Just cannot take wife controlling food choices anymore. Divorce?

[Anonymous]

Can you compromise and take turns picking the place? She needs to learn how to compromise. Speak up OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Korean food is pretttty diverse. Difficult to imagine you eat SO much of it you can't find new/interesting things on the menu.

Also, sounds like you hate your wife and there's a lot going on and this is just the thing you're complaining about today.

No it is not diverse.

It never uses cheese. No cream. No use of herbs like basil, thyme, oregano. Rarely does it ever use techniques like roasting, baking, or anything ever to do with an oven.

Look, I like Korean. I just don't need that same flavor profile for 999 out of 1000 meals I my life and have someone else dictate the crap out of what goes into my mouth the majority of the time. I'm so tired of it.

Oh. You just want boring European food.

now we're getting somewhere—you've got a wife who is more sophisticated and it makes you angry... is this misogyny or just garden-variety anger at realizing you're the simple one?

Omg STFU.

European food has its own flavor profile. As does Korean, as does Japanese, as does American, as does Chinese. Maybe I simply want diversity from all over in my life rather than just the same staid flavors from Korea 99% of the time .

Lol, you act as if Korean food has this magical array of flavor. No it doesn't. Most of it is pickled or uses salt only or is covered in the same type of chili based sauce/flavor.

Thai is way more diverse than Korean, but we never get to try that too. There's nothing wrong with wanting 'boring' pizza one day, a burger the next, tacos another, Greek spanikopita, or an Argentinian grilled platter. Maybe you should be stop being such a narrow minded twit and simply enjoy the diversity of the cuisine on the planet rather than constantly only ever wanting something cooked in a wok or hot pot.

Korean American here. We eat Greek, pizza, burgers, Italian, Indian, Thai, tacos, etc.

Do you have kids? How long have you been married? Did you marry someone straight from Korea?

Even my relatives who are from the countryside of Korea eat non Korean food like pizza. Maybe it seems like you are eating Korean all the time but it isn’t actually always.

[Anonymous]

It’s really dumb you’ve gotten yourself so worked up that you “want to punch a hole in the wall.” If you two can’t agree on where to go or what food to get as takeout, go out by yourself and get your own. If she complains, reiterate that she’s welcome to join you. Let her know you’re willing to go to X restaurant once in a while, but you’ll be pursuing more variety and she’s welcome to join you.

[Anonymous]

This thread is so much fun.

Anyway no not divorce worthy.

“Honey, I’m not interested in eating out for Korean again. We can either take turns selecting the restaurant - and it’s my turn now - or we can stay in for a date night and order from different places.”

No no and no. Just be firm and ignore any drama. You aren’t asking for too much and she has to learn to compromise.

[Anonymous]

People keep suggesting he cook or order other takeout out. I believe what he’s complaining about is she only wants to go to Korean restaurants when they are going “out to dinner” as a couple. I get it- he’d like to try some different restaurants when they go out.
OP - is this the case or is she also demanding Korean food when you are eating at home?
Restaurants are so expensive these days that when I go out I want something I can’t make at home which for me is sushi. So my go to restaurants for special occasions are the best sushi places. Otherwise I don’t want to pay restaurant prices anymore.

[Anonymous]

Tell her that you decided to take turns and will join her for Korean every other month. So the month of August there will be all those other delicious choices. She can join you or can continue with her parochial repetitive routine.
And then do exactly that. Never surrender!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so much fun.

Anyway no not divorce worthy.

“Honey, I’m not interested in eating out for Korean again. We can either take turns selecting the restaurant - and it’s my turn now - or we can stay in for a date night and order from different places.”

No no and no. Just be firm and ignore any drama. You aren’t asking for too much and she has to learn to compromise.

+1 it's totally reasonable to take turns picking where you eat. If she won't do that and/or spends every non-Korean meal whining about it like a child then it's time for marriage therapy.

Everyone has to give a bit and the PPs laughing at OP or saying he should be happy to only go to Korean restaurants are missing the big picture -- a wife who won't compromise or consider her DH's feelings about something that's really easy for a grown-up to compromise about. I can't imagine DH or I unilaterally deciding that the other never gets to pick the restaurant. Yeah, it's a small thing but also a regular occurrence in life and so easy to just take turns.

Is she this inflexible about the big parts of life too?

[Anonymous]

All my spouse wants to eat is fried chicken sandwiches or burgers. He feels compelled to try every fast casual chicken and burger place. He never wants to eat at a real restaurant. When I on a rare occasion get my way, he complains through the meal. I would never end my marriage over it though it’s super annoying. I grab lunch from my favorite places when he’s not around and about once a month put my foot down on us having dinner from one of my picks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I friggin love this thread. I’m crying with laughter. When people say trolls ruin stuff I’m going to drop the link to this.

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+1. I can’t believe that people think the original post is real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so much fun.

Anyway no not divorce worthy.

“Honey, I’m not interested in eating out for Korean again. We can either take turns selecting the restaurant - and it’s my turn now - or we can stay in for a date night and order from different places.”

No no and no. Just be firm and ignore any drama. You aren’t asking for too much and she has to learn to compromise.

+1 it's totally reasonable to take turns picking where you eat. If she won't do that and/or spends every non-Korean meal whining about it like a child then it's time for marriage therapy.

Everyone has to give a bit and the PPs laughing at OP or saying he should be happy to only go to Korean restaurants are missing the big picture -- a wife who won't compromise or consider her DH's feelings about something that's really easy for a grown-up to compromise about. I can't imagine DH or I unilaterally deciding that the other never gets to pick the restaurant. Yeah, it's a small thing but also a regular occurrence in life and so easy to just take turns.

Is she this inflexible about the big parts of life too?

Exactly. She needs to stop whining and complaining when theygo to a non-Korean restaurant. If she can't do that, then no more meals in restaurants together. Is she on the autism spectrum? That's the one variable that might make her behavior a little more understandable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People keep suggesting he cook or order other takeout out. I believe what he’s complaining about is she only wants to go to Korean restaurants when they are going “out to dinner” as a couple. I get it- he’d like to try some different restaurants when they go out.
OP - is this the case or is she also demanding Korean food when you are eating at home?
Restaurants are so expensive these days that when I go out I want something I can’t make at home which for me is sushi. So my go to restaurants for special occasions are the best sushi places. Otherwise I don’t want to pay restaurant prices anymore.

It's not about food. It's about control. When someone's opinion is the only one that matters and they get to pick the restaurants 99% of the time, it is a control issue. It's not about the type of cuisine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I friggin love this thread. I’m crying with laughter. When people say trolls ruin stuff I’m going to drop the link to this.

i

+1. I can’t believe that people think the original post is real.

I have to agree.

Or OP is a big, fat baby.

Either way, it’s entertaining.

[Anonymous]

Damn just go to a food hall or door dash. People can order what they want and eat together. But you know this isn't just about food. You're marriage problems are much deeper than that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I friggin love this thread. I’m crying with laughter. When people say trolls ruin stuff I’m going to drop the link to this.

i

+1. I can’t believe that people think the original post is real.

I have to agree.

Or OP is a big, fat baby.

Either way, it’s entertaining.

I love how earnestly people are explaining how she should just compromise. Yiu can’t get that kind of advice for free anywher else!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn just go to a food hall or door dash. People can order what they want and eat together. But you know this isn't just about food. You're marriage problems are much deeper than that

It’s a troll or a mentally ill person… the giveaway was when he said he wanted diverse food like cream and oregano.