Signs someone grew up rich

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Anonymous wrote:They waste food because they do not understand the true value of it. They have no idea what it costs, what it is like to be on a budget, what it is like to do without. So they have no respect.

They leave stuff around because they are used to someone picking up after them. They are care.ess with belongings and don’t stress about lost items.

Ha! This is so far from the truth. My extremely wealthy family is parsimonious and takes extreme care of their (quality) belongings. My mother has had the same handbag that she uses daily for the past 15 years. It was custom made in Italy and still looks new. She never places it on the floor, she cleans the leather regularly, etc. Same with shoes. My dad taught me how to clean and polish shoes to keep them in good condition. He had Lobbs that he would wear for 20+ years. They taught me to always keep my spaces tidy and picked up, even though we had household help. I make my bed every morning and put away my clothes, etc.

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Peoplewho grow up with money don't feel the need to flaunt it as adults or talk about it or signal it with clothes etc covered in tacky logos.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up with money and definitely lacked the understanding that everyone did not go to college or vote when they turned 18. I began to understand this when I was 17 in 2000 and had conversations with classmates who were eligible to vote but didn’t in the 2000 presidential election. I went to “elite” private schools through 10th grade when I rebelled and told my parents that I refused to go back to the school I was at because it was full of terrible bullies and drug addicts. I finally convinced them to let me attend a large public high school and it was extremely eye-opening.
I was raised to know how to behave in any social situation. I attended a state dinner in my mothers place and an inaugural ball when I was 14. I was raised to participate in volunteer work from a young age and my family is on the board of a number of organizations. In my 20s and early 30s I have been asked to participate in high level volunteer positions in elite institutions, which has lead to board service at several of them. I’m by far the youngest board member in those cases.
We had a nanny/housekeeper and a pt gardener when I was a child and both were treated like members of the family. I was taught to cook (by my mom, who had learned from her parent’s chef), and how to clean and do laundry properly. My parents definitely instilled a work ethic in me, I worked all through high school and college though I didn’t “need” to, and now I work although my husband’s the primary “breadwinner”. I’m also the principle parent for our children and make sure that I’m able to spend quality time with them daily.
I can ride a horse well, sail, pilot a plane (though haven’t in years), play tennis & squash, whip up a soufflé, speak 2 languages fluently in addition to English, set up a campsite, appraise art, navigate my way through any place and plan a dinner party to perfection.

The attitude underlying this post is the clearest sign someone grew up rich.

+1 Yes! There is a confidence that growing up with a secure safety net, exclusive private schools, and extraordinary access to opportunities and experiences that wealth and privilege confer. For me, this is very apparent when I went to a highly selective SLAC.

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Anonymous wrote:Clear, articulate speech with an expansive vocabulary.

Disagree. I think vocabulary and speech are a result of educated parents. Just look at the Trump kids. They have money but a father with limited vocabulary.

The Trump kids are extremely articulate and polished. You are blinded by hatred for Trump, but his kids are polished and successful.

Successful at what, exactly? Be specific.

The fact that you want to continue to debate on this issue shows how entrenched you are in your Trump hate.

Not gonna play.

Totally different NP. Ivanka is polished. DJTJ is NOT. Eric is hard to read because he speaks publicly much more rarely than his siblings. Tiffany and Baron basically never spoke publicly. The Trumps are just like the mafia rich principessas someone mentioned earlier. He got rich by being essentially part of a New York slum lord operation. He's always been rich, but he's never been nice, and has never been treated nicely by his family, and so he is like a forever child who has all the money in the world and just wants to buy everything. His children were not treated AS horribly as he was by their parents so have a little more mental maturity but all have his nastiness. Ivanka is widely reported to be a very mean person behind that extremely polished veneer. DJTJ is clearly a drug addict who knows how to pull it together, this is another varietal of rich person of course, as another PP said there are more than two.

I grew up rich, not Trump rich but probably DCUM rich. HHI like 500-600k and I will inherit probably a few million dollars when my mom dies. I am not sure what about me signifies that I am rich, but I always know when someone is currently rich but didn't grow up rich. Those people feel the need to constantly talk about what they have, how much it cost, are constantly dropping hints about their wealth into the conversation. I do also interact very well with all walks of life. I would NEVER be unkind to any service employee unless they were being like, blatantly and egregiously rude (like spitting in my coffee or yelling at me or something)

Agree. And this is the biggest conflict between me and my husband, who grew up solidly middle class. My mother (who adores him) described him as a striver and she’s absolutely correct. He is always seeking the best new thing, spending money like water, etc. I’m much more careful and never speak about what things cost. I recognize that I’m extremely privileged to not have to worry about money but I still don’t spend it profligately. Dh works hard to make a lot of money, but the mentality is just so different.

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Anonymous wrote:Idk but my boyfriend went to boarding school and I just went to regular private school and he's always pointing out shit I do that indicates I'm not as elite as him. I'll sticky this thread so that next time he does it I can let you guys know.

Dump that guy

- rich person

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Anonymous wrote:They waste food because they do not understand the true value of it. They have no idea what it costs, what it is like to be on a budget, what it is like to do without. So they have no respect.

I know middle class people like this too. And that’s why they are in debt.

Yeah I grew up middle-class and have been guilty of this. (I'm not in debt, for what it's worth -- just not great at meal planning or keeping track of inventory.)

Keeping leftovers around forever is a good indicator of growing up poor or in a developing country, though. Ex used to keep stuff around for like 2 weeks

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Anonymous wrote:Idk but my boyfriend went to boarding school and I just went to regular private school and he's always pointing out shit I do that indicates I'm not as elite as him. I'll sticky this thread so that next time he does it I can let you guys know.

Dump that guy

- rich person

Agreed.

-another rich person

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL can’t drive because she grew up with a chauffeur and can’t cook because she had a chef. The first time she changed one of my kid’s diapers she wiped the poop with a towel because she didn’t know about wipes thanks to nannies. I have many more stories. Anyway her father squandered the entire fortune and now she’s middle class.

this is the stuff movies are made of

Statistically speaking, generational wealth doesn't usually go past 2-3 generations for various reasons. I remember reading that in an article somewhere.

My nephew is unemployed between jobs lives in a dumpy rent stabilized walk up with a roommate in Manhattan literally on a street named after a rich relative from 1700s. No clue where money went

The truth here is that wealth has to be built. The moment a generation decides to spend instead of build it's not going to last long. Also tons of people that steal wealth. So if someone doesn't understand finances they can get taken advantage of.

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People in the family with PhDs in humanities subjects like art history and philosophy. Could be an off-hand comment like, "When my sister was getting her doctorate in classics, she spent a year in Rome..."

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Anonymous wrote:Clear, articulate speech with an expansive vocabulary.

Disagree. I think vocabulary and speech are a result of educated parents. Just look at the Trump kids. They have money but a father with limited vocabulary.

The Trump kids are extremely articulate and polished. You are blinded by hatred for Trump, but his kids are polished and successful.

Successful at what, exactly? Be specific.

The fact that you want to continue to debate on this issue shows how entrenched you are in your Trump hate.

Not gonna play.

DP. Lol. You aren’t going to “play” bc they aren’t successful at all.

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They think the average American worker makes 800k a year

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They are very nice and pretty clueless.

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Anonymous wrote:They think the average American worker makes 800k a year

I was just thinking about that Wharton professor, too, who shared the poll she did with her students. Clearly a bunch of rich kids with zero clue about the real world! Only $800k - how in the world do those families survive???

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Good teath

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Anonymous wrote:Good teath

Also being able to spell teeth