Anyone else marry a DH from another country?

[Anonymous]

How did you meet? How is the marriage going? What are the best and not-best aspects of your marriage?

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Met in college. Could be better, could be worse. The yelling (voice volume even if not related to an argument) bugs me a lot and could drive me to divorce. But on the plus side, arguments never last more than a day. You have it out and then it is done with no lingering bitterness or passive-aggressiveness.

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Met in a club (lol I know). It's actually pretty good other than this small business of his cheating (in the past, I hope). I'm originally Eastern European and he's Turkish. He's not religious or conservative (which you might expect him to be, given his background), which is great for me. He's easy going and funny and a great dad. Hardworking. I'm not sure what the future holds because I'm not sure he's great at monogamy. But we have a 3 year old and 3 month old so I'm holding off on any rash decisions for now, and I hope that's behind us.

[Anonymous]

Divorced DH from another country. How did it turn out ? Not so good!

[Anonymous]

Met out dancing. Married for 5 years, together for 8. We have 2 little kids so life is a grind but it's going well.

[Anonymous]

remember that your MIL will probably come for months at a time

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MIL and FIL bought an open ended ticket. They were heading home after 9 weeks. And 9 weeks only because I insisted their time was due. They wanted 4-6 months. Now, it's no more than 2 weeks. Seriously, fish stinks after 3 days. Or so we Americans think, anyway.

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Met doing a mutually enjoyed activity/ hobby.

Our communication styles are a little different, and he's very... Regimented?, and I always tease him because it's because of his ethnicity (it's kind of a stereotype, but its also just who he is). That being said, that same thing means he's super organized and really great at planning and I'm neither, so it's a really good trade off.

His parents and I don't really mesh, but not in one of those clashing ways that is all consuming or super negative. We get along just fine, but it's not really a relationship that flows, if that makes any sense. I'm just "too much" for them, and I don't really find them warm or open. That being said, they are very kind and generous, and DH adores them, they are loving grandparents, and that's enough for me.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he's British and we met on a plane. Now we live in a third country for work. It is great between us, but I don't think there is much of a cultural divide between our countries anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did you meet? How is the marriage going? What are the best and not-best aspects of your marriage?

We met in another country but are in the US now for work. It's going well but not without its problems. We're only a few years in, so ask me again in 10 years LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:Met in a club (lol I know). It's actually pretty good other than this small business of his cheating (in the past, I hope). I'm originally Eastern European and he's Turkish. He's not religious or conservative (which you might expect him to be, given his background), which is great for me. He's easy going and funny and a great dad. Hardworking. I'm not sure what the future holds because I'm not sure he's great at monogamy. But we have a 3 year old and 3 month old so I'm holding off on any rash decisions for now, and I hope that's behind us.

I'm this poster. I forgot to mention that any cross cultural issues mostly come up with his mother, and mostly in the parenting area. She's obsessed with wind and drafts and such. Drives me nuts. It's either too hot or too cold for baby. My colostrum doesn't look right. I'm "suffocating" the baby with my breast so she has to come in my personal space and actually push on my breast. When my 3 yr has a stomach bug she starts making her weird teas without asking me etc. I can handle her but just wanted to point out that families can be more trouble than the partner.

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Yeah, I married an American. Yikes. But he's nice.

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Met at work here in the US. His parents have come over every couple of years, and they do stay for a month. That's the only big con. Other than that, it's pretty great. My parents are immigrants. So, we have three cultures, sort of, in our house. It works for us because both of us are very open to other cultures; we both love to travel and experience new cultures. There are somethings about my culture he doesn't like, and vice versa. But, it's never caused big fights. Married 10+ yrs with 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

We met when I was working in London. He's British. We have 3 kids (all dual-citizens) and have been married 12 years. No issues other than we'd like all of our family (mine and his) to live closer to us. In the 12 years we've been married, we lived in London, Dubai, San Fran, NYC and DC. I've become a trailing spouse so to speak and as a result, my career is different than the one I thought I'd have. Chances are we will move back to London in the next 5 years or so. I love that we've been able to show our kids the world and that they will have so many options as to where they want to study, work and live.

[Anonymous]

I found american men and dating to be very odd when I worked in DC. When i moved back to Denmark, I met another odd american, who seemed to adjust very easily to danish women and dating norms (but not much else) and eventually married him, because he was a free spirit, which is not the norm, here.