Do you like shy men?

[Anonymous]

Yes, if it’s “reserved”/ introverted.

No, if it’s anxiety that affects functioning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Strong silent type? Hard pass. Those are usually the serial killers. Women just want a normL guy who can do guy thibgs like make restaurant rsvps, introduce them properlybto friends/coworkers/standup for them if someone spills a drink on them. I predict OP is a basement dwelling incel who is simply looking to complain about having no dates for this weekend.

Op here. Actually I'm a woman just curious what other women prefer.

Ewww! No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People often confuse shy and introverted. There are social introverts. I am married to one.

I don't want to be with a guy who can't deal with himself at a party and who I have to babysit or is a stage 10 clinger or who just avoids normal social situations. Had one of these boyfriends in my 20s. It's easy to get caught up in the idea oh this person is shy and quiet but I am special and have broken through and he talks to me. Nope. It's exhausting.

This is all true. And a shy introverted guy who is confident can handle himself just fine at a party. My husband is shy AND introverted. He is also a social chameleon. He's confident so socially he's fine on his own. On the flip side - he finds parties exhausting and needs time to recover - the definition of an introvert. The shy part rarely becomes a hindrance at parties because we know so many people. Once critical mass is reached its so easy to float around at parties and never leave your comfort zone. I only notice his shy behavior in crowds of people we don't know, like a Christmas market in Germany. He has a hard time fighting to the front of the queue or getting the vendor's attention.

“Confident” is the opposite of “shy and introverted.” Your description makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People often confuse shy and introverted. There are social introverts. I am married to one.

I don't want to be with a guy who can't deal with himself at a party and who I have to babysit or is a stage 10 clinger or who just avoids normal social situations. Had one of these boyfriends in my 20s. It's easy to get caught up in the idea oh this person is shy and quiet but I am special and have broken through and he talks to me. Nope. It's exhausting.

This is all true. And a shy introverted guy who is confident can handle himself just fine at a party. My husband is shy AND introverted. He is also a social chameleon. He's confident so socially he's fine on his own. On the flip side - he finds parties exhausting and needs time to recover - the definition of an introvert. The shy part rarely becomes a hindrance at parties because we know so many people. Once critical mass is reached its so easy to float around at parties and never leave your comfort zone. I only notice his shy behavior in crowds of people we don't know, like a Christmas market in Germany. He has a hard time fighting to the front of the queue or getting the vendor's attention.

“Confident” is the opposite of “shy and introverted.” Your description makes no sense.

Quiet confidence is a thing.

[Anonymous]

In general we americans are loud people. People confuse someone who is quiet and not talkative with being an introvert. I am loud and an extrovert and noticed women tend to love this type of personality because they get attention from people like me because they tend to be more visible when they are with people like me. And I hate to say this but when a woman feels invisible and doesn't get the attention she feels she deserves from her man, she is going to get bored. Shy men for this reason struggle with dating. Women can be very exhausting if you are not the extrovert outgoing type. And introverted men probably don't compliment their partner at the rate their partners wished they were complimented on.

[Anonymous]

Idk my husband is shy and an introvert. But he is also an amazing dancer, a smooth talker, very attractive and incredibly smart. He volunteers every Sunday and has been doing so for 20 years. Yes he isn't the man who is going to walk into a room and crack jokes and be the life of the party. When people first see him they assume he is very outgoing based on his height and muscular physique but as a stranger you will be lucky to get 4 sentences put of him. But once he warms up he is better. Most importantly though he protects me and stands up for me. He is not clingy at parties, he will find couple of other shy men like him and they will just socialize. The clingy shy men are a no no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Strong silent type? Hard pass. Those are usually the serial killers. Women just want a normL guy who can do guy thibgs like make restaurant [b]rsvps, introduce them properlybto friends/coworkers/standup for them if someone spills a drink on them. I predict OP is a basement dwelling incel who is simply looking to complain about having no dates for this weekend.

Haha 😆

[Anonymous]

Pathetic little beta-males? Nothing manly or attractive about them.

[Anonymous]

No, I like men who aren’t afraid to take the lead in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I do. I’m a homebody and an introvert. I tend to go towards men who are a bit nerdy and silent. My DH is a very reserved guy. Doesn’t say much and is very observant. Former military. He’s also very kind, loving, and thoughtful. Great communicator, good listener, and treats me very well. Then again, I may be an outlier, since I love bald men and men with glasses.

[Anonymous]

If women did then it would be more common for women to ask men out or for women to be the initiators and starting a relationship but we all know that will never be the norm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My late husband was an introvert but was not shy. My bf is an extrovert but shy. They aren’t the same thing.

No that's just part of women's cruel nature

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pathetic little beta-males? Nothing manly or attractive about them.

Ew. Anyone who sees the world in terms of “alpha” and “beta” males? Nothing attractive about them.

[Anonymous]

Women like to be dominated everywhere, including in the bedroom. They want a dominant and assertive man who can lead them.
They prefer and strong males who can protect them.

That's why they don't like shy men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you like shy or introverted men?

Introvert man married to introvert woman. She says she loves being with me because it's like being alone. In other words, being with me doesn't exhaust her the way being with other people does. And it's mutual.