Any other moms out just not order when you eat with your family?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. I have a small appetite but that's why we have doggy bags

[Anonymous]

Yes. Im not wasting any money

[Anonymous]

What?! No this is bizarre. If we go out to eat we all get an entree. If you can’t afford it just cook at home.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the restaurant. At a sit-down place I would order something, likely something small, because I was a waitress once upon a time. We rarely eat out at restaurants, though, so it doesn't come up much. For take-out, I sometimes order something. For fast casual, I don't order. My kids ordered from Chipotle yesterday for lunch, and I did not. We were walking by, they were hungry, we got takeout. I don't like the food there, and it upsets my stomach. I'm fat and have disordered eating, but I don't think this exemplifies it.

[Anonymous]

I hear you. I’ll get the kids Chick Fil A to go or something like that, and I’ll just eat leftovers at home. Yes, this is a money-saving move.

[Anonymous]

If we go out, I'll order something. I never order fast food. I'll just eat something at home. Money saving, but also I don't eat fast food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not uncommon for us to split 3 entrees between the 4 of us so there are no leftovers. But I would not eat their leftovers—there’s a tonal difference.

We do this. And often it’s sort of like two of the entrees are “mainly” for the adults, and we ask for 2 plates for the kids and make them a plate with small servings of all the foods from the 3 entrees that we think they’ll eat.

Why don’t you try that? Hopefully it’ll get the dcum mommy martyr police to back offf a bit. But I totally understand if you’re at a place where none of the food really appeals to you anyway. It happens sometimes when you need to accommodate kids eating and convenience.

[Anonymous]

My husband does a variation of this, and it’s 100% disordered. We don’t eat out often (prices have gone up so much that few places seem worth it anymore) but when we do, I order what I want. DH will, for example, get a side salad instead of fries, and then when the food comes he picks off everyone else’s fries. Or he’ll say he doesn’t want dessert, but if someone else orders one he expects to share it. All the while patting himself on the back for “being good” and skipping the fries and dessert!

[Anonymous]

I generally order a smaller appetizer instead of a bigger meal like sandwich/fries. I have developed a smaller appetite in general after being pregnant, and if 4 people all have half a plate of fries it is way too much (I love leftovers but fries often don't reheat well).

I also really hate food waste and have a tighter budget then the vast majority of DCUMs, so it works for me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

Joining this thread for the first time, but that doesn't sound right. I'm a size 2 mother of two, and when I go out to a restaurant I want to fully enjoy the experience and order something delicious that I can't cook at home, so that's what I do.

Frequently just snack at home for dinner or eat the kids leftovers nuggets or something, but not if I'm spending the time and expense going to a restaurant. One additional entree is not a big deal if you are already out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:curious if others do this. I just can't handle either the food waste or the expense, so I basically never order. I know the kids wont ever finish their food despite their insistence they will. I was like - I cannot be the only one.

You have an eating disorder

How do you figure?

OP I did this all the time when my kids were younger. In actual restaurants I would usually order a side salad or soup or something to eat along with inevitability picking off their plates. There’s nothing “disordered” about it!

op - yes this is what i do.
it's not because i dont want to eat at all. i just dont want to spend another $20-$30 and then have a bunch of leftovers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband does a variation of this, and it’s 100% disordered. We don’t eat out often (prices have gone up so much that few places seem worth it anymore) but when we do, I order what I want. DH will, for example, get a side salad instead of fries, and then when the food comes he picks off everyone else’s fries. Or he’ll say he doesn’t want dessert, but if someone else orders one he expects to share it. All the while patting himself on the back for “being good” and skipping the fries and dessert!

but that sounds like he is doing it for diet reasons no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother was like this. It was more a money thing. I vivid remember thinking it was so strange how she had no favorites, no preferences. She was divorced and I remember the shopping list consisted only of food I liked and her eating my leftovers and whatever scraps my grandmother would give her when she babysat me.

To this day I'm really happy when I see my mom order a nice steak and get dessert.

it's innate i think for moms to sacrifice for their kids in a way that is less inbuilt for dads.