I think that the loud voices get attention at any school. If you're really concerned, I would reach out to the advisory/homeroom teacher. I have found them to be very responsive and will email your right back or take the time to meet with you. It's kind of a tricky tightrope these days - on the one had, if teachers push kids out of their comfort zone and try to get them to speak up, some parents will be super critical and accuse the school of not respecting the child's anxiety; on the other hand, there are parents of introverts who are dissatisfied with the lack of attention that their quiet, well-behaved children are receiving relative to the loud ones. |
My introverted child came into the HS (from a public school) knowing no one. Joining a sports team right away helped, as did being willing to try other extracurriculars. We found that the teachers made an effort to draw DC out and force more classroom participation. Whatever the secret sauce was, DC thrived at GDS, found their voice, and was a class leader by junior year. I wish we had sent our other kids there. |
For sure, joining a sports team helps a lot! (Track and field/cross country are wonderful and no-cut teams with a terrific coaching staff.) I would definitely encourage that for a number of reasons. I'm so glad your child had a good experience at GDS and blossomed! |
To be fair, GDS takes this to an extreme. I support all the same social just issues that GDS is known for, but the school has developed a progressive hubris that Would be funny if the dogma wasn’t enforced like sharia law. |
This is at GDS??? Coddle kid families on one side and Help my kid families on the other? Sheesh. |
I long for the days when parents just let teachers do their jobs. |
Define “do your (teaching) job?” Does that include grading work, grading tests, writing out report cards, returning graded work, sitting with students to remediate, telling parents what the child needs to work on, demanding respect and listening in the classroom? |
It’s not as directly competitive as my other child’s upper school and certainly was not in intermediate school. More of a culture where anything goes. I’d agree the students who (a) learn the most, and (b) get the most out of it are very motivated and self-directed. We didn’t send one of our children there because we were concerned she’d just spin her wheels or be too quiet. |
yes. |
I doubt you're a GDS parent. What you described doesn't reflect our experience there at all. |
Really? Not at all?… |
| We’re starting in the fall. Will my science/engineering-loving kid be supported there? He’s not really into liberal arts, although he can hold his own in that arena when required. He has his heart set on MIT and while I know things change over four years I’m hoping he will find his people and support there if that continues to be the trajectory he wants? |
| If he really wants MIT he would be better off at a Public school. There he could be a big fish but at GDS he will probably be just one of many super brilliant kids in a rather small pool. |
| Many more super brilliant kids in public magnets. But the kid will do fine at GDS. And it’s harder to inject current progressive views into the hard sciences so he’ll get some balance in his classes. |
Sure he can try but be sure to do the stem clubs and contests and internships. If no MIt or CalTech or Stanford or Carnegie Mellon BS or MS, would he be happy with one of those No-labs applied engineering majors at an Ivy? Or want to do a more lab based engineering degree at a top state school or program? Be ready to answer that. Talking to employers also helps, some don’t prefer to hire from BA/MA applied majors, they are just too different from other global and BS stem programs. |