Do I ask him to lunch? Wait for him to ask me?

[Anonymous]

I need some quick advice here.
Backstory: guy and I have been talking more and more around work, ramping up and ramping down flirting, as we sometimes only see each other for a few minutes per day or not at all. This has been going on all summer. I thought there were some major sparks at one point, but then thought maybe he is like this with everyone. I honestly don't know. And we run into each other at random times so it's nearly impossible to plan any sort of chat. I can tell by the way he looks at me that he thinks I'm attractive. It's pretty obvious. And I'm sure he knows on some level that I feel the same.

Last week I saw him in the parking lot on the way to lunch, mentioned I was going to lunch and he said "when are we going to lunch together?" or something flirty like that. I said seriously "you are welcome to join me" and he said "I can't today, but yeah, I would eat lunch with you sometime" and then started mentioning a bunch of places. It was all so fast and then people started coming out and we just both left.

1. Now what?! I have no idea when I will see him again
2. Are we the most awkward 2 people on the planet?

[Anonymous]

Are you new to your office? I had a work friend like this, who was a fun guy and flirted with me incessantly, I was attracted but would not let it go out of the friend zone due to work. We are still buds but he's moved on to the next new girl in the office!

[Anonymous]

Wait and let him ask you. But make a point of running into him soon.

[Anonymous]

1.-Figure out how to see him again.
2. No, but when you see him, tell him you are looking forward to that lunch. Hopefully he will make the date then.

[Anonymous]

1. The next time you see, him plan to say something about lunch. Rehearse in your head now what you'll say, since it seems like you can't predict when you'll see him and you will have to think fast. "Hey, let me know when we can get lunch one day" should do it. Something definitive. Does he have a way to follow up and get in touch with you?

2. No, you're not. This kind of thing happens all the time!

[Anonymous]

Go visit his office/cubicle around lunchtime and see if he offers.

[Anonymous]

In today's work environment, the woman must make the first move. Lean in.

[Anonymous]

Next time you run into him, coyly remark, "Hey....So any idea when we can have THAT lunch together....??!"

[Anonymous]

Tell him the next time you see him that you found a new restaurant you want to try with him.

[Anonymous]

Don't be coy. Just ask!

"Wanna go have lunch with me today?"

If the answer is no, ask what day works.

See? Not hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need some quick advice here.
Backstory: guy and I have been talking more and more around work, ramping up and ramping down flirting, as we sometimes only see each other for a few minutes per day or not at all. This has been going on all summer. I thought there were some major sparks at one point, but then thought maybe he is like this with everyone. I honestly don't know. And we run into each other at random times so it's nearly impossible to plan any sort of chat. I can tell by the way he looks at me that he thinks I'm attractive. It's pretty obvious. And I'm sure he knows on some level that I feel the same.

Last week I saw him in the parking lot on the way to lunch, mentioned I was going to lunch and he said "when are we going to lunch together?" or something flirty like that. I said seriously "you are welcome to join me" and he said "I can't today, but yeah, I would eat lunch with you sometime" and then started mentioning a bunch of places. It was all so fast and then people started coming out and we just both left.

1. Now what?! I have no idea when I will see him again
2. Are we the most awkward 2 people on the planet?

Are you wanting to have lunch with him or are you wanting to BE lunch for him?

[Anonymous]

Don't date at work.

[Anonymous]

Ask already.

[Anonymous]

This is the same OP as the mailman thread! Still going on....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't date at work.

+2

General advice, let the man chase you don't chase him.