Noncustodial Parent Refusing Doc orders

[Anonymous]

Bizarre question... I have a one year old. Noncustodial parent has been exhibiting erratic behavior lately and has decided to get remarried. Marriage would mean responsibility over five instead of three. He's decided to no longer pay for my child's expenses. Doc said to solely introduce whole milk with toddler and keep her on formula since her stomach is sensitive. Dad refuses to comply with doc's orders during his visitation.


Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

He should be paying child support and those expenses should be covered with his child support and your income. File in court with the child support office.

Schedule a doctors appointment and have him speak to the doctor directly. Send him with enough toddler formula for the time he is with her. If he only has her for short periods of time, it doesn't make sense for him to buy full containers given they can only stay open a max of 30 days.

I'm not sure what the issue with him getting remarried is. That's his right, just like it is yours when you are ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should be paying child support and those expenses should be covered with his child support and your income. File in court with the child support office.

Schedule a doctors appointment and have him speak to the doctor directly. Send him with enough toddler formula for the time he is with her. If he only has her for short periods of time, it doesn't make sense for him to buy full containers given they can only stay open a max of 30 days.

I'm not sure what the issue with him getting remarried is. That's his right, just like it is yours when you are ready.

Not disagreeing with you there about his right to get married but I think the larger issue is that he feels like he shouldn't have to pay bc of this. I sent it to his house but he still refuses. Already filed. He wont go to the docs office.

[Anonymous]

I get where you are coming from, OP.

I have supplied the foods, vitamins, and Rx medications ordered by the doctors and my ex either "loses" them or sends them back untouched. He says nothing is wrong with our child and won't go to medical appts or even read the f*cking blood test results!

Two different doctors have contacted him directly and repeatedly about the harmful impact of our child not getting what is needed nutritionally and medication wise. Most recently, the pediatrician told me she is considering calling CPS. I agreed that is likely the only thing that will produce a change.

I have accepted that I can't force him to do right by our child, but I can help protect the kid by let the authorities do what is in their power.

Document, document, document. Tell the pediatrician that you are concern. Ask how she can support you in educating the child's father about the health impact. And talk to Legal Aid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should be paying child support and those expenses should be covered with his child support and your income. File in court with the child support office.

Schedule a doctors appointment and have him speak to the doctor directly. Send him with enough toddler formula for the time he is with her. If he only has her for short periods of time, it doesn't make sense for him to buy full containers given they can only stay open a max of 30 days.

I'm not sure what the issue with him getting remarried is. That's his right, just like it is yours when you are ready.

Not disagreeing with you there about his right to get married but I think the larger issue is that he feels like he shouldn't have to pay bc of this. I sent it to his house but he still refuses. Already filed. He wont go to the docs office.

Assuming child is only there for a short time, I wouldn't worry about the toddler formula. I kept my child on it due to medical reasons as well but its not a big deal to go a day or two a week without it.

It doesn't matter how he feels. If he isn't paying, you either file for child support or bring it back to court. Then, it can be a garnishment. No point in arguing with him, just file.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should be paying child support and those expenses should be covered with his child support and your income. File in court with the child support office.

Schedule a doctors appointment and have him speak to the doctor directly. Send him with enough toddler formula for the time he is with her. If he only has her for short periods of time, it doesn't make sense for him to buy full containers given they can only stay open a max of 30 days.

I'm not sure what the issue with him getting remarried is. That's his right, just like it is yours when you are ready.

Not disagreeing with you there about his right to get married but I think the larger issue is that he feels like he shouldn't have to pay bc of this. I sent it to his house but he still refuses. Already filed. He wont go to the docs office.

Assuming child is only there for a short time, I wouldn't worry about the toddler formula. I kept my child on it due to medical reasons as well but its not a big deal to go a day or two a week without it.

It doesn't matter how he feels. If he isn't paying, you either file for child support or bring it back to court. Then, it can be a garnishment. No point in arguing with him, just file.

What on earth? You shouldn't give this mom advice that goes directly against her doctor's.

[Anonymous]

For child support, get a garnishment order. Then his employer pays the state, and they transfer it to your account. Annoying, but not difficult. He can tell the judge that he doesn't want to pay and see what happens.

For the milk/formula issue, talk to a lawyer, and keep talking to the pediatrician. If your child comes home I'll, take them to the dr each and every time (for documentation sake).

And put EVERYTHING in writing. Do not communicate anything verbally that you have not already put in an email ( get read receipts if you can).

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should be paying child support and those expenses should be covered with his child support and your income. File in court with the child support office.

Schedule a doctors appointment and have him speak to the doctor directly. Send him with enough toddler formula for the time he is with her. If he only has her for short periods of time, it doesn't make sense for him to buy full containers given they can only stay open a max of 30 days.

I'm not sure what the issue with him getting remarried is. That's his right, just like it is yours when you are ready.

Not disagreeing with you there about his right to get married but I think the larger issue is that he feels like he shouldn't have to pay bc of this. I sent it to his house but he still refuses. Already filed. He wont go to the docs office.

Assuming child is only there for a short time, I wouldn't worry about the toddler formula. I kept my child on it due to medical reasons as well but its not a big deal to go a day or two a week without it.

It doesn't matter how he feels. If he isn't paying, you either file for child support or bring it back to court. Then, it can be a garnishment. No point in arguing with him, just file.

What on earth? You shouldn't give this mom advice that goes directly against her doctor's.

Dad could just as easily take kid to another doctor with a different opinion. We kept our kid on toddler formula but it wasn't a necessity like an infant. Child can drink water with dad and have it at mom's house.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the nature of the beast. In some cases, a Dr. order is made b/c something IS life-threatening (e.g. a NC dad giving his kid peanuts in a wholly uncontrolled environment and justifying it because "he needs to be toughened up.")

In other cases, it's just the preference and the kid won't be THAT much worse off after 1-3 days of something. No worse than Grandma giving a kid too many M&Ms during a weekend there. Now if it's a week or more and OP's got to deal with 2 weeks of diarrhea or the like, that's kind of in-between.

If your ex is no longer paying for things above/beyond the required child support, that's probably too bad (some divorce agreements lay out who pays for the extras). If he won't pay required child support, time to come down with both feet.

[Anonymous]

I would pick your battles. Send extra food/milk if it's what you want
I guarantee you the ex can find another doc that says it's fine what he does
Let it go if you have the child most