11 year old boy fixated with private parts

[Anonymous]

My 11-year-old seems overly fascinated with his private parts. He seems to want to pretend that objects in the house are his private parts, he talks about it, ask questions about if his penis is supposed to be his size, He asks about if big penises are good, etc. I would say every day there's some attention paid to it or he's asking questions about it. He does ask direct questions about sex.

i'm beginning to wonder if this fascination is not normal at this age. I noticed him playing with friends and simulating objects as his penis and when I picked him up from camp counselors mentioned that one of the other roommates had told his parents that someone was being inappropriate in the room. I'm wondering if it was my kid talking about his private parts or using his shampoo bottle to pretend it was his extended appendage. I don't notice other boys as fixated on this. Is this normal or should I be worried? He's going into middle school. I know there is no abuse going on and he does watch vine and YouTube but So do other boys and they don't seem to be as focused on this. I know he is developing and getting erections so I understand the newness of it all. I'm happy that he feels like he can talk with me about these things but other parents are saying their kids are not at this stage and doing this.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal adolescent.

[Anonymous]

Not normal at all.

[Anonymous]

Sounds over the top to me. Sure a close group of boys who are friends may discuss this or that but generally they know to keep things relatively private lol. If he has health concerns he should know he can ask you or his dad.

[Anonymous]

It's normal.
It's the equivalent of how a lot of us as girls around that age stuffed our shirt to see what we'd look like with breasts or bigger breasts.

Boys face that pressure too when it comes to their bodies.

Encourage him to talk to his dad ( if their is one if not another trusted male relative), about these things. Not that you couldn't do a good job talking to him, but I find this talks and reassurances come better from same sex folks.

Also remind him that there is an appropriate time and place for these talks.

[Anonymous]

I think this post was made by our resident creepy tween sex troll

[Anonymous]

This post is as creepy as the kid. Apple not falling far from the tree, or troll.

[Anonymous]

Now that it's started, it never, ever ends!

[Anonymous]

It sounds over the top to me. If other people are noticing it and mentioning it, it is over the top. The topic is overwhelming his ability to function normally, which is the definition of a problem. I would try to put limits on the topic with him. It is a normal thing to think about and talk with a trusted adult about, but you need to rein him in about discussing it outside of the home. He is going to get a reputation among the other kids and their parents. He needs to learn to regulate his feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds over the top to me. Sure a close group of boys who are friends may discuss this or that but generally they know to keep things relatively private lol. If he has health concerns he should know he can ask you or his dad.

Nope, boys have been doing crazy stuff with those things since the dawn of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds over the top to me. If other people are noticing it and mentioning it, it is over the top. The topic is overwhelming his ability to function normally, which is the definition of a problem. I would try to put limits on the topic with him. It is a normal thing to think about and talk with a trusted adult about, but you need to rein him in about discussing it outside of the home. He is going to get a reputation among the other kids and their parents. He needs to learn to regulate his feelings.

Have you read Portnoy's Complaint? I suggest re-reading the part where the adolescent Portnoy has a sudden impulse to masturbate into the family's liver dinner.

[Anonymous]

Well, my 9 year old son is fixated on his testicles. Everything is about testicles. He hasn't gotten in trouble in a public setting for saying or doing anything, though. Although I'm sure it's a frequent topic of conversation among his friends.

[Anonymous]

How are his social skills otherwise? Does he tend to obsess over other stuff too? The fascination may be normal, but it is possible he doesn't have the skills to know when to display the fascination, and when to tone it down.

[Anonymous]

NORMAL, I have 3 brothers, a husband, two sons and many nephews. Seriously, this is all very normal, don't let other parents tell you it is not. When all the boys are together it is even worse! Lots of jokes and quick comebacks about their size, etc. You can talk to him and let him know that some boys are not as comfortable as he is when speaking about his penis. Tell him that when that is the case, he needs to take it down a nudge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NORMAL, I have 3 brothers, a husband, two sons and many nephews. Seriously, this is all very normal, don't let other parents tell you it is not. When all the boys are together it is even worse! Lots of jokes and quick comebacks about their size, etc. You can talk to him and let him know that some boys are not as comfortable as he is when speaking about his penis. Tell him that when that is the case, he needs to take it down a nudge.

BTW, there are no social problems that I can think off, except one of my nephews who has severe ADHD and has some issues at school (not with the cousins, they are used to him!). But all the boys are popular and very outgoing.