Talk me through reciprocating adult friendships
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I have social anxiety and it's gotten worse lately. I've had some close friends move away and also changed jobs so I see my casual friends less often, and being out of practice makes me even more anxious in social situations. Over the past month, we've been invited over by two couple friends on separate instances for dinner. I'm pregnant and both couples recently had babies so both were kind of congrats/come get baby stuff we didn't use dinners. I want to reciprocate now but am stressed over what will work for them. Since they both have babies (3 mo and 6 mo) will it be too much of a hassle for them to come over for a dinner? I would schedule early but I know babies nap times/feeding schedules can be pretty rigid? Is there a better invite we should try, like something during the day on a weekend?
These would be separate invites as the friends don't know eachother. One couple are new friends, we met them a couple of months ago at a mutual aquaintances party and had a lot in common, and have been invited to a couple of parties they hosted (they are pretty social, frequent hosts). The other couple, the man is an old friend of DH but we don't know the woman well, they were dating briefly before the baby and we met her once, then they went into new-baby isolation and we didn't see or hear from them until the recent dinner. I know this probably sounds silly and it should be easy. I just don't host people often and I'm stressed because I'd really like to grow these friendships! |
Anonymous
| Just ask them what would work best for them. |
Anonymous
| You are way, way overthinking this. If something doesn't work for them they will let you know. |
Anonymous
I agree with PPs. Invite them over and ask when would be a good time for them. 
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Anonymous
| "Hey, we'd like to have you over some time. I know new baby schedules can be complicated, what time of day would work best for you?" |
Anonymous
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Or, see if the moms want to have coffee with you, or if the Hs want to do something with DH. |