Does he need Viagra?

[Anonymous]

I have been married for 3 years. I asked my husband whether he would be willing to take Viagra. I didn't say specifically why, I just said I thought it would spice up our sex life. Why did I ask him? Because in order to get an erection, he needs about 3-5 minutes of oral sex. He has always been this way. In my experience, which is not vast, this is not normal. Other men I slept with (not that many), usually had an erection from foreplay or touching. Also, his erection is only about 1/2 hard and is easily lost (like when I reach over and get a condom, and then reach back to put it on, his erection is almost gone).

His response was, I don't need Viagra, because I don't have any trouble getting an erection. I was a little surprised. But I didn't explain further, because I didn't want to hurt his feelings or make comparisons.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

How long have you all known each other? How old is he?

I would think that he would want to mention it during his next physical. I think you should tell him what you are thinking without mentioning your past experience.

I hink for a younger man, needing oral for that long every time is uncommon.

[Anonymous]

What's his age? Is he in good health? Overweight? On any medications, like high blood pressure meds, cholesteral, diabetes, depression? Does he eat properly or alot of junk/processed foods? When was his last physical? Can you go with him to his next doctor's appt? These are all things that might be contributing to his situation.