Kid is new and failing every class. Are we doing to get kicked out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I smell a troll.

+ 1,000,000. Don’t believe this for a second. Just because OP comes back doesn’t mean they’re not full of it.

Go away then. I am struggling with a school problem in a new situation and wanted some feedback from other parents of private school students. This is all new to me. What is wrong with you that you hang around and read threads just so you can insult the OP (me) without adding anything useful at all? You should seek professional help.

I think you need help, OP. I’m all good- that’s why I can see this is a troll post and you’re feeding off of the earnest answers of so many posters. If you are in an independent school (yes, mine are, too) there is NO way you would be in this situation. They would be doing a lot more to help you and you certainly would be in the head space of “my kid is going to be kicked out” in NOVEMBER. Sorry. Not buying it.

[Anonymous]

NP, but I understood OP’s use of “rigorus” to illustrate that that’s how her son spells rigorous.

Carry on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So people are really playing along the OP's illiterate kid managed to get admitted to private in the most competitive admissions cycle ever in a non-entry year?

It wasn't easy, but we started early. Also, we were waitlisted for a while. It's probably not one of the most sought after privates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I smell a troll.

+ 1,000,000. Don’t believe this for a second. Just because OP comes back doesn’t mean they’re not full of it.

Go away then. I am struggling with a school problem in a new situation and wanted some feedback from other parents of private school students. This is all new to me. What is wrong with you that you hang around and read threads just so you can insult the OP (me) without adding anything useful at all? You should seek professional help.

I think you need help, OP. I’m all good- that’s why I can see this is a troll post and you’re feeding off of the earnest answers of so many posters. If you are in an independent school (yes, mine are, too) there is NO way you would be in this situation. They would be doing a lot more to help you and you certainly would be in the head space of “my kid is going to be kicked out” in NOVEMBER. Sorry. Not buying it.

I don't care what you buy or don't buy. I'm not even sure what an "independent" school is. The school is trying to help, but with only fcps as an example, we have been wary of their help and I haven't really been in much contact with them. I am just not really sure how one should interact with a private school, and the whole idea that we are paying them and actually have a choice about going there is one I still haven't quite managed to adjust to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP, but I understood OP’s use of “rigorus” to illustrate that that’s how her son spells rigorous.

Carry on.

You’re too smart for this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I smell a troll.

+ 1,000,000. Don’t believe this for a second. Just because OP comes back doesn’t mean they’re not full of it.

Go away then. I am struggling with a school problem in a new situation and wanted some feedback from other parents of private school students. This is all new to me. What is wrong with you that you hang around and read threads just so you can insult the OP (me) without adding anything useful at all? You should seek professional help.

I think you need help, OP. I’m all good- that’s why I can see this is a troll post and you’re feeding off of the earnest answers of so many posters. If you are in an independent school (yes, mine are, too) there is NO way you would be in this situation. They would be doing a lot more to help you and you certainly would be in the head space of “my kid is going to be kicked out” in NOVEMBER. Sorry. Not buying it.

I don't care what you buy or don't buy. I'm not even sure what an "independent" school is. The school is trying to help, but with only fcps as an example, we have been wary of their help and I haven't really been in much contact with them. I am just not really sure how one should interact with a private school, and the whole idea that we are paying them and actually have a choice about going there is one I still haven't quite managed to adjust to.

You don’t know that privates are called independent? OP, pull yourself together. That’s another telltale that you don’t have a child at a independent (private) school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I smell a troll.

+ 1,000,000. Don’t believe this for a second. Just because OP comes back doesn’t mean they’re not full of it.

Go away then. I am struggling with a school problem in a new situation and wanted some feedback from other parents of private school students. This is all new to me. What is wrong with you that you hang around and read threads just so you can insult the OP (me) without adding anything useful at all? You should seek professional help.

I think you need help, OP. I’m all good- that’s why I can see this is a troll post and you’re feeding off of the earnest answers of so many posters. If you are in an independent school (yes, mine are, too) there is NO way you would be in this situation. They would be doing a lot more to help you and you certainly would be in the head space of “my kid is going to be kicked out” in NOVEMBER. Sorry. Not buying it.

I don't care what you buy or don't buy. I'm not even sure what an "independent" school is. The school is trying to help, but with only fcps as an example, we have been wary of their help and I haven't really been in much contact with them. I am just not really sure how one should interact with a private school, and the whole idea that we are paying them and actually have a choice about going there is one I still haven't quite managed to adjust to.

If the school is reaching out to you it’s generally a good sign. I’m sorry you have had trouble with public and are therefore wary of school admin. Most admins don’t want angry parents leaving bad reviews of them all over town, and therefore try to patch things up. Take a more experienced parent from the school with you, if you’re comfortable with that, to a meeting.

I’d never heard of an independent school either until I moved here from another state. I just thought it was public or private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my DC switched to parochial middle school 2 things made the transition quite difficult: (1) organizational/study skills and 2) grammar and spelling. Yes there are some very bright, high-achieving kids who score tippy top on standardized tests and cannot spell simple words. This surprises me too, but that I is my kid — and cousin and uncle (both Ivy grads and professionals). Since DC previous school “did not work on spelling” we didn’t know how significant the issue was until middle school.

The thing that helped my kid most — for study skills and confidence - the SOAR program. Not just the binder but also the actual workbook. Now they have an online program which DC2 is working through. For us it’s been worth every penny. I’d recommend your kid work through this program over Thanksgiving or Christmas break: https://studyskills.com/mlp/six-steps-conquer-chaos-lp-e/?utm_source=ads.google.com&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=SOAR&gclid=CjwKCAjwiY6MBhBqEiwARFSCPhPBwmKhBzti-z6hnAuXbRb0_Ip8ABQGAPC253pfdON_EBVQAP0JehoCenUQAvD_BwE

For the spelling - some kids in her class have an actual diagnosis and accommodation. In our case, coming in 5th, DC had time to rote memorize a ton of words. And Grammarly premium is a God send per DC . Best of
Luck!

Agree with this. We have an upper elementary DS that transitioned to private from MCPS. The lack of grammar and writing preparation becomes obvious pretty quickly. I can easily see this becoming even worse if you enter in late middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I smell a troll.

I also smell a troll.

Troll post. 😈


😈

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I smell a troll.

+ 1,000,000. Don’t believe this for a second. Just because OP comes back doesn’t mean they’re not full of it.

Go away then. I am struggling with a school problem in a new situation and wanted some feedback from other parents of private school students. This is all new to me. What is wrong with you that you hang around and read threads just so you can insult the OP (me) without adding anything useful at all? You should seek professional help.

I think you need help, OP. I’m all good- that’s why I can see this is a troll post and you’re feeding off of the earnest answers of so many posters. If you are in an independent school (yes, mine are, too) there is NO way you would be in this situation. They would be doing a lot more to help you and you certainly would be in the head space of “my kid is going to be kicked out” in NOVEMBER. Sorry. Not buying it.

I don't care what you buy or don't buy. I'm not even sure what an "independent" school is. The school is trying to help, but with only fcps as an example, we have been wary of their help and I haven't really been in much contact with them. I am just not really sure how one should interact with a private school, and the whole idea that we are paying them and actually have a choice about going there is one I still haven't quite managed to adjust to.

I understand what you mean about the discomfort of reaching out. My kids were pretty much taught at public school that you don't bother the teachers and other kids need more help than you and getting help is socially "bad." Not expressly, but enough so that when they got the new school they never reached out to teachers and were doing terribly. In the culture of their new school it is actually very much expected that you reach out to teachers outside of class regularly, go to study halls with other kids, seek out peer tutors, and to not do so indicates that you are not a serious student and don't care if you learn. We had been told this, but it really didn't register -- we still thought it would be seen as a negative to do so. We were so wrong. We learned our kid is the only one in one of the classes who has never gone to the teacher. Now we pick them up from school an hour later than normal so they can be a part of it all. It's been quite the transformation.

[Anonymous]

This just feels like an attack on the FCPS system, honestly.

How does your kid get to the 8th grade without you realizing they are so academically inept? That's a huge parenting fail on your part.

I have a DS who struggled at the beginning of the pandemic when school closed for "2 weeks to flatten the curve" and then reopened virtually. It was a terrible experience for him and we quickly realized a) virtual schooling was probably going to continue for the 2020-2021 school year and b) he would certainly fail if left in that environment.

We started looking at our options for private school and found one that we all liked. Granted, he was going from a LCPS high school to a private HS and not from FCPS, but he had no academic transition issues. It was the opposite, honestly, and he thrived more than we expected. He also enjoyed it so much that he chose to remain at the private to finish out his last 2 years of HS instead of going back to his old school with his other friends.

[Anonymous]

OP is DC at SAAS by any chance?

[Anonymous]

My DC went from an independent school to MCPS and was behind his public school peers (pre pandemic). So I don't think this is a public school issue, it is more of a kid/parent issue. Things like writing a paragraph and spelling are skills he should have mastered before 7th grade.

It could be ADHD or LDs which hadn't been tested before - a lot of kids struggle when they get to 8th/9th grade when they hadn't struggled before. It could be that the school just isn't the right fit. It could be that he needs an extra year of 8th grade to catch up. You need to do an eval to determine what the underlying issue is and what the solutions are. Stop blaming FCPS and start looking at your kid and what is going on.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your kid never bothered to study in public school OP, and you didn't push him. Now he has to catch up.

[Anonymous]

I have found my kids have fallen behind in math since coming back from virtual school.