Do I flirt too much?

[Anonymous]

46 year old single straight woman here. In agony.

I had been going to the same dermatologist since I was 19. When I was about 28, he added a very handsome young dermatologist to his practice. I was working on my doctorate degree, and teaching college classes part time. We lived in the same neighborhood, and I would see him out at movies, etc. My friend from high school worked in the same office. Through her, he asked about me. He and I dated.

I also dated an opthamologist who did an exam on my eyes for Lazik surgery. He dilated my eyes and then took me out to dinner. We also lived in the same neighborhood. He was a divorced single dad.

I was matched once on e harmony with a anesthesiologist, my age and single. We dated.

I find myself in a situation where I am falling for my male gynecologist who did my tubal ligation and ablation. I wonder if it is me and I am just flirting too much with my doctors? This is causing me a lot of introspection. This man has been completely professional and maybe I am the one who has been inappropriate.

I don't want to switch doctors. I just want to switch my feelings so I don't see him as a man.

I feel like maybe in the past I shouldn't have dated my doctors but it could be demographics, that we live in the same zip code.

Any help with this?

[Anonymous]

Just sounds like you have a thing for doctors. Maybe there's something about the intimacy of the relationship that is attractive to you.

[Anonymous]

Pretty unusual. I've never met anyone who's dated their own providers.

[Anonymous]

transference; you're mistaking their bedside manner for true feelings.

[Anonymous]

I just posted about how hot my mailman is, so I think you're good.

[Anonymous]

Unless they're otherwise committed and you're still flirting with them and trying to date them, I don't see the problem. Doctors know they're a hot commodity.

My uncle is a gynecologist (and very handsome) and women would get freshly waxed before they see him. I'm sure he's dealt with countless flirty eyes and smiles. If they're asking you out, doesn't seem like they have an issue.

[Anonymous]

This has to be a trolll, no way this is for real.

[Anonymous]

What exactly is the problem? That you go out with your doctors? If they find you attractive and not married and they're asking you out...so?

Or are just humble-bragging? Gee can't even get a Pap smear without going out on yet another date!

[Anonymous]

Doctors should not be dating their patients.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're just really attractive. Either way, why have any shame in your game?!?!

[Anonymous]

what's your zip code? I'm moving there.

[Anonymous]

Well OP - keep up your game and you'll still be getting dates when you go in for dentures and post- menopausal therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a trolll, no way this is for real.

OP here. I am 46 and single never married no kids. I have been dating and in relationships for a while. I am not troll. I have a Ph.D. also. I dated three medical doctors in my life so far. Is that really odd?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
what's your zip code? I'm moving there.

Leawood, Kansas for the dermatologist and opthamologist and then Arlington, VA for the anesthesiologist. I was actually matched on e harmony with the opthamologist and the anesthesiologist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you're just really attractive. Either way, why have any shame in your game?!?!

She's 46 and single. Doubt she is that great of a catch or someone would have snatched her up. Don't think dating 3 physicians in 20+ yrs is not a big deal. Assuming she dated other guys as well.