Bad at reading signals

[Anonymous]

How can I tell if a man is interested or just being nice? I seriously can't tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can I tell if a man is interested or just being nice? I seriously can't tell.

Straight men are rarely "just being nice". If he's going out of his way to be nice, he's interested. More than that, he's probably going to expect some reciprocal "niceness" from you.

Realistically, very few people are genuinely altruistic. Everybody wants something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can I tell if a man is interested or just being nice? I seriously can't tell.

Straight men are rarely "just being nice". If he's going out of his way to be nice, he's interested. More than that, he's probably going to expect some reciprocal "niceness" from you.

Realistically, very few people are genuinely altruistic. Everybody wants something.[/quote


Op here. Thanks for the response. I'm not convinced. He seems like a genuinely nice person. He seems to go out of his way to talk to me but not every day. We work in different offices.

[Anonymous]

If he's interested he'll ask you out.

[Anonymous]

Neither can I OP.

But overall men who ask about your interests, occupation + family may be interested in more than friendship.

Ditto if he also finds little excuses to touch your arm, leg, etc.

[Anonymous]

If he is interested, you'll know. If he is interested, and you still don't know, he's not worth your time.

[Anonymous]

Okay. Thanks everyone. My birthday was recently and he wished me happy birthday even though I only mentioned it once. No one else did. Made me feel special

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Thanks everyone. My birthday was recently and he wished me happy birthday even though I only mentioned it once. No one else did. Made me feel special

I would define that as being nice. It could be for a lot of reasons but there isn't one I can think of that would lead me to conclude it was more than that. Most of the time you need an accumulation of 'events' to see a genuine interest for more than friendship.

Belated Happy Birthday!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Thanks everyone. My birthday was recently and he wished me happy birthday even though I only mentioned it once. No one else did. Made me feel special

I would define that as being nice. It could be for a lot of reasons but there isn't one I can think of that would lead me to conclude it was more than that. Most of the time you need an accumulation of 'events' to see a genuine interest for more than friendship.

Belated Happy Birthday!

That was the most recent event. It seems like he goes out of his way to talk to me but maybe he just thinks I'm easy to talk to. No idea. Will have to wait it out. Thanks I had a great birthday!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Thanks everyone. My birthday was recently and he wished me happy birthday even though I only mentioned it once. No one else did. Made me feel special

I would define that as being nice. It could be for a lot of reasons but there isn't one I can think of that would lead me to conclude it was more than that. Most of the time you need an accumulation of 'events' to see a genuine interest for more than friendship.

Belated Happy Birthday!

That was the most recent event. It seems like he goes out of his way to talk to me but maybe he just thinks I'm easy to talk to. No idea. Will have to wait it out. Thanks I had a great birthday!

http://reluv.co/21-body-language-signs-that-a-guy-is-interested/

There are many other articles that you can find. Also, there are areas of body language you can engage in to see if he is receptive. In doing them look to see if he mirrors.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He was just being nice. Bleh. Thanks guys.

[Anonymous]

How'd you find out?

[Anonymous]

OP here. He told me he just started dating someone. Sigh. Gutted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He told me he just started dating someone. Sigh. Gutted.

That doesn't mean he's not interested in you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can I tell if a man is interested or just being nice? I seriously can't tell.

Straight men are rarely "just being nice". If he's going out of his way to be nice, he's interested. More than that, he's probably going to expect some reciprocal "niceness" from you.

Realistically, very few people are genuinely altruistic. Everybody wants something.

Straight men are rarely just being nice just to be nice. They are looking for any opportunity to take their penis out of their pants and stick it somewhere.