"She is absolutely gorgeous"

[Anonymous]

...and looks nothing like you!! This is what some woman told me an hour ago about my daughter. She turns to me and says "Your daughter is absolutely gorgeous. Wow- she looks nothing like you". I was in shock so I just smiled and said "actually people tell me she looks like me all the time". And her reply "No, she is beautiful. Does her father have blue eyes? She must look like him". Can you believe the nerve of some people????

[Anonymous]

Wow. That's pretty bad!

My name is Monica and I used to waitress around the time of the Lewinsky scandal. One older woman saw my nametag and brought it up and said "well....you're not as ugly as she is."

gotta love them...they're miserable--don't take it to heart.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't take it too seriously. I am always complimented on my DD's looks and she looks exactly like her father. I personally think I am attractive as well, my DD just doesn't look like me.

[Anonymous]

LOL We get that all the time. Our kids are really attractive but we are not, go figure. I always say maybe they'll grow out of it.

[Anonymous]

people always tell me basically the same thing...my kid does look a little like me (confirmed by baby photo albums), but she has such light blonde hair the resemblance is really hard to see (I have nearly black hair). I get bizarre looks all the time - people think I am her nanny and not her mommy. And she really does look exactly like her father, but he is rarely with us...hence the bizarre looks and comments.

If our next is a boy that looks like me, it should be REALLY interesting!

[Anonymous]

I hear very similar things all of the time. I have stick straight blonde (ish!) hair, blue eyed and my 2 yr old DD has dark, curly hair and intense green eyes. People comment all of the time how pretty she is and then feel they need to tell me that she looks nothing like me and how attractive my DH must be. A woman in church on Christmas Eve of all days commented that I must have had nothing to do with her since she looked so much like her daddy. Some people just don't get and I dont think they mean to be hurtful. I always just say thank you! Afterall, I am very proud of my pretty little girl.

[Anonymous]

I get something like that about my son. He looks like me but he is a lot more handsome than me, or so I have been told frequently I tell people he gets his looks from me and his good looks from his mother. But then it's easy to blow it off as a guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get something like that about my son. He looks like me but he is a lot more handsome than me, or so I have been told frequently I tell people he gets his looks from me and his good looks from his mother. But then it's easy to blow it off as a guy.

My husband gets this all the time when people see him with our son - "He looks exactly like you but cute/goodlooking". My husband cringes whenever he hears this because he is worried our son will end up looking like him when he is older. In his words on his looks, "put it this way, no one was lining up to bugger me at school!" (he was at boarding school).

[Anonymous]

I get this all the time too. But I like to think of them as 2 independent statements: 1) baby is gorgeous and 2) baby resembles her dad. I try not to link the 2 statements to mean, your baby is gorgeous because she looks nothing like you.

Granted, my husband is looking better than me these days - he gets to sleep and work out and get regular haircuts and showers. I, on the other hand, haven't slept in years, eat scraps of grilled cheese sandwiches, and can't count on a regular shower, much less a haircut. So, yeah, I'm not looking my best these days. But, I still like to think I contributed a little something to the genetic matter of my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL We get that all the time. Our kids are really attractive but we are not, go figure. I always say maybe they'll grow out of it.

Hee hee! That's a good one.

[Anonymous]

I agree it's an absolutely stupid comment. And it's also completely possible that your baby is absolutely gorgeous and you are, too -- just in a different way.

Enjoy your family and just let people's stupid comments role off of you. Most people don't mean any harm -- they're just not thinking!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Granted, my husband is looking better than me these days - he gets to sleep and work out and get regular haircuts and showers. I, on the other hand, haven't slept in years, eat scraps of grilled cheese sandwiches, and can't count on a regular shower, much less a haircut. So, yeah, I'm not looking my best these days. But, I still like to think I contributed a little something to the genetic matter of my child.

LOL! Love this! We must be twins!

[Anonymous]

OP I know how you feel.

My DD is 7 mo and I am struggling with my baby weight. I have always struggled with it - but especially post baby. My husband is a runner and quite a few of our acquaintances and friends are also runners and very much in shape (ironmans, etc). Our dd is crawling and trying to stand. The other day, one acquaintance looked at me and said "wow - she is so strong - just like her father". That's fine - I agree with that statement. Then the acquaintance followed that up with "you're strong too - well, mentally".

Gee - thanks bunches. Like I already don't feel like crap. Funny thing was - I didn't think twice about her first statement.

[Anonymous]

I totally got the same thing once -- stranger peers into my baby's eyes at the supermarket, "OHHH, what beautiful eyes!! Look at that!! Are they yours?" Stranger looks up at me, her expression changes -- "OH. No. Hmm."

The funny thing is, they ARE mine -- same color, same shape. DH has totally different color and shape from me and the baby. Guess they just look cuter in a baby face than in a tired-mommy face...

People are just incredibly tactless sometimes. Pity their social inadequacies! And be happy your baby is gorgeous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree it's an absolutely stupid comment. And it's also completely possible that your baby is absolutely gorgeous and you are, too -- just in a different way.

Here's another vote that it's a stupid comment!

I think it's also possible that the baby is gorgeous and the mom is gorgeous - both in the same way - and the person with the rude comment is an asshole just trying to stir something up.