Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

We track locations for logistics. It started with the kids and then, because one of them had an android and wanted to know where the adults were picking him up, we created a family group that has everyone plus grandparents. It can be useful, but I think it is a different story to have it for logistics than for trust. Because if you don’t have trust and are relying on the app to believe in your partner then how will you ever establish true trust.

My DH went away this weekend and tracking would not stopped infidelity because he was at a hotel. I just trust that he was with friends and that is it. So don’t make the tracker the safety net.

[Anonymous]

I had to check see if I had my location enabled (Yes) and who I have shared that with (spouse). Except, he calls me when he can't remember where I am, so I don't think he checks it at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Every dishonest person I know has a real problem with it. Take that for what it’s worth.

Guess if you are hitting up a massage parlor or having a nooner at the Marriott you would vehemently argue your need for privacy.

Maybe some people but perfectly honest people often have a thing about having their privacy invaded. This kind of technology is a complete invasion of privacy. I grew up in a rural area. I did not watch TV. There were no cell phone. There was not even a stop light. I am in my early 40s. I survived. My cell phone is tied to me for work and personal life and that is too much as it is. Having someone being able to find me on their phone. If I am at the gym and taking longer than usual or do a stop at the store on the way home, I am entitled to doing those things without being questioned about my extra minutes on my commute. If something bad happens to me, you will get a phone call. I will NEVER share my location with anyone nor will I track my kids. I trust them to do what they should be doing. People deserve some kind of autonomy without everyone knowing what they are doing and where they are on a minute-by-minute basis. It is not that I am dishonest...it is that I have a huge philisophical problem with this invading my everyday life. It is very similair to people who don't have social media profile. I do, but it is the same line of thinking. My younger brother still will not text. I think that is a step too far but he will absolutely no do it to communicate. If you want to talk to him, you have to call him. He also now lives in a major metro area. We don't want technology invading every aspect of our lives.

A good parent will check up on their kids. Part of being a parent is having some knowledge and spot checks occasionally. It’s a much different world today.

I’m not on social media, generally hate being tied to a phone, and I TRUST that my husband isn’t clicking “find iPhone” and tracking me constantly. I almost never track him, only under rare circumstances.

If something bad happens- how are you calling?

I can call or text my kids on their device. I don't need to track them.

Someone else is calling if something bad happens. You know, like how it is done normally?

Good luck with that over time. Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Every dishonest person I know has a real problem with it. Take that for what it’s worth.

Guess if you are hitting up a massage parlor or having a nooner at the Marriott you would vehemently argue your need for privacy.

Maybe some people but perfectly honest people often have a thing about having their privacy invaded. This kind of technology is a complete invasion of privacy. I grew up in a rural area. I did not watch TV. There were no cell phone. There was not even a stop light. I am in my early 40s. I survived. My cell phone is tied to me for work and personal life and that is too much as it is. Having someone being able to find me on their phone. If I am at the gym and taking longer than usual or do a stop at the store on the way home, I am entitled to doing those things without being questioned about my extra minutes on my commute. If something bad happens to me, you will get a phone call. I will NEVER share my location with anyone nor will I track my kids. I trust them to do what they should be doing. People deserve some kind of autonomy without everyone knowing what they are doing and where they are on a minute-by-minute basis. It is not that I am dishonest...it is that I have a huge philisophical problem with this invading my everyday life. It is very similair to people who don't have social media profile. I do, but it is the same line of thinking. My younger brother still will not text. I think that is a step too far but he will absolutely no do it to communicate. If you want to talk to him, you have to call him. He also now lives in a major metro area. We don't want technology invading every aspect of our lives.

A good parent will check up on their kids. Part of being a parent is having some knowledge and spot checks occasionally. It’s a much different world today.

I’m not on social media, generally hate being tied to a phone, and I TRUST that my husband isn’t clicking “find iPhone” and tracking me constantly. I almost never track him, only under rare circumstances.

If something bad happens- how are you calling?

I can call or text my kids on their device. I don't need to track them.

Someone else is calling if something bad happens. You know, like how it is done normally?

Good luck with that over time. Lol

Honestly, what does that even mean? I had a bad accident at 17. There were no cell phones. Somehow someone managed to call my parents. Imagine that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never do this and I find it as creepy as hell. And no, I have nothing to hide and I trust my family also.

I was ina cafe once and heard a guy at the next table say, "Remember that cute girl I met? I turned on the tracker on her phone! Look where she is RIGHT NOW!"

Creepy AF.

Super creepy! Reason 5006 dating sucks

[Anonymous]

Nope. Just nope. Please do not make me explain or justify my desire for privacy, anonymity, being offline, not sharing every single text, location, fart, etc. Those that insist are the ones with the problem — with trust, with responsibility, with being an adult. Really.

[Anonymous]

If that girl Gabby had her phone tracked, her parents would have seen that she was in trouble sooner. Just sayin.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my 60s. Two adult children in their 40s, one is divorced and has a long term live-in GF, the other is single. We share our locations with each other via Google Maps. My son and his GF share their locations with each other, he also shares with his adult daughter. Both my kids share locations with their dad (my ex).

None of cares at all who knows where we are at any given time. We've been sharing for years. It's very convenient.
Can't imagine why anybody would object. What exactly are you doing that you don't want people to know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that girl Gabby had her phone tracked, her parents would have seen that she was in trouble sooner. Just sayin.

They would have seen that she was on a trip with her boyfriend like she was supposed to be. They may have found her body sooner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 60s. Two adult children in their 40s, one is divorced and has a long term live-in GF, the other is single. We share our locations with each other via Google Maps. My son and his GF share their locations with each other, he also shares with his adult daughter. Both my kids share locations with their dad (my ex).

None of cares at all who knows where we are at any given time. We've been sharing for years. It's very convenient.
Can't imagine why anybody would object. What exactly are you doing that you don't want people to know?

I couldn't kive with someone who had this level of suspicion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 60s. Two adult children in their 40s, one is divorced and has a long term live-in GF, the other is single. We share our locations with each other via Google Maps. My son and his GF share their locations with each other, he also shares with his adult daughter. Both my kids share locations with their dad (my ex).

None of cares at all who knows where we are at any given time. We've been sharing for years. It's very convenient.
Can't imagine why anybody would object. What exactly are you doing that you don't want people to know?

Similar story for me. I trust that the people I share with aren’t obsessively tracing my every move, and vice versa. I’m an early thirties millennial who got rid of Facebook and Instagram a few years back largely for privacy concerns, so I can appreciate that angle of concern. But I also think there’s a difference between giant corporations tracking your every click online so they can advertise to you and sell your personal info vs. my fiancé knowing where I am on a hike with my dog, on the very off chance he’d want to check on me.

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Anonymous wrote:If that girl Gabby had her phone tracked, her parents would have seen that she was in trouble sooner. Just sayin.

They would have seen that she was on a trip with her boyfriend like she was supposed to be. They may have found her body sooner.

Definitely agree. Would’ve been a good use case.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never: I am divorced in my 40s. I made my boyfriend at 23 return a cell phone for my birthday. I did not want to be accessible to anyone 24/7. Of course, now we are not where I am going is my privacy. No one is tracking me 24/7. No way in hell.

I’m one of the pp’s above who has device location sharing turned on with my husband. It’s not like we “track” each other 24/7. Honestly I think we both forget that it’s even enabled most of the time. But every once in a while, I’ll see if he’s left the office so I don’t need to bug him / text him about whether he’s left yet. The main use case for us is for travel, especially since we don’t need to be glued at the hip. I might spend an afternoon shopping in a town while he goes snorkeling, but it’s nice to know I could find him in an emergency. We don’t track and zero trust issues.

That is weird. Why do you need to know if he has left the office? People did not used to have cell phones. They were better off.

DP, but my husband leaves the office at a Different time every day, I like to know when to start dinner.

Our family uses an app, we check on the kids as needed and really dinner is the only time I pay attention to where my husband is.

I do talk to the kids about dating/friendships and sharing location on Snapchat. I do not think that should be a normal part of teen/young adult relationships.

You check on your kids, too? I am sorry but to me, none of this is normal: not in dating, no in marriage, not with kids. No news is good news. No one should be able to check on people at all times. It is a complete lack of freedom and privacy. No one can’t wait (whether that is minutes or hours) for someone to show up.

I agree. So thankful cell phones weren’t around when I was a kid.

[Anonymous]

Happily married and I think it’s an invasion of privacy.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 60s. Two adult children in their 40s, one is divorced and has a long term live-in GF, the other is single. We share our locations with each other via Google Maps. My son and his GF share their locations with each other, he also shares with his adult daughter. Both my kids share locations with their dad (my ex).

None of cares at all who knows where we are at any given time. We've been sharing for years. It's very convenient.
Can't imagine why anybody would object. What exactly are you doing that you don't want people to know?

I couldn't kive with someone who had this level of suspicion.

Huh? Suspicion of what? None of us are suspicious of anything that I know of. Also, none of us are worried that our loved ones (mom, dad, son, daughter, GF, BF, etc.) will know where we are. No reason to be.