S/O Left out at playground - How do you deal with your own kid

[Anonymous]

Experienced an awkward situation at school a couple of days ago during after school pickup.

As I approached DD (3rd grade) in the playground, I noticed she was playing with 2 other girls (catching spiders/bugs/etc). One girl (lets call her A) was trying to ditch girl B by telling her there was a spider on the wall (there wasn't). When girl B went to investigate, girl A ran off at the same time telling DD to run too thereby ditching girl B. Girl B soon realizes that it was a lie and regroups. Girl A tries to pull the same trick again but girl B is not buying it.

I'm witnessing all this and I say to DD that this is a little mean behavior. DD agrees and tells girl A not to trick girl B but of course it falls on deaf ears. We then leave the playground towards the car. On the way, I tell DD that girl A's behavior was mean and asked if DD realized that it was unacceptable. DD tells me she agrees it was wrong but girl A doesn't want to play with girl B (who is very slightly socially awkward and 2 grades younger). DD says that girl A complained to the extended day staff that girl B was "bothering" them and that the staff had already told girl B not to bother the bunch.

DD then ask "what am I suppose to do?".

I was not prepared to answer and told her it was a tough situation.

Any advice on what I should say to DD?

[Anonymous]

"Even if someone is bothering you, it's not alright to play tricks on them, Larla. We don't play tricks on people in this family. Sometimes you just have to make the best of a bad situation. If Larline starts playing tricks on people, go to a teacher."

[Anonymous]

If DD tells on Girl A, DD would likely be excluded too. No?