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For the last week our neighbors have been out on their deck which is all fine and good. My problem is they are SO loud I can hear EVERYTHING they are talking about over our TV/air conditioner. It is really beginning to bug me. I don't think it would bother me so if it wasn't interrupting my sleep. I work 12 hrs a day plus have an infant whose sleep of course is being interrupted as well. They are in the same range as we are , mid 30's but don't people work or sleep???
I know there isn't much I can do about it. I just really needed to vent. |
Anonymous
| Is asking them (ultra-nicely, of course) to keep it down after a certain hour something you've tried? My own experience has been that *most* people respond to this pretty well. |
Anonymous
| we were being loud and neighbor called 911. it was awful. we didn't know we were disturbing and if they came to us we wouldn't mind keeping it quiet. we felt so ashamed... so sad =[ now we barely talk... |
Anonymous
| Politely ask them to keep it down. If that doesn't work, try leaving your window slightly open or deck door slight ajar and when they start talking, close the window/door; make sure they realize you closed it but don't slam it. New neighbors around my place who don't realize they are loud usually get the polite closing window/door hint and stop doing it. |
Anonymous
This is a great suggestion. |
Anonymous
| Maybe they just have family visiting this week because of the upcoming holiday (short term problem)? Or do they have college kids that have come back home (long term prob.)? |
Anonymous
omg--911? I can't believe people would clog up an emergency number with something like this. they should be fined for abusing 911. most places have a police non-emergency number for such issues. but if you have gotten along in the past, i see no reason why they could not have asked you person to person to lower your voices/music/etc. |
Anonymous
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OP, you haven't mentioned whether or not this is late at night. If it's late at night, you've got a very solid complaint and need to just talk to your neighbors. If the hour is reasonable and you just don't like hearing them, though...I don't know...it's summer, it's city living...kind of part of the deal is that you do hear your neighbors sometimes. I think, however, if my neighbor leaned out the window and nicely said "hey, how are you all? Listen, my baby is sleeping upstairs and I was wondering if you could maybe keep it down just a little bit. The noise seems to carry right into his bedroom..." I would keep it way down.
But if it's late at night, I don't thnk you need to bend over backwards to be polite -- a simple "it's late and you're being very loud and waking me up, please keep it down after __ o'clock" is probably fair enough! Good luck. |
Anonymous
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Op here, Thanks for all the suggestions. It was 2 am before it was quiet last night. This has been an ongoing issue for a couple of months. I understand it is summer,etc but my goodness just a little peace would be appreciated.
If I knew them better, I would not have an issue asking them. I certainly have to do something. |
Anonymous
| OP--I would wait until after the holiday weekend to do or say anything. Perhaps it is just a temporary thing. If this persists, re-evaluate. We lived in DC in a busy neighborhood for years, and we enjoyed the use of our Honeywell air purifier quite a bit!!! Esp with our newborn. I know noise is a PIA, but try to hold off complaining to them or making a noise complaint. Are there any other neighbors who can hear them potentially? If you call the nonemergency police number to make a complaint--2 am is late--will they know for sure it was you? If so, I would try talking to them directly--if it persists. It might cause more trouble in terms of your long-term relationship with them if you call the police rather than speaking to them yourself. |
Anonymous
| Ask pleasantly, use "I statements" to avoid an accusatory tone, and thank them graciously, even if the hour is late. Really, most people either want to get along or are at least decent enough to be embarrassed into compliance. |
Anonymous
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Oh no - I wonder if our neighbors can hear us? We used to sit out on our deck until the wee hours. It never occurred to me that two people had the ability to be loud enough to be heard inside another person's house.
I'd go with the "just tell them politely" route. My guess is they have no idea they can be heard inside your house. |
Anonymous
| Oh wow, yes, 2 AM? Definitely say something. If it is happening every once in a while, what can you do, city living and all, but if this is routine behavior you've got to say something. Good luck! |
Anonymous
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Inconsiderate, ignorant louses do that at 2 am. No one can tell me anyone is THAT oblivious. Even in D.C. I would totally call someone on them. |
Anonymous
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If it makes you feel any better, we lived above a fire station and in back of an apartment that was used for occasional all-night rave parties in NYC. The firehouse was one thing, but the rave parties were such a drag - polite requests went unanswered and the police were useless.
One night, a few weeks after DC was born, we couldn't take the noise anymore. My DH gathered up the contents of a very full Diaper Genie and opened it up on the steps of the rave 'club' in the wee hours of the morning. To be sure, it was rude, but incredibly satisfying to think about high heels sliding about in the muck... |