Adding "I saw your nanny" forum?

[Anonymous]

Hi there,

I was wondering if you would consider adding a forum dedicated to "I saw your nanny" posts. I am wondering how parents and nannies would feel about this. Would this be helpful to parents?

Thanks in advance for considering this.

A Mama who loves DCUMs

[Anonymous]

What does "I saw your Nanny" mean?

[jsteele]

Let's hear what others have to say. My first reaction is to think that i wouldn't want to see an "I saw your computer geek" forum in which everyone posted each time they saw me screw up. That might be the busiest forum here

To the PP, "I saw your nanny" refers to reporting incidents in which nannies were spotted acting in an unacceptable manner such as mistreating their chargers or endangering them.

Obviously, parents who have hired nannies would generally welcome hearing if their nanny had endangered or otherwise mistreated their child. But, on the other hand, only one side of the story gets reported and such postings often result in tarnishing the reputations of all nannies. I think the reports also increase divisions between stay-at-home moms and work-out-of-the-house moms and the last thing we need is more animosity between those groups.

But, the bottom line is that we don't run this board only for posts that we want, but for those that the community wants. If there is widespread support for this idea, we can try it out.

[Anonymous]

While I have a nanny and would obviously love to hear such information (good or bad), I think such a post would end up being a firestorm between SAHM and working parents. It's just so divisive and, while well-intentioned, I don't think it would add to the supportive environment that we're trying to create on this board. I'm not saying all posts should be baseball and apple pie - I've done my fair share of arguing, but I think this would be head straight downhill, quickly. But I could be wrong. Although, obviously, I could just ignore it, but it would be hard knowing I have a nanny out there. Just my .02.

[Anonymous]

This is 8:23. I just saw the posting about the nanny and it made me cringe (the part about the nanny, not the fact that it was posted). I immediately wanted to bump it. So obviously I feel very torn. It's a hard issue.

[Anonymous]

OP here. The thing that I just thought of is fairness. Since this is anonymous (or can be), anyone can write anything about any nanny out there. Many nannies aren't on computers and won't even know that they have been slandered or accused. Maybe it's not such a hot idea....

[Anonymous]

I think it's a good idea. It takes a village, and I'd like to know that the village is looking out for the welfare of my child.

[Anonymous]

I think it was a good idea.

[jsteele]

We tried this idea and it didn't work out. I don't think we will be doing it again.

[Anonymous]

Jsteele- Do you know if it's legal to publish a photo taken of a nanny in public who is engaged in something dangerous with her charges? People seem to post video of all kinds of people doing all kinds of things on youtube and I doubt they have the person's permission. Could you allow that on this site or would you get sued?

[jsteele]

I am not a lawyer, but my understanding is that a picture of someone in a public place is legal. Otherwise, paparazzi would be getting sued left and right. I would allow such a picture to be posted. It is unlikely that I would get sued. Rather, someone would likely sue "John Doe' and subpoena me for evidence to track down the poster.