^^and I'll add: they were competent and knew what they were doing. Part of that was acting the way they did. They got farther than I did. |
^^and I'll add that they were competent and knew what they were doing including how they acted. They got to the top positions, and I and many others did not. |
Is not misery Olympics. |
Dampening personalities is a great way of putting it Depends on your line of work and natural persona |
I work in a big bank. It is not a good match for me. I speak to the point, without pretense. At work, I need to use empty words because everyone does it.
The level of backstabbing, favoritism, hazing , gaslighting is unreal. It comes from the very top. The company likes to put people against each other and see who survives. I am burned out. I am exhausted. I also feel like there is a better job out there for me, so I keep my hopes up and look for new opportunities. |
I struggle with how often people in my corporate job say they are 'excited'. It makes it all seem even more fake. |
I will get flamed for this, but I feel more human at work with my office job. We go in a few days each week and telework the other days. It’s nice to actually physically see and chat with colleagues and leadership again, in person. It’s nice to meet in person in the conference rooms, and get fun treats from our admins like the monthly bday celebrations. Yes it’s corny but it beats sitting alone working at home all day til my kid gets home, or the juggling I was forced to do during Covid. That felt like Groundhog day, same thing over and over, never ending. OP have you considered getting an in person role, maybe hybrid? That may help you connect better and enjoy your job again. |
We’re thrilled! I gag every time I see “thrilled” on LinkedIn. Ugh |
op - i have a hybrid job! it's just the culture of certain companies to be all business all the time. |
+1. Certain colleges are like this, as well. The level of unprofessionalism that is blatantly encouraged is mind blowing. Lazy people are coddled and receive training, while the strong, educated employees are left out in the cold. Not too different than Hunger Games - and yes, it absolutely comes from the top. The more toxicity, the more reward. |
I ended up on someone's blacklist when I pointed out that some of his direct reports are cutting corners. I was worried about safety issues; he took it personal that these things were happening under his purview. Engineering in a corporate environment. How does one manage people with massive egos? |