy and resilience, reducing anxiety and improving outcomes. NCS taught me never to put limits on my abilities, and I have since gone on to be a NCAA Division I collegiate athlete, earn two Master's degrees (one was a 2-year degree that I earned in only a year), maintain successful, thriving careers in two completely different fields, and am the founder and executive director of three different LLCs. NCS gave me wings. I wouldn’t trade my NCS education for anything.

The NCS bot has entered the chat .. and it’s pink.

I am not a "bot", I am an alumna, and the name given the chosen text color was "violet". It was intended to be purple...as in, one of the two school colors.

[Anonymous]

This forum really brings out the best of DC. I sincerely hope none of the recent commenters send their children to NCS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NCS grad here…unfortunately, the premise that academic rigor "destroys" a high school experience is fundamentally flawed. While the challenging academic environment of NCS may not be the right fit for every student, nor should it be, for the girls for whom it is the right fit, it is so, so right. We absolutely thrived on challenge, competition (primarily with ourselves!), and academic rigor. We loved having the bar set high, striving to meet it, and then having it raised again. We loved pushing ourselves to be the best we could be, and we daily leaned into the challenge and rigor rather than shying away from it. It is exciting to explore how far you can go, how much you can learn and accomplish, and the extent of your talents and intellect. Setting the bar lower and complaining about undo "pressure" only serves to undermine motivation, increase anxiety, and self-efficacy. Psychological evidence shows that optimal performance depends on autonomy, competence, and meaningful challenge; lowering expectations erodes perceived competence, while persistent focus on pressure heightens threat appraisal. Said another way, when expectations are set too low, individuals infer that they are not capable, and this reduced belief in ability increases anxiety because effort feels less likely to lead to success, making challenges seem threatening rather than manageable. Conversely, appropriately high expectations paired with support communicate belief in ability, strengthening self-efficacy, increasing persistence, and buffering against anxiety. Framing demands as overwhelming can shift individuals into a stress mindset, increasing anxiety and avoidance. In contrast, appropriately challenging goals promote self-efficacy and resilience, reducing anxiety and improving outcomes. NCS taught me never to put limits on my abilities, and I have since gone on to be a NCAA Division I collegiate athlete, earn two Master's degrees (one was a 2-year degree that I earned in only a year), maintain successful, thriving careers in two completely different fields, and am the founder and executive director of three different LLCs. NCS gave me wings. I wouldn’t trade my NCS education for anything.

The NCS bot has entered the chat .. and it’s pink.

I am not a "bot", I am an alumna, and the name given the chosen text color was "violet". It was intended to be purple...as in, one of the two school colors.

If you are really an alumna, your writing is not a great advertisement for NCS.

[Anonymous]

I have nothing to do with NCS, but please remember this is an advice board. No reason to 'grade' people on writing style, typos, etc. We are looking for opinions/ advice/ variety of perspectives.