How to approach roommate about her hygiene

[Anonymous]

Female roommate age 53 uses toilet paper as panty liners, and it occasionally falls onto the bathroom floor, and I guess she doesn't see it. Sometimes, I just leave it and hope that she will see if but she never does. It is dirty and oftentimes also soaked with urine. Is there a way to approach this without embarrassing her? It makes me disgusted that she won't spend $2 on some panty liners and instead keeps using up the toilet paper and then I have to pick up these nasty things off the floor.

[doodlebug]

Gross. I'm sure someone will chime in with a better way to handle it, but I'd probably just be direct about it and ask if she needs you to buy a box of panty liners. If that didn't work, get a dog. Dogs each that shit don't they?

[Anonymous]

Eww. X 1000.

That is just disgusting + sloppy.
And completely unsanitary too!!

In a situation such as this, you have no other choice but to tell her directly.
She may be embarrassed at first, but the problem will be solved at least.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Honestly I'd rather buy her a pack for $2

Geez, sorry you have to deal with that

[Anonymous]

I'd buy the liners and make sure she can see them. Then if she brings it up, I'd tell her about her toilet paper pads. I believe in being direct.

[Anonymous]

I'd get a new roommate. That's only what you can TELL she's doing. What other disgusting habits don't you know about?

[Anonymous]

Go into the bathroom when she's in the house and let out a big "girly" shriek.

Ewww, Larla come here!

What's that thing!

[Anonymous]

Hi, Op

It sounds like some sort of mental problems. Most people don't ignore something like this. Are there other things that she does that are unusual? I would just approach her directly and say this is a problem and I don't want to see this. Can you please help? Tell her she can tell you if there is something that you do that bothers her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd get a new roommate. That's only what you can TELL she's doing. What other disgusting habits don't you know about?

+1. I had a college roommate who did things like this (she stuffed used tampons in a bag in her bureau, and threw/stashed food garbage everywhere, including dirty used plates and mugs that belonged to me, which she hid and which I would find stuffed in the bottom of the garbage: she tried to throw them away). She ended up dropping out of school for a year to get help for her depression and other issues.

[Anonymous]

I would but her a huge box of liners and give them to her and say that sometimes she leaves the TP on the floor and these might work better.
If that doesn't work, pick the Tp ones up with gloves and leave them in her room.

[Anonymous]

I would probably ignore it the first couple of times and let her find it lying on the floor and hope that she disposes of it and realizes what she's doing.

If that didn't work, I would just say in an annoyed voice "Larla, you left something laying on the bathroom floor. Could you please take care of that NOW."

[Anonymous]

Omg. If someone still does this at 53 I'm not sure there's any hope for them.

[Anonymous]

She's leaking urine, so you could approach it as a health issue. In addition to it being a dirty roommate issue.

[Anonymous]

I'd put a small trash bin with a topper in the bathroom and announce it. Also, just leave anything she drops on the floor.

Incontinence...man, I imagine it's pretty awful.

If I liked her and really wanted to be helpful without any confrontation, I might also buy a pack and tell her, "Oops, I bought the wrong thing. They're in the bathroom. Feel free to use them." Or something like that.

We don't talk enough about this kind of stuff. I mean, how many post-partum threads are there with women asking for advice about underwear and bleeding? There's invisibility. So, if you can share, why wouldn't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd buy the liners and make sure she can see them. Then if she brings it up, I'd tell her about her toilet paper pads. I believe in being direct.

Ha, this is the opposite of being direct.