Easy ways to "reconnect" with spouse?

[Anonymous]

I don't know if this is the right forum, as I don't think my marriage in in trouble per se, but I am feeling kind of disconnected from my husband lately. I think it's just a combination of things - back to school, busy work time for him AND he's interviewing, etc.

We basically have dinner, put the kids to bed, clean the kitchen and pass out on the couch in front of the TV. I've found that I haven't been "in the mood" in a few weeks and just want to reconnect.

I thought maybe we could have "no screen" time for the grow ups, but looking for suggestions. We both like card/board games.

Any other suggestions to help us reconnect?

[Anonymous]

Go out on dates (they can be daytime dates) if you can. Do things (like walk the dog) together. Have a drink on your sofa or porch (no tv) together and just talk. Hold hands. Do the 5 love languages quiz and send the results to your spouse (and have him do the same for you so you can be loving toward him in the way he receives love).
I love the card/board games suggestion.

[Anonymous]

We play board games! End up laughing, talking, teasing each other , and it always leads to awesome sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We play board games! End up laughing, talking, teasing each other , and it always leads to awesome sex.

Lol!

[Anonymous]

DH and i like cutting out of work early at least once a month and hitting a 330PM happy hour. I dress particularly nice that day, focusing in hair and makeup and a sexier than normal outfit and it feels like a date. We arrive home around 6pm, a little tipsey and happy.

[Anonymous]

Avoid making every interaction with him a bitchfest where you complain about this, that, and the other thing.

[Anonymous]

Want to reconnect? Try having sex with him. It's not difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Want to reconnect? Try having sex with him. It's not difficult.

This. And I'm a woman. He'll be more apt to try to reconnect in other ways if you're connected physically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and i like cutting out of work early at least once a month and hitting a 330PM happy hour. I dress particularly nice that day, focusing in hair and makeup and a sexier than normal outfit and it feels like a date. We arrive home around 6pm, a little tipsey and happy.

This is a great idea thanks (not op)

[Anonymous]

OP here. I didn't mean to imply we weren't having sex. We are. I've just noticed that for me, I wasn't really feeling like it and just doing it for him lately.

I love all the ideas. Thanks everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and i like cutting out of work early at least once a month and hitting a 330PM happy hour. I dress particularly nice that day, focusing in hair and makeup and a sexier than normal outfit and it feels like a date. We arrive home around 6pm, a little tipsey and happy.

This is a great idea thanks (not op)

You're welcome. Plus it's great checking out who has the best HH, it's cheap, and easy to get the kids covered. Plus it makes it feel a lot like the old days.

[Anonymous]

Give him a nut tap and let that take you where it may.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We play board games! End up laughing, talking, teasing each other , and it always leads to awesome sex.

We play board games almost every night. Usually Yatzee. Sex life is fine. We also take walks together most nights after dinner. When the boys were too young to leave at home, they came with us. Rubbing each other's feet while you watch tv.

[Anonymous]

We get a cheap hotel down the street and get a babysitter to stay the night.

We drink a lot and sleep a lot... We are not lacking sex, just I ego chill together. Sex does not connect people as much as people want to think.

Naked Champagne at 2pm and a trashy movie with hotel food and a nap... Glorious.

[Anonymous]

We like to do a weekly wine and screen free night. Open a bottle of wine, turn off phones, and then actually talk for an hour or two.

It does wonders.