How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?

[Anonymous]

Met mind through a shared hobby (singing).

He was 37 and I was 42 when we got married (after about 2 years together).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.

I am clueless. Please help!

Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.

if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.

An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.

You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?

Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.

That guy in his 30s isn't going to be as ready for marriage and kids as you are.

The vast majority of men have kids in their 30s!!! And get married.

And the vast majority get divorced when they marry before their mid 30s.

Most men simply are not mature enough for marriage until their 40s now. That's a simple fact of the state of the world.

So women must date around 15 years older than themselves.

Women in their 30s need to set realistic expectations and "settle" if they want a family and lasting marriage.

Citation please. The vast majority of my UMC cohort from college and grad school married in their late 20s through mid 30s, including the men.

I know a few families through my kids where women in their late 20s to early thirties married men about 15 years older than them. It does not look like a great situation now that the men are pushing 50 with toddlers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.

I am clueless. Please help!

Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.

if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.

An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.

You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?

Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.

The question is how to meet which you conveniently ignored.

Try church OP

Church for late 30’s man? lol

Okay? I am married. You don't have to like how I got that way but it was through church.

[Anonymous]

It amazes me how many people are looking for love. Don't focus on it and love will find you.

[Anonymous]

Date older than you by several years.

Lower your expectations. Everyone wants to think they are special and a 10/10 beautiful snowflake, but Tyler Durden was right, we are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.

I am clueless. Please help!

Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.

if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.

An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.

You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?

Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.

That guy in his 30s isn't going to be as ready for marriage and kids as you are.

The vast majority of men have kids in their 30s!!! And get married.

And the vast majority get divorced when they marry before their mid 30s.

Most men simply are not mature enough for marriage until their 40s now. That's a simple fact of the state of the world.

So women must date around 15 years older than themselves.

Women in their 30s need to set realistic expectations and "settle" if they want a family and lasting marriage.

Citation please. The vast majority of my UMC cohort from college and grad school married in their late 20s through mid 30s, including the men.

I know a few families through my kids where women in their late 20s to early thirties married men about 15 years older than them. It does not look like a great situation now that the men are pushing 50 with toddlers.

Men these days tend to marry young, have kids, divorce, start over again.

If you want to not be the "first wife" but be the only wife, then marry older more established men who are more mature and ready. Simple.