What to wear to parent social

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again. The women probably are older. I’m not trying to offend anyone. I had my kids in my early thirties. This is upper school so these women likely are in their fifties, especially if they have older kids.

That makes sense. I don’t think anyone is offended by you saying they look older. I have two kids - had one in my early 30s and another in my early 40s. I am sure I will look old to the other moms when my youngest is in high school.

Exactly - in high school you will get a range. Someone could be there with their oldest or their youngest kid. I'm like the above PP.

[Anonymous]

It's amazing to see where people's minds are in this thread. I have never spend one minute at a parent event worrying about what other parents were wearing (color/style/designer) or about what their professional careers are (or are not).

I understand why the OP wants context on what to wear.

Meanwhile, how about you all just focus on being fellow parents who wish the best for your kids and work on being part of a kind community without identifying or judging one another for differences.

[Anonymous]

No. This is DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a meet and greet for parents on a weekday evening.

What should I wear?

A. Business casual dress (theory)
B. Floral and colorful (lily pulitzer/zimmerman)
C. Black cocktail dress (Alice Olivia)
D. Fitted top with a skirt or nice shorts
E. Button down with leggings and heels

If it matters, I don’t work so I will be coming from home, not work. I mostly wear athleisure and dresses. I do have a closet full of many dresses. I don’t want to look like I’m trying too hard for a meet and greet.

You sound dull. Once people figure out you don’t work, they will not want to continue any conversation. At least, that’s what I do. Once I ask what you do and you say you don’t work,
I immediately start scanning the room for other opportunities.

You sound awful. I’m an accomplished lawyer, but I would never assume that a SAHP is dull and not worth my time. It’s the arrogant, self-important people I try hardest to avoid.

Agree. I always talk to the SAHM. They are good for last minute school pick up, playdates, etc. and random snacks. Never look a gift horse in the mouth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to see where people's minds are in this thread. I have never spend one minute at a parent event worrying about what other parents were wearing (color/style/designer) or about what their professional careers are (or are not).

I understand why the OP wants context on what to wear.

Meanwhile, how about you all just focus on being fellow parents who wish the best for your kids and work on being part of a kind community without identifying or judging one another for differences.

+1. Well said!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let’s be real. The reason the dress matters is because we are all pretty judgy these days and private schools probably always have been.

Most people try to be neutral so that their clothes don’t slot them into a stereotype before they’ve found their peeps.

Can’t go wrong with business casual.

Lily Pulitzer can be off putting. It’s offers up a country club clueless vibe.

The women who try too hard by wearing expensive designers to meet and greet also stereotype themselves.

It’s especially déclassé to talk about what you’re wearing.

Lily probably would have been the most like my everyday self since that is what we wear to our country club pool.

I ended up wearing a dressy black dress and probably tried harder than others.

I was surprised how old and frumpy most of the moms were. They definitely came not caring.

I’m probably one of those old frumpy moms you disparaged. I had my kids later after establishing myself at the top of my profession.

Shocking to you, I’m sure, but many women find Lily Pulitzer loud and ugly with no redeeming qualities. If that is where your everyday self is, it’s no wonder you found the majority of women “frumpy.”

Restrained elegance requires a discerning eye. Which anyone who loves Lily Pulitzer sorely lacks.

+1
Also a dressy black dress is trying too hard. These events aren’t dressy. I’d imagine those moms who you disparaged probably thought you were overdressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a meet and greet for parents on a weekday evening.

What should I wear?

A. Business casual dress (theory)
B. Floral and colorful (lily pulitzer/zimmerman)
C. Black cocktail dress (Alice Olivia)
D. Fitted top with a skirt or nice shorts
E. Button down with leggings and heels

If it matters, I don’t work so I will be coming from home, not work. I mostly wear athleisure and dresses. I do have a closet full of many dresses. I don’t want to look like I’m trying too hard for a meet and greet.

You sound dull. Once people figure out you don’t work, they will not want to continue any conversation. At least, that’s what I do. Once I ask what you do and you say you don’t work,
I immediately start scanning the room for other opportunities.

You sound awful. I’m an accomplished lawyer, but I would never assume that a SAHP is dull and not worth my time. It’s the arrogant, self-important people I try hardest to avoid.

Agree. I always talk to the SAHM. They are good for last minute school pick up, playdates, etc. and random snacks. Never look a gift horse in the mouth.

You sound like such a user. SAHMs are good for more than your cast-off chores. And the proper phrase is, "Never KICK a gift horse in the mouth." I'm a SAHM and even I know that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For reference, I’m in my forties and still very fit and look like I’m still in my thirties. These women looked like they are all 50-60 years old.

60? What were they wearing?

DP: If you had a kid at 38-39 (after you made partner), you are nearly 60 by their senior year and probably PTA president while running your law practice from the soccer field sidelines. And you confidently wear whatever you darn well please because you aren't trying to impress anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a meet and greet for parents on a weekday evening.

What should I wear?

A. Business casual dress (theory)
B. Floral and colorful (lily pulitzer/zimmerman)
C. Black cocktail dress (Alice Olivia)
D. Fitted top with a skirt or nice shorts
E. Button down with leggings and heels

If it matters, I don’t work so I will be coming from home, not work. I mostly wear athleisure and dresses. I do have a closet full of many dresses. I don’t want to look like I’m trying too hard for a meet and greet.

You sound dull. Once people figure out you don’t work, they will not want to continue any conversation. At least, that’s what I do. Once I ask what you do and you say you don’t work,
I immediately start scanning the room for other opportunities.

You sound awful. I’m an accomplished lawyer, but I would never assume that a SAHP is dull and not worth my time. It’s the arrogant, self-important people I try hardest to avoid.

Agree. I always talk to the SAHM. They are good for last minute school pick up, playdates, etc. and random snacks. Never look a gift horse in the mouth.

You have no clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a meet and greet for parents on a weekday evening.

What should I wear?

A. Business casual dress (theory)
B. Floral and colorful (lily pulitzer/zimmerman)
C. Black cocktail dress (Alice Olivia)
D. Fitted top with a skirt or nice shorts
E. Button down with leggings and heels

If it matters, I don’t work so I will be coming from home, not work. I mostly wear athleisure and dresses. I do have a closet full of many dresses. I don’t want to look like I’m trying too hard for a meet and greet.

You sound dull. Once people figure out you don’t work, they will not want to continue any conversation. At least, that’s what I do. Once I ask what you do and you say you don’t work,
I immediately start scanning the room for other opportunities.

You sound awful. I’m an accomplished lawyer, but I would never assume that a SAHP is dull and not worth my time. It’s the arrogant, self-important people I try hardest to avoid.

Agree. I always talk to the SAHM. They are good for last minute school pick up, playdates, etc. and random snacks. Never look a gift horse in the mouth.

You sound like such a user. SAHMs are good for more than your cast-off chores. And the proper phrase is, "Never KICK a gift horse in the mouth." I'm a SAHM and even I know that.

Right there with ya for the first two sentences, but you’re just plain wrong about the horse.

“ The phrase, “don't look a gift horse in the mouth” originates in St. Jerome's commentary (400 AD) on Paul's letter to the Ephesians. In Latin, the proverb is “Noli equi dentes inspicere donati” (never inspect the teeth of a given horse).”

[Anonymous]

Tube top and a pleather mini. Stacked heels. High pony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe there's a thread about this. Nobody cares. Just be interesting and not a jerk.

You don't care. Plenty of people do care. You probably are the one on the Jobs forum telling the teen to go into her internship with hairy legs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a meet and greet for parents on a weekday evening.

What should I wear?

A. Business casual dress (theory)
B. Floral and colorful (lily pulitzer/zimmerman)
C. Black cocktail dress (Alice Olivia)
D. Fitted top with a skirt or nice shorts
E. Button down with leggings and heels

If it matters, I don’t work so I will be coming from home, not work. I mostly wear athleisure and dresses. I do have a closet full of many dresses. I don’t want to look like I’m trying too hard for a meet and greet.

You sound dull. Once people figure out you don’t work, they will not want to continue any conversation. At least, that’s what I do. Once I ask what you do and you say you don’t work,
I immediately start scanning the room for other opportunities.

You sound awful. I’m an accomplished lawyer, but I would never assume that a SAHP is dull and not worth my time. It’s the arrogant, self-important people I try hardest to avoid.

Agree. I always talk to the SAHM. They are good for last minute school pick up, playdates, etc. and random snacks. Never look a gift horse in the mouth.

You sound like such a user. SAHMs are good for more than your cast-off chores. And the proper phrase is, "Never KICK a gift horse in the mouth." I'm a SAHM and even I know that.

Right there with ya for the first two sentences, but you’re just plain wrong about the horse.

“ The phrase, “don't look a gift horse in the mouth” originates in St. Jerome's commentary (400 AD) on Paul's letter to the Ephesians. In Latin, the proverb is “Noli equi dentes inspicere donati” (never inspect the teeth of a given horse).”

Not PP but thanks for this....I never knew the original Latin - interesting to see the translation from Latin to the current day usage.