Do you trust your daughter's friends?

[Anonymous]

This is a constant internal fear that I have. I just can't help feeling that the girls my daughter gravitates to most, are not true friends and aren't really there for her when she needs them. They all seem to be completely self-absorbed and looking/waiting for the better plan or offer. I know she needs to make her own choices but it's so hard to watch. She's also more introverted so she isn't really one to reach out and initiate things and is also inattentive, so doesn't really respond to opportunities, which can lead to her missing out. It's so frustrating when there are plenty of nice girls I wish she would make time for.

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel, DD has some great friends and a few that don't make the best choices. She has a heart of gold and loves them as they are but I worry.

[Anonymous]

Some of them. A couple are a little dumb, and a couple are a little ... naughty and think they know better than adults.

[Anonymous]

Your attitude is a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy, isn't it? Back off and don't invest so much in her friendships. Kids at this age don't make that many lifelong friends.

[Anonymous]

How old is she, OP?

[Anonymous]

16.

[Anonymous]

Is this about your daughter, or about your own youth?

[Anonymous]

It's really about her. I worry about her feeling hurt and left out. I know it happens to everyone but I think she wishes she had that one best friend, and she's just not in that environment.

[Anonymous]

You're projecting.

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous, and your DD while introvert is not self absorbed? These are HER friends, that she wants to hang out, and kids today have many friends, and not that just one precious friend. She is 16 years old, myob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know how you feel, DD has some great friends and a few that don't make the best choices. She has a heart of gold and loves them as they are but I worry.

Don't we all feel and think the same about our own kids? You think your kid is special, I think my kid is special, helicopter parents creating incompetent grown ups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how you feel, DD has some great friends and a few that don't make the best choices. She has a heart of gold and loves them as they are but I worry.

Don't we all feel and think the same about our own kids? You think your kid is special, I think my kid is special, helicopter parents creating incompetent grown ups.

+1 vomitous "my kid has a heart of gold and loves them as they are"