Daycare teacher says DD whines alot

[Anonymous]

My daughter has been scratched 3 times in the last 6 weeks - The teacher told me today that she thinks my DD gets "picked on" because she whines alot. She has also said the same thing about at least 2 other kids in the class. I was really annoyed with her comment as I know she doesn't pay much attention to the kids when they are outside playing - she spends most of her time chatting with the other teachers and basically ignoring the kids. I also know that DD whines when she's bored, and I don't think they center is doing enough activities with the kids. They basically just give them toys and say "here, go play". I feel like that teacher could prevent some of these incidents if she spent less time talking and more time being a teacher. I'm wondering if I should bring this up to the center administrator? I'm afraid I will sound like a nagging helicopter mom. My DH says I'm expecting too much, am I?

[Anonymous]

No, you are not expecting too much. Talk to the teacher and/or director. If they do not address your concerns, find a better daycare immediately. You do not have to put up with it. We had to do the same thing and found a daycare we really like. Not all daycares are going to meet your needs -- it all comes down to how much the teachers care about the kids and it sounds like these teachers are lazy.

[Anonymous]

No, you're not expecting too much. Instead of blaming the victim, the teacher should be focusing on redirecting the aggressors. I know it's hard, but I would try to find another center. Attitudes like this among teachers are pretty hard to change.