Friend lost mother right after birth of her second child

[Anonymous]

Hi, sorry if this isn't the right forum for this... but a friend just lost her mom shortly after the birth of her son.

I don't know what to do to help.

I am not super close with her. We hung out like 2-3 times a year. I sent a card, and I will arrange with her husband to bring over some food.

Anyone experience this, or have ideas of how to let her know I care, but not get in her face if she'd rather be with people she's much closer to at the moment?

[Anonymous]

If you're not super close, then a card and some food is really all you can do, and the food isn't really necessary. That last thing I wanted after a death in the family was a bunch of acquaintances knocking on my door asking how I'm doing. Give her time and space.

[Anonymous]

I agree with pp. I lost my mom before my first son was born. A card and food is more than enough. Include in the card a memory of her mom if you have one.

[Anonymous]

Let her close friends be the ones to support her now. A card and a meal were very nice gestures.

[Anonymous]

I lost my mom during my second trimester. A card is fine. Do the food in a couple of weeks. She probably has a fridgeful of meals that she can't eat right now and will probably have to throw out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lost my mom during my second trimester. A card is fine. Do the food in a couple of weeks. She probably has a fridgeful of meals that she can't eat right now and will probably have to throw out.

This.
If she has a new baby, that food will come in handy weeks from now, as well. It is a nice gesture to let her know that you're still thinking of her.
Take a meal over in a month or so. Or get them some gift cards for take-out.