I am from a culture that bed shares and I think this is weird, OP. |
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TELL HER NO. Do not send your kids there. |
My kids, one boy and girl, co-slept with Grandma. My son stopped at age 9. My daughter still co-sleeps with Grandma and/or her Aunt when they visit or we travel with them. She is almost 9 but I think it will go on a few more years. We did have to have boundaries about when the co-sleeping could occur. They wanted to do it on school nights and that got way too disruptive so I said only weekends. They weren’t happy about it but they have accepted it. As someone else mentioned, it is not my kids responsibility to fulfill their emotional needs. If the kids are ever uncomfortable with it, it ends. My daughter loves it though so I’m okay with it on weekends. |
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Its strange indeed. |
My kids love to cosleep with my mom (their maternal grandma) when we go visit. She has a king size bed so there’s plenty of room. She will sleep in the middle and they get to stay up past bedtime as a treat. Normally watching a movie or reading books and maybe having a treat in bed like a bowl of ice cream. It’s fun and special.
But my kids are the snuggly type and they want to do this. My mom is the super maternal, bake cookies together, so it fits the type of relationship they have with her. I would never have slept on the same bed as my grandmother’s but they were more the racist old bird, hyper-critical type of grandmas. My kids are early/mid elementary so we’ll see how much longer this lasts … |
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What a lovely memory. I have a similar memory of my grandma when I was a child!!! Ironically, my mom (her daughter) is the polar opposite at almost 80, she likes to sleep in the buff and fades off to sleep watching raunchy comedies and puffing on a joint so NEEDLESS TO SAY my children will NOT have the same experience I did. Thanks for sharing your sweet memory with us!! |
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+1 Most kids are able to differentiate sharing a bed with grandma vs sharing a bed with a sports coach. The same way my kids understand it’s normal to take your clothes off at the doctor’s office, but not at the library. It should never be pushed on a child, but I’m not going to tell my kids they can’t sleep next to my mom just because a scout leader somewhere out there touched a kid. We don’t have to let the pedos ruin nice things for kids like grandma snuggles.* *Obviously if you grew up in a home with abuse you’re not going to let your kid sleep with that relative. But the odds of someone you know well suddenly becoming a molester at age 78 are quite low. |
No I would not allow it, but I was abused by a grandparent (who everyone loved btw). My spouse visited grandparents and a great aunt with his siblings and they all brought sleeping bags and slept on the floor. |