using frozen embryos vs. trying naturally- advice?

[Anonymous]

I did IVF to get pregnant last time, but the reasons I needed IVF aren't really applicable now because I fixed them and I am capable of trying on my own. However, I do have several frozen and genetically normal/genetically tested embryos. I am 36, DH is 40. The embryos are from 5 years ago. Is it preferable to use a frozen genetically normal embryo or try naturally? If I got pregnant naturally, I'd probably do CVS, to make sure genetically normal, so either way I would know, but beyond the genetic markers, do other risks increase at age 36 vs. age 31. autism, other delays/birth defects etc.?

[Anonymous]

I don't think there are scientific issues that make one way preferably to another OP, except that if you've already had the frozen blasts tested then perhaps you have a slightly decreased risk of genetic abnormalities.

If I were you I might set a finite time to try on my own, and then move on to using what I had frozen. But there are about a thousand variable that are highly personal so it's hard to answer.

Although, you could time a cycle when you're transferring so that could be helpful...

[Anonymous]

What would your plans be for the embryos you wouldn't use if you got pregnant on your own? Would you be comfortable destroying?

[Anonymous]

I'd go with what's genetically tested. I assume you paid for the testing. You'd kick yourself later if you ended up with a baby with issues that could have been avoided. If anything it may help you avoid a miscarriage which can be awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would your plans be for the embryos you wouldn't use if you got pregnant on your own? Would you be comfortable destroying?

or possibly putting up for embryo adoption if its available?

My only reservation about trying on own would be whether i was tempting fate re: quality of my eggs at 36 since you know you have PGS normal embryos in the bank. Even doing CVS you are not going to know if there are issues until after you are pregnant and then you might be facing another difficult decision. However, i'd also hate to have to foot the bill for FET if I didn't need to. Tough choice. Personally, I'd use the frozen embryos only because having had left over embryos after IVF was difficult for me to deal with emotionally, but for some it's not a big deal at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would your plans be for the embryos you wouldn't use if you got pregnant on your own? Would you be comfortable destroying?

or possibly putting up for embryo adoption if its available?

My only reservation about trying on own would be whether i was tempting fate re: quality of my eggs at 36 since you know you have PGS normal embryos in the bank. Even doing CVS you are not going to know if there are issues until after you are pregnant and then you might be facing another difficult decision. However, i'd also hate to have to foot the bill for FET if I didn't need to. Tough choice. Personally, I'd use the frozen embryos only because having had left over embryos after IVF was difficult for me to deal with emotionally, but for some it's not a big deal at all.

Most people don't want to donate embryos. It means someone else may be having your children. Egg, maybe. Embryo? No. The op isn't asking what to do with embryos besides if she should use them or try naturally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would your plans be for the embryos you wouldn't use if you got pregnant on your own? Would you be comfortable destroying?

or possibly putting up for embryo adoption if its available?

My only reservation about trying on own would be whether i was tempting fate re: quality of my eggs at 36 since you know you have PGS normal embryos in the bank. Even doing CVS you are not going to know if there are issues until after you are pregnant and then you might be facing another difficult decision. However, i'd also hate to have to foot the bill for FET if I didn't need to. Tough choice. Personally, I'd use the frozen embryos only because having had left over embryos after IVF was difficult for me to deal with emotionally, but for some it's not a big deal at all.

Good thing you're not me because I have 19. These are the pgs tested ones! Or maybe it would put things in perspective?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would your plans be for the embryos you wouldn't use if you got pregnant on your own? Would you be comfortable destroying?

or possibly putting up for embryo adoption if its available?

My only reservation about trying on own would be whether i was tempting fate re: quality of my eggs at 36 since you know you have PGS normal embryos in the bank. Even doing CVS you are not going to know if there are issues until after you are pregnant and then you might be facing another difficult decision. However, i'd also hate to have to foot the bill for FET if I didn't need to. Tough choice. Personally, I'd use the frozen embryos only because having had left over embryos after IVF was difficult for me to deal with emotionally, but for some it's not a big deal at all.

Most people don't want to donate embryos. It means someone else may be having your children. Egg, maybe. Embryo? No. The op isn't asking what to do with embryos besides if she should use them or try naturally.

only mentioned because PP asked if she would be OK destroying embryos that could lead to babies ... like person with 19 has to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would your plans be for the embryos you wouldn't use if you got pregnant on your own? Would you be comfortable destroying?

or possibly putting up for embryo adoption if its available?

My only reservation about trying on own would be whether i was tempting fate re: quality of my eggs at 36 since you know you have PGS normal embryos in the bank. Even doing CVS you are not going to know if there are issues until after you are pregnant and then you might be facing another difficult decision. However, i'd also hate to have to foot the bill for FET if I didn't need to. Tough choice. Personally, I'd use the frozen embryos only because having had left over embryos after IVF was difficult for me to deal with emotionally, but for some it's not a big deal at all.

Most people don't want to donate embryos. It means someone else may be having your children. Egg, maybe. Embryo? No. The op isn't asking what to do with embryos besides if she should use them or try naturally.

only mentioned because PP asked if she would be OK destroying embryos that could lead to babies ... like person with 19 has to deal with.

Many women have had embryos "destroyed" (not implanting) and aren't even aware of it. It's really not a big deal and shouldn't affect a normal person's decision over whether to use frozen embryos.

[Anonymous]

oP here: I have more embryos than I plan to use, so unless all but 1 of them failed I would be discarding unused embryos regardless. They don't get discarded they get donated for research. Because my prior ivf didn't work with the first embryo I'm well aware that all embryos don't turn into babies, so even normal ones may still not implant or cause a pregnancy. Cvs tests for same genetic abnormalities as PgS though right? I did CGH array test which does all 23 chromosomes. But other than chromosomes are there other issues a 31 year old embryo would be preferable? I don't mind the cost of FET but the progesterone meds and all that is a pain...

[Anonymous]

Op here: I do have some mixed emotions about the remaining embryos, but nothing religious or too moral. It's a little weird emotionally to think of them, but to me it's not much different than the sperm and egg each month that could have theoretically gotten you pregnant if not for your condom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: I do have some mixed emotions about the remaining embryos, but nothing religious or too moral. It's a little weird emotionally to think of them, but to me it's not much different than the sperm and egg each month that could have theoretically gotten you pregnant if not for your condom

OP: I would disagree with that. I don't think the frozen embryos are the same as the "sperm and egg" that could have gotten one pregnant. They could, but they are not guarantee, and the frozen embryos are one big step away from that. I also assume these blasts are of high grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here: I do have some mixed emotions about the remaining embryos, but nothing religious or too moral. It's a little weird emotionally to think of them, but to me it's not much different than the sperm and egg each month that could have theoretically gotten you pregnant if not for your condom

OP: I would disagree with that. I don't think the frozen embryos are the same as the "sperm and egg" that could have gotten one pregnant. They could, but they are not guarantee, and the frozen embryos are one big step away from that. I also assume these blasts are of high grade.

She already said she will be discarding regardless. Or donating to science. Give it a rest. Not everyone shares your crazy beliefs.

[Anonymous]

Op here: I just mean odds are I will be discarding SOMe regardless. I'm not going to keep putting them in and end up with 8 kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here: I do have some mixed emotions about the remaining embryos, but nothing religious or too moral. It's a little weird emotionally to think of them, but to me it's not much different than the sperm and egg each month that could have theoretically gotten you pregnant if not for your condom

OP: I would disagree with that. I don't think the frozen embryos are the same as the "sperm and egg" that could have gotten one pregnant. They could, but they are not guarantee, and the frozen embryos are one big step away from that. I also assume these blasts are of high grade.

They are still a far far cry from being a child, as many of us on this forum unfortunately realize. I agree with PP that you're being a bit weird pushing your issues onto OP when she didn't even raise the concern.