Have you ever tried to get someone to break up with you?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever tried to get someone to break up with you instead of breaking up with them? Does this happen? I think it might be happening to me, but then I wonder if I'm being paranoid. He never has time to see me, but when I talk about seeing other people he doesn't like it. If he didn't want to see me anymore why wouldn't he just say so?

[Anonymous]

Men do it all the time. Sounds like he's stringing you along. If you're not happy with the amount of time he has for you, then move on. It doesn't sound like he's all that into you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men do it all the time. Sounds like he's stringing you along. If you're not happy with the amount of time he has for you, then move on. It doesn't sound like he's all that into you.

I concur.

Men are weird in the sense that they don't really actively give a rats ass about you, yet balk at just the idea of you w/some other guy.

It creates a false sense of security for women thinking the guy must like them, however nothing could be further from the truth.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's not trying to get you to break up with him, but just trying to see where the boundaries are for him to keep you on a string so he can see you when he feels like it but ignore you when he doesn't.

If he's not into you, break up and find someone who is.

Don't make your decision based on what you think he does or does not want you to do. Base it on what works for you.

[Anonymous]

OP, this is a red flag you should not ignore. He is controlling: doesn't have time for you, but doesn't like that you aren't jumping at spending time with him. Trying to manipulate, too. Let me guess, he comes up with romantic-sounding reasons why he feels this way, right?

Do yourself a favor don't spend another second with him ever again.

[Anonymous]

No, but I've treated someone like shit once I started resenting him. Didn't break up with him because I needed his muscles to help me move and literally the day after sat him down and told him off.

Either way, if someone is being distant or rude to you, break up with them.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it does not work well. Better to just say, "no more and goodbye".

[Anonymous]

Guys do this all the time. Some of them hate to deal with a crying girlfriend, some of them just hate confrontation.

Say your piece to him. "You're my boyfriend, but I never see you. I feel like someone who wanted to be with me would actually make time for me. I think we should take some time apart, or see other people."

See what he says. If he wants to keep the status quo, end it. Date others.

[Anonymous]

It's a cowardly thing to do but it's not that uncommon.

[Anonymous]

When I was much younger I tried to do this to the guy I was seeing. I didn't have the balls to break it off so I acted like a complete jerk hoping he'd get sick of me. I finally gave in, did the adult thing and broke up with him myself. Not proud of my behavior.

[Anonymous]

Ever be passive and get someone to break up w you?

Like in middle school or something? Man up!

[Anonymous]

I realized that was what I was doing after the fact. I was a terror. Argued every day, cheated etc... I saw several friends do the same and I knew they wanted him to break up with her, one cheated for the first time in a 5 year relationship and left clues. It happens. If the other person can't take it anymore and isn't even aware of their own feelings and how urgent they are, and of course they aren't strong and honest enough to tell that person directly they don't want to be with them any longer.

[Anonymous]

Whether they're trying to get you to break it off, or just being a bad partner - neither scenario is good and both mean you need to get out.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have and in retrospect not proud of it.

Had a girlfriend when we were both in our early 20's. I liked her for the first couple of months but she really started to get on my nerves. She was very passive aggressive, snarky and was getting worse by the week. She had brought up in the past that she would be willing to try a 3-way if we could have one with a guy after trying one with a girl. I was not all that interested in either but certainly not a Devils Threeway so I passed on the offer.

Knowing that this relationship was going nowhere I re approached her about it. She was excited about it and was able to setup something with an old college friend of hers. We did it [it was OK but frankly not my cup of tea] and I broke it off with her less than a week later. She even asked if we could have a three-way with another friend of hers first? U'm no!

I was an asshole!

[Anonymous]

Yea. Sounds EXACTLY like what my boyfriend just did to me. Needless to say he finally dumped me when I wouldn't let go.