Why does my parents estate attorney want me to sign something with a notary present?

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if you are still the beneficiary of something of your father's and they would like you to sign away your beneficiary rights?

How do you find out something like this?
…if you’re supposed to receive an inheritance?

Anyone?

You talk to a lawyer, preferably one in the appropriate jurisdiction. This can be complicated and state laws vary.

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Anonymous wrote:Do not under any circumstances sign this document!

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Unless it's a document saying you actually get something, don't sign. You can always contest and say she wasn't in her right mind. It sounds like she's not in her right mind and the age gap alone is evidence

I wouldn't sign a doc saying they "get something" either. That is often how you trick people out of what they are entitled to. Get them excited about the $100 they didn't know about, and they sign away their right to the $1000 they didn't know about either.

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Anonymous wrote:"I am a VP at a F500 company ..."

OP, please let me know if your company is hiring. Because I find it hard to believe someone who is a vice president doesn't have an understanding of basic law.

The fact that you automatically assume they are trying to shut you out indicates you are approaching this issue with negativity and a good bit of paranoia. Especially since you have said they have been generous to you.

As others have mentioned, it could well be they are getting a trust set up and you may be trustee. Or executor. You are trip-wired to think the worse and are acting out on emotion not logic.

As a VP, you should know that any legal documents sent to you for signature needs a legal review. Or don't they do that at your Fortune500 company?

I'm not OP but people like you are truly exhausting. You should really try to spare other humans from interacting with you.

dp. I heartily disagree. This poster laid things out logically and with common sense. Is it the lack of emotion that puts you off? What exactly is wrong with pps take, which actually makes sense?

C’mon. Pp was being a total beyotch.

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This guy IS your dad, OP. I get that he’s not your bio dad, but he is the man who raised you, and your mom has been married to him for almost your entire life.

I’m not saying that he was a good dad. But lots of us have dads who kind of suck.

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Anonymous wrote:I am intrigued by some of the details. Your mother is 15 years older than her husband. They married a few years after your dad died 40 years ago, when you were just 1. I guess your mother could have been in her 40s with a baby and married a man in his 20s. Unusual for sure. And they're still together 40 years later.

I always read these stories thinking of the other perspective. It's possible the mother and husband in this scenario are seeking to protect their estate.

Yes, my mother was in her 40’s and he was in his 20’s. In many ways he co-opted my mother since he had a very absent and dysfunctional mother. I was sent to boarding school at 10 years old (for disruptive kids) because I acted out from the neglect.

I have bitterness from the past, but it’s not about money. I would never challenge what they want to do with their money, and they have actually been very generous with me.

But it is hurtful to imagine they are trying to get me to sign something that is intended to go above and beyond to shut me out when I have never given indication I would be the kind of person to contest a will.

But maybe the PPs are right, and it could be anything. I like the idea to ask to have it sent to me in advance so I review it, potentially with an attorney just so I understand what I am signing.

I'm left with two conclusions based on what you're telling us. One is that where you live or where your mother lives is not in the United States and as such you need to speak to the lawyers of your country as it will have a different legal system and the advice on here are not recognizing a different set of laws surrounding inheritances. The other is that the mother and her husband are taking proactive steps to protect themselves from a disturbed family member.

Ok, Angela Lansbury. I am a VP at a F500 company living in the United States in a different state from my parents. So you are a tad off base.

You are giving us unusual details after unusual details. The latest one is being sent to boarding school for problematic behavior at age 10, which according to your other details, would have occurred sometime in the mid 1990s. Not only are boarding schools for young children extremely few in number, while such schools do exist the kids sent to schools for "behavior" issues are so deeply problematic that these decisions are typically made in conjunction with social workers and often paid for by local educational authorities who realize they don't have the tools and resources in their jurisdiction. But these schools don't just take in a child because the parent thinks they're "disruptive." They're special needs schools. There's a whole set of evaluation metrics and processes involved. And the kids who go to those schools tend to remain special needs type people for the rest of their lives. They're not going to be cured of whatever their problems are. Just managed.

1990s America wasn't a Dickensian novel. Nor is real life a made for TV movie. Which is why the story seems a bit more plausible being set in a different country with different educational systems and ability to send children away at young ages and even different cultural traditions.

Oh my. My ex attended the Hill School in PA at that age in 90s. It's one of the best bearing schools in the country. You wrote a whole lot of nothing.

Yes, there's also the Arthur Morgan School for kids that age which is excellent.

Hill in Pennsylvania never had a boarding division for 10 year old boys, which is the age OP claims to have been sent to boarding school for behavioral issues, at least certainly not in the 1990s. FYI Hill was all boys till 1998. I don't know what the "ex" in this case told you, but I suspect it's a case of someone rushing through google too quickly and not realizing 3rd form is not the same as 3rd grade.

Arthur Morgan is a hippy dippy progressive small boarding school. It starts at 7th grade. OP claims to have been sent away to school at age 10. Even Fessenden doesn't take boarding boys till 5th grade and their mission isn't reforming badly behaving kids. The schools in the US that take in 10 year old kids are almost entirely therapeutic special needs/severe behavioral schools.

It was a school for behavioral issues. I'm not sure why it doesn't seem plausible to you that my mother neglected and abused me and then orchestrated for me to go to a school on the grounds that I was "bad" so that I was no longer an unwelcome distraction in her life. Do you not realize that these schools take money and are very unlikely to turn it down, especially from a family with a relatively "easy" child to care for in comparison to some of the others?

In any case, believe what you'd like. I shared the information only to get it off my chest on anonymous forum.

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It seems very odd for both you and your parents to refer to the man who has been married to your mom since you were a toddler as “not my dad.”

I do think that you have a good point though that you come to DCUM to vent emotions, not to get legal advice!

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He is a very emotionally immature person who has a codependent relationship with my mom. He barely functions as an adult. He never parented me or adopted me. He watched and condoned my mom trying to get rid of me at a young age. So no, I don’t consider him my dad.

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yeah, I’m sorry, but for someone who purports to be a vice president of a fortune 500 company to come on to this website and behave like this is odd.

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Anonymous wrote:It may be some acknowledgment of the plan so you can’t contest the will. Total guess there.

This don’t sign it

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Anonymous wrote:yeah, I’m sorry, but for someone who purports to be a vice president of a fortune 500 company to come on to this website and behave like this is odd.

The trolling around here is exhausting.

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When my dad died (no will) my mom's attorney had us all sign documents waiving our intestate claims to property so it would be just as he had left it all to her. Any legal signature has to be witnessed, and a notary is the proper way to do it if not at the attorney's office. If OP has real concerns about the estate plan (say there is real estate that has been owned by several generations of the family and if mom dies and then husband dies it will all go to his kids who have no history with the property) OP can certainly voice them to her mother, but otherwise let it go and sign it.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if you are still the beneficiary of something of your father's and they would like you to sign away your beneficiary rights?

How do you find out something like this?
…if you’re supposed to receive an inheritance?

Anyone?

My grandfather set up a trust, which went into effect 30+ years ago when he died. It was to stay intact until the [reason for est the trust was no longer at play]. His children were/are the beneficiaries of the trust, which is to be split evenly among his children. The children who died without heirs are not included in the distribution. My uncle died and his 3 kids will split his share. My parent died 18 years ago. I only heard about/provided my contact info 5 years ago when the executor died and a new one was named. The estate is currently being dissolved and efforts to contact all heirs are being made. The executor must make a good faith attempt to locate all heirs before dividing up their share. We are trying to find 2 cousins. We have tried social media, etc. Next step is PI, then move on. Hth

Then doesn't it become unclaimed property?

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Any update OP?